| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:02:34 PM | | Since we've covered the issue of whether or not to date someone who regularly smokes pot, I was wondering how everyone felt about dating someone that was on an antidepressant or antianxiety pill. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:04:39 PM | Being treated for depression and other mental health problems is pretty common in our society. What I would ask myself is: Would dating this person make *me* need to be on antidepressants?  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:12:38 PM |
Being treated for depression and other mental health problems is pretty common in our society. What I would ask myself is: Would dating this person make *me* need to be on antidepressants?
Funny and appropriate response...
In the past depression, especially in men, was considered to be a sign of weakness and/or mental instability. We now know that it is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. I don't think depression is anymore wide spread today then in the past. It is simply that people have recognized that it is a medical condition, and the horrible stigma once associated with it has eroded. Asking people if they would date someone on antidepressants,aka, a depressed person, is akin to asking if you would date someone with an ulcer.
No offense intended... | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:18:08 PM | | I think it shouldn't be a question of why are they on antidepressants and more about what else are they taking? Depression is pretty common at this point with the way this world is going. Some kids even find that being depressed is cool, why I don't know. But the fact that someone is on antidepressants should be a warning sign to some. Just going by my own history though. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:35:22 PM | If I got to know the woman, and she was someone I truly thought was wonderful, then yes, I'd date her.
I've been with women on anti-depressants before. Yes, there can be some very difficult moments at times. But just as many opportunities for joy and bliss.
I've been with someone who had clinical depression. And at times... she'd completely fall apart. But I was always there by her side. Always doing what I could to help her through the rough patches.
And when the meds were working as they should... well, happiness like that is a rare thing indeed. And I am blessed to have had that chance to enjoy it with her.
And as said... I'm more likely to date the person on anti-depressants, than the one who's suffering from depression but refuses to get the help they need. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:36:33 PM |
I'd be more inclined to date someone who's on an anti-depressant versus the one who should be on them but refuses to seek help.
I agree with this. If they are taking their meds than it shows they are aware of the problem and they are mature enough to do something about it. My ex wife was severly depressed and to this day she hase never been treated for it. Life isn't very fun for the people that have to live with some one that won't seek help. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:38:10 PM | Sure. antidepressants, antianxiety, etc not a big deal to me.
Again, it is the person's functioning level that I care about, not what's in their medicine cabinet. Just like blood pressure meds...if they keep the person healthy, it's all good.
Anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds are so common nowadays...what with all the societal pressures on us.
You question if you'd date someone on them...I"m betting you already have. I am part of a "mom's group" and at one of our little parties, the subject came up and I bet 5 of the 12 of us had been on them at one time, or currently were, or had a script they never filled. I was shocked, to say the least...mainly b/c all of my friends seem very high functioning, happy, with perfect little lives.
And my awesome nurse practitioner, she was on one. Pretty sure guys here would date her if they met her (if she's unmarried).
Now, an anti-psychotic...I'd be a bit more hesitant there.
Kaylie | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:44:46 PM | They would make me run for the hills.
My ex was on them. That was fine. But anytime they tweaked her dose, or she forgot take them, I was in for Mr. Toad's wild ride.
No thank you. I have become of the OPINION that they mostly just mask stuff, not solve the problem. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:45:11 PM | Depends on why they are on the psych meds. If they really have a diagnosed chemical imbalance I would regard it no differently than someone on medication for any illness. So long as I can deal with the effects of the illness itself (whatever degree the meds don't alleviate) then I have no problem with the overall situation.
But I think a lot of people get into anti-depressants when they are really just going through the normal emotional cycles of life, cycles that are supposed to be stimuli for further growth and maturation. The meds instead cloak the pain that is meant to send us a very clear message that something is wrong in our lives and that we need to make changes if we are going to get back on track before it is too late. Who wants to end up on their death bed and only then realize they never lived a life true to themselves? I think a measure of depression descends upon people during pivotal life phases and it is better for the person to fully engage that and find a deeper meaning in life than to just supress the signals with meds. I would not be happy with any of the "ignorance is bliss" crowd, particularly when it comes to ignorance in the realm of self-knowledge. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:46:39 PM | Hmmm thats interesting.
I've dated a few men that didnt like the fact that I was on antidepressants. They thought that the medication changed me into someone else. A fake me. The funny thing is they didnt know me before I was on the medication. They just kinda ruled me out as a nut/pill popper.
I have recently weened myself off of medication because I just dont want to be dependent on anything to make me feel normal. I dont want to have to ever freak out about my prescription running out again. I dont want to take a pill to cure my "i just dont quite fit in" feelings. In a strange way thats something I cherish and want to work though without being in a medicated haze.
In my opinion the only time I might worry about dating someone on meds is if they were bipolar or heard voices and were on lithium or something.
I feel that some people do need to be medicated to be a normal functioning person in society. But with others depression or anxiety is a normal part of life and properly dealing with and recognizing those feelings is the key to getting through it. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:49:44 PM |
I'd be more inclined to date someone who's on an anti-depressant versus the one who should be on them but refuses to seek help.
You do have a very good point there | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:53:48 PM | | ...another thing....most of these drugs such as paxil and zoloft have not been around for very long so you really dont know the long term affects they have on someone. Thats something that always concerns me when a new medication comes out. Sure they make you feel fine and dandy today but whats going to happen 20 years from now when you decide you dont want to take the drug anymore? Will you become a zombie without the drug? Will it deform your kidneys or something??? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:55:54 PM | Agree totally with Mustang065 response.
And with the stigma attached these days, to any mental illness, probably people you know are on them, and you wouldn't know the difference.
What a rediculous question! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 12:56:51 PM | I'm on a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor for social anxiety disorder and I occassionally wonder what I would do if I started dating someone. I mean should I be honest and tell them about my situation even if it scares them away? Or should I keep it to myself and hope they never find out.
Of course such thinking is academic as a side effect of the medication is that I have zero sex drive and am only interested in women as friends. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:07:49 PM | Thanks, Mustang (and Adam, as well as others) for an excellent post. As another poster pointed out, it's not "would you date someone who is on anti-depressants" but rather "how many people have you already dated who have been on anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medication"?
Another great point was made, too, that I'd much rather date someone who was dealing responsibly with a medical condition, and thereby improving the quality of their life, than someone who was in denial and refused to take medication. Would any of us like to date someone with diabetes who could live a very high-functioning, normal life if only they would take their medication?
As for the question posed on when to tell a potential partner that you are on such medication, I'd say openness is always a reward unto itself, though I can't imagine it would be anyone's business unless you're getting serious with someone, contemplating exclusivity and/or a longer future together than just casual dating. Follow your instincts. If you meet someone who has a real phobia about their partner being on these types of medications, you can save yourself a lot of heartache by being open and honest with them before you yourself get attached. On the other hand, someone who's not thought about the issue, it might scare them a bit if you bring up such a personal medical/health issue too early in your friendship. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:32:12 PM | I am dating a woman going on 7 months, and she is on antidepressant drug called "Lexapro". She told me from the start that she was on it. I had my doubts about continuing the relationship, but I tell y'all now. I am glad I gave it a chance. Yes there have been a few rough moments, but doesn't everyone have a few? I agree with what was said earlier in the post
I'd much rather date someone who was dealing responsibly with a medical condition, and thereby improving the quality of their life, than someone who was in denial and refused to take medication. point very well made.
Also "Locario" you posed a question of a similar nature
Would any of us like to date someone with diabetes who could live a very high-functioning, normal life if only they would take their medication? I am a type 2 diabetic. I do not take drugs for it. Mine is diet controlled. No I am not the best at keeping it in check all the time.. kind of like being a Christian, I back slide on occasions. But I am aware of my condition, I don't hide it and I know what I can and cannot eat, drink, do, to maintain a good healthy life style. I have never been turned down because of my condition either. It's all a part of life, it all boils down to this... What can "you" tolerate in your life to accommodate a potential mate. Can you deal with their drama? If not, move on to the next pond. Every one has some form of drama in their life. It's finding a way to mesh your lives together that we all are seeking...isn't it?
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:35:11 PM | well in this life there are very few people that have nothing wrong with them !!
Be it takeing antidepressants, on drug's of some sort, being an alcoholic, being crule and uncareing, haveing an STD, or just being a nasty self centred type in general !!!
Maybe it is best to take as we find ! and if the problem that your date has is more than you can cope with just move on ?
I would say that being on antidepressants is one of the lesser problems that most people have these days !! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:43:05 PM | | alot of people taking anitdepressants end up comitting suicide. it has happend over and over and over. it also happend to my ex husband 4 months ago. so no i would not. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:47:20 PM | | One person can NOT make another clinically depressed. If you couldn't handle the ups and downs,then you ought not date that person,but to say that you might be clinically depressed if you date that person is completely incorrect. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 2:46:46 PM | | I