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Posted: 5/5/2008 10:47:40 AM | i wasnt really into this from the begining
i just wanted to say that im not a fan of online dating alittle odd not for some i guess well anways im deleting my account
so have a good one peoples | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:13:05 PM | i agree, i am getting outta here pretty soon myself.
it is like window shopping, everyone likes to look but that is about it. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 6:42:26 PM | I hear what you are saying, it appears that there are alot of things going on here that are done on a whim.
You had more options to have on your profile display, now they decide for you. I.E forum posts.
They want you to report when there is someone bad mouthing and using a persons name and its ignored, never even read.
I guess its all about the money as usual.
Hits = money from advertisers.
They offer a selection to block people for certain activites and then provide those services here, whats up with that.
Its also apparent that key strokes are logged and after you view some one, they are all of a sudden your match. LOL.
Time to take this thing off autopilot and listen to the people. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:46:29 PM | I agree with you Gearset, and will take it even further. This site, while a great idea in theory is flawed in excecution. The high school mentality foolishness is ridiculous (rate my picture---go to my space or hot or not) too many people not at all serious about dating, hey if you are only here for the forums or friends, great, delete your pics (or do your friends have to be hot too?) and put that in your profile so we don't waste time on you. And the whole favorites thing is demeaning to us less fortunate in the looks department, but also makes those who are very sexy, yet serious about finding someone almost inapproachable (who wants to be in competition with potentially 100-1000 other people), it's not a popularity contest it's a dating site. I see way too many people say they have never even spoken to 5% of people on their favorite list, so why not make that only available to those who have spoken/dated (they can ferret out weather you've messaged people for sex encounters, why not something on this feature too). Same with the testimonial lunkheads who go around slapping the gorgeous dollar sign tags on everyone. I guess they figure we can't see for ourselves.
Sorry just lost my mind. Everything's perfect here. Continue the popularity contest. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 4:59:35 PM | | I understand what your saying. I'm fixin to put my profile back in hiding again. About the only reason i stay here is because of the forums. I do like a good debate. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 5:00:00 PM | It's free.
And people complain. Ah , God...
It is what we make it.
If something comes of it , wonderful. It works.
If nothing comes of it...it was free. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 5:05:42 PM | | Yeah, it's free, but they are continually trying to make it better. The site owner(s) are making money (or they wouldn't be doing it). So why not try to offer suggestions on making it better. That's how it becomes what you make it. If they would make more as another rate me site, fine, eliminate the dating. We all know it's about the almighty dollar. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2008 5:49:49 PM | I have to admit there are things about this site i don't like. But true, It is free. So as for me i will do as i have always done. While i am here i will have a good time on the forums and if anything works out while i am here then that will be icing on the cake. But, If it don't work out anything i haven't lost anything. At least maybe i will gain a friend or two along the way. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:17:27 AM | All this site really is good for is a laugh, although i do contact women and plenty respond, about 5% of the women are willing to meet, while the other 95% who respond are just playing around.
I message women who are looking for someone down to earth, doenst lie, etc... and even if i show them that i am not a liar and am down to earth, have a great job and personality, because im not a brad pitt look-a-like i get no replies. Ive taken suggestions from people on this forum and put alot in my profile, alot of pics and descriptions about me, yet it really isnt enough. There is no formula for impressing a women except being a hot guy. Us average guys are pretty well the last on their lists, and thats why alot of womens profile have the quote "no players please"; fact is their too busy messaging players who are cute and got no profile, instead of guys who actually put effort into their profile and are good people.
I find people on here shallow for the most part, and im quite tired of it.
I have met a few wonderful women and it didnt work out, they say if it doesnt work out lets be friends, but lets be real for a minute here....that never happens! Although their is good intentions to be friends if the date has no sparks, the reality of it is they slowly phase you out until your ignored completely. Like i said they say one thing, yet do another.
Im sure guys do the same thing back to women...its sad that honor/respect does not exist today and the only reason to have someone of the opposite sex around is merely for sex, or relationships, otherwise people dont see the point in making friends with the opposite sex.
Fact is this world has become shallow, and bitter for the most part and im about to join them, because trying to beat them seems futile.
Ill hold out a little longer and i wont let a few experiences ruin my time here, but, if any women read this i got one thing to say to you all:
"Just be yourself, go for what you want, and stop being afraid to tell the truth. If you truely respect people, its the LEAST you can do and it will serve your/our purpose here better."
If all you do is BS through your profile, how does that make you different then any player you dated?
Flame me if you wish, hate my remarks, call me a craphead, i can handle it, just dont lie to me. Its more then a pet peeve of mine.... | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:28:17 AM | Good post IrishLad
I have no problem with the site, after all it is free. it is the people, it is always the people, not the site.
