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Posted: 5/5/2008 2:39:34 AM |  well here is a dilema,this man im considering meeting for dinner monday nite,seems very nice ,intelligent ,and all,but,,,,,,,, he cant stand blacks and cant stand mexicans and made it clear in jokes i told him i dint like that and he goes on to say well there is a diff in black s and (n)word,i said look i know there are bad in all races and all good in all races,but please that kinda of negative talk has nothing to do with meeting me,so he appoligize,i just feel that maby its not a good idea to meet this person,an he is 47 im 41 and seems a lil bossy went on to ask how do i wear my hair how much makeup i wear the brand of it, and then says he is set in his ways on when he orders food,he makes a point of letting the staff know how he feels,im already so turned off by this,that in my gut,i feel that maby its best i do not persue this,i feel since i have excepted his invite i must go and meet him,but i dont want to meet for dinner as i dont want any one paying for anything for me,im thinking since we both like coffee mabey meet for that and see what happens, and omg he kept on bugging me saying,i think you should date a plumber said it like 7 itmes,im already fed up, | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 4:30:54 AM | Dear Lady in Alabama, Now I say this with the utmost sincerity...HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND? LOL just kidding, but seriously....
Please grab yourself a cup of lava and get comfy in your favourite chair and read again the post that you wrote. Try reading it as if someone else had wrote it. What would your thoughts be?
I was going to start quoting you, but I would need to quote practically every word you have written.
A dilemma? I think not. I think it is pretty cut and dry.
RUN FOREST, RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think you have answered your own question. When you have not even met the guy yet, and you are able to use the words "I am so turned off" "seems a little bossy" "maybe it's not a good idea to meet him" and "I'm already fed up" when speaking about him...this is not just little warning lights going off. This is full on Festival of Lights, IMAX, HD, neon pink, Fourth of July, strobing right in front of your house type of warning lights! Not to mention the fact that he is apparently a racist ignorant jackass.
And you ABSOLUTELY DO NOT HAVE TO GO. I assume you accepted the invite before he had shown you his "colourful" personality. Well, you did not agree to go out with a pig. Anyways, you don't owe him an explanation, or anything else for that matter. You've never even met him. If he thinks you are rude, well perfect...then at least the feeling will be mutual between the two of you.
But if you are determined to offer an explanation: May I suggest the following...
Oh, yeah...about our date. I can't make it. This guy named Leroy that I used to date a while back is coming from Jamaica to see me! He had a fabulous idea for us to take off to Mexico for the weekend! I absolutely can't wait!!!
That should do it. I think Mr. Wonderful would leave you alone after that.
P.S I don't get the plumber connection? am I just being a little slow on the uptake?
The only connection i can see is that a plumber pumps what this guy talks.
Let me know how this all turns out please!! Good Luck. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 4:38:53 AM | One more thing...if you do decide to do the unthinkable and go to meet him for coffee....PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, bring along a little bottle of Visine with you,
Stick a couple of drops in his coffee. That way he can spew his crap from both ends,
If you won't do it for yourself, then I am begging you...DO IT FOR ME!! (I'll even reimburse you the cost of the Visine!
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Posted: 5/7/2008 8:55:44 PM | | He sounds controlling and insecure, you nor does anyone else need that in their life. Don't go and tell him to crawl back under his rock! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:00:29 PM | | I think Candipants put it best She was being a little more harsh then I would hope a lady would be but she is in all right with everything she said. If your gut instincts are telling you no then by all means obey them. I know that hurting guys is not what most woman like to do but in the long run he will get over it and you will be better off then knowing that you are wasting your time going to meet someone you really don't want to meet or hurt his feelings. Well that is the way I have understood the message. Have a great day | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 8:21:07 AM | well i met him for dinner an i was not pleased at all,so from now on im following my gut feeling on this thank you all for your reply | |
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Posted: 8/7/2008 1:07:08 PM | | as scary as it sounds, i think i met him, too; except he was smart enough not to voice his opinions until towards the end of our first, last and only date... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2008 4:08:32 PM | | I've been to the point that I would meet anyone just to have someone to talk to and be out of the house...but if you've got options then why put yourself through it! I'm a decent looking, well educated, and sometimes over confident man but I've gone out to meet some really rough looking women. Fortunately I don't go out with a woman just for sex or looking to get married. I sometimes go out for dinner or go places just because I'm interested in them as a person. Despite what lots of women tell me that I do... I don't go out with a lot of women.. I do go out with quite a few friends who happen to be women. So, there is a difference. I definitely try to become friends online first and after that everything else is easy. If some woman was giving me a hard time or being very disagreeable I wouldn't bother regardless of how fine she looks or how much I don't want to be alone. I can stay at home and be miserable by myself..so, what's the point? | |
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