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Posted: 5/4/2008 5:21:40 PM | I have been dating this guy for about 6 months the last two months he has been going back and forth. He told me he does not think that this is it and that he does not think about a future with me. He has also told me that he thinks that if he was going to fall in love me it would have happened already, he says that the thought of me with someone else does not both him. He says he wants to break up but everytime he does he starts calling within three days saying that he is not sure if he is making a mistake. I do care about him he is a great guy, I am comfortable with him, have fun with him but don't know if I want to continue dating someone just for the sake of dating. If he said he wasn't sure if things would go anywhere I would be fine because right now I am not sure either but its that he is saying that he doesn't think it will. I don't know if I should just end it and start avoiding his calls or continue dating him and hope that one day he changes his mind. Oh I am also his first girlfriend and he is 28.
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Posted: 5/4/2008 6:25:15 PM | | He sould like a teen not someone 28. He need to play the field some before he can set his sites on the one. So kick him to the curb and keep looking. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 6:29:45 PM | | He has warned you it's not going to work in lots of different ways, but he obviously doesn't like being on his own and keeps contacting you. I don't think he'll change his mind. He'll probably hang around until someone else comes along whom he is sure about. Really, you need to decide whether a dead-end relationship is what you want. Don't you think you deserve someone who does think this is 'it' and thinks about a future with you? Someone who knows he has fallen for you and wants you all to himself? That's what it should be like. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:37:13 PM |
Don't you think you deserve someone who does think this is 'it' and thinks about a future with you? Someone who knows he has fallen for you and wants you all to himself? That's what it should be like.
I will second this response.
I do care about him he is a great guy, I am comfortable with him, have fun with him but don't know if I want to continue dating someone just for the sake of dating.
Figure out what you want first. If you don't want more than to just "date" - then let him know what you are looking for and then stop answering his calls.
Don't sell yourself short. If you want to date, then date. Don't put yourself in a situation where the two of you aren't looking for the same thing. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:45:51 PM | | This guy is just playing games. Don't bother with him. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:53:50 PM | | he just want the xes=sex | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:57:04 PM | | Jie Pie....BINGO!!! He's a user, and users are losers..... | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 8:31:42 AM | this guy clearly is just playing games with you and you are helping him by responding to his bull. i wouldn't answer his calls and would make up his mind for him about whether we would have a future together or not because i would dump the loser. as another poster stated he is very immature and acts like a 16 year old who doesn't know whether they want a burger or pizza to eat for lunch.....tell him to grow up and you need to find someone who isn't so silly. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 8:49:18 AM | | Sportgal99 I had the same problem except in my case he asked me to marry him even though he had the same confused thoughts as your bf. Sorry to say we didn't even last 2 months married he cheated and he thought his mistress was "the one" which of course that didn't last and he tried to come back. I think when someone really cares about you they don't need 3 years to be dating you or asking you to move in with them. All a guy really needs is 6 months to know if you are the one they want to be with. When guys want to get married and they really love you, you don't even need to move a finger it all falls into place I've seen it happen in all my families marriages I was just to stubborn and wanted to make my relationship work I think he just wants to have a gf when he feels bad or wants one. You shouldn't have to put up with someone that wants give only scraps of affection you deserve someone's entire heart and affection. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 8:56:35 AM | Well he is being honest with you so i dont see how this fella is playing games with you
Look at the pros here, you enjoy being with him, he brings some sort of happiness in your life, hes honest and upfront with you and tells you exactly the way he feels so correct me if im wrong here but i think those are honourable traits
Do what makes you happy, you could be with far worse, if you want to continue the relationship on a day to day basis and just enjoy it while it lasts then great, if you dont then breakup. | |
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