I had a serious profile, but i changed that and now i am down to emailing just a few people on here that are nice and friendly to talk to.
it goes back to those people on here that did an experiment. they put up a supermodel picture of a guy and they got emails by the hundreds.
also, girls could do the same thing with the same result no doubt.
people should at least respond saying "i want nothing to do with you"
i rather have that than no reply at all. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:34:25 AM | | Wah! Wah! Wah! Quit your whining, if you don't like it here, just leave! No one gives a rat's ass whether you stay or not! The rest of us will stay and enjoy the free site and take from it what it has to offer......no more no less......... | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:35:02 AM | There is no formula for impressing a women except being a hot guy.
That brings two quotes to mind...
"Them that know , know that they know.
Them that don't know , they don't know they don't know"
-Bonnie Raitt
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"It is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt."
- unknown
Honesty and integrity impresses women because it's becoming more and more of a rarity.
Of course in a WHOLE LOT of instances it's the "hotness" that gets you the chance to display your honesty and integrity , lol | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 5:01:34 PM | | I agree with you bubbyno5, they looks and that's all they do. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 5:21:43 PM | | My profile is hidden, I post to the profiles but I do check out the local profiles in search. At this point, I don't care one way or the other if I find someone, but then, I have already married and had my family. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 5:51:44 PM | tomollie...damn straight!
to the whiners...
Give me a break.
There are no guarantees...the site is fun...people get out of it what they put into it! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 5:53:42 PM | You know kiddo ~ there are guys who do the same thing...they want hot women only.
So what?....let them have the hot people!
We each have our own idea of hot...thats for sure!
You need to look at what you might be doing wrong as well. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:14:15 PM | yaaaaaaaawn....quit the whining! If you find this site isn't for you, go join a paid one....won't be much different. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:33:48 PM | I don't know that this isn't for me but I do get tired of getting on here, finding someone who sounds (and looks) interesting from my age group (I'm not chasing 20 somethings) and sending them an e-mail just to get the good old Read Deleted with no reply of yes, no, maybe later, go to hell....
Are we all shallow to a point? Sure, we all are whether we willl admit it or not....
I'm not the best catch in this pond but I'm not a bad one either.... | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:35:40 PM | Some of you should really be honest. You love these whinning threads. Otherwise you wouldn't read them and post replies (and for some these are the only posts they reply to with their holier than thou comments).
Last resort, I agree about the paid sites although I'd never pay for one after all the bad press they get. But I was just stating facts about this place. I do like it, I've met great people here, and yes I've had a couple dates, but what is it, a dating site or a popularity contest? I just don't get that part, if it's supposed to be a serious dating site, why do some of the features sabotage it? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 7:42:36 PM | | Well, I am going to be plain, straight & honest here. When you get right down to it there is only one thing that bothers me about this site. That's the nutty people. If a lady wants to talk to me that is fine. I will talk to her with respect. If she doesn't that's OK to. I will still treat her with respect and move on. But the nutty ones, Those are the one i wish POF would screen out. I know they can't catch all of them. But i wish they would try. Same goes with the cam girls that sometimes contact me. They try to get you hooked in talking to them then they try to get you to pay to watch there cam show. I ain't here for that. Besides that, Nothing else bothers me about this site. I have had a lot of fun here myself. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 7:56:48 PM | In a way I understand the sentiment. No one likes to be rejected!
But isn't it just the Ego throwing it's little hissy fit, I'll show them all,
I'm leaving! You see it here, all the time!
What's the harm in staying? | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 12:08:09 AM | This site is cool and free. I made like 6 different profiles. All the ladys write and meet me. It's how you fix your profile and it takes time.  | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 1:06:54 AM | It's funny watching all you guys complain about the superficialness of women! To watch men complain about women only responding to men who are good looking, is comical to me, welcome to our world boys! Multiply that by 1,000 and you have an average day for a woman!
I wonder how many NON-Angelina Jolie look alikes all you NON Brad Pitt look alikes' approached. What's good for the goose and all that... Thing is, I have met a couple of great guys online -- looks and money didn't matter to me ... but as in life, finding a match takes time and is a rare find. Even if she says she wants an honest, loyal, good man -- and you are one -- doesn't mean there is going to be a connection there. Attraction is a bit of a mystery, you need to not take it so personally. I bet there were more then a few women who approached you on here that you didn't meet, or even respond to... based on the picture... so don't be hypocritical! 
I agree with the "Free" comment above but also will add that when you think of the alternatives in meeting someone, bars and etc, then this online this is a great step in a new direction and more looking always results in more results. They don't call it searching for Mr/Mrs right for nothing -- searching is work. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 1:12:28 AM | | Sometimes the problem is just that the really cool women live in frickin' Nova Scotia :-P *g* | |
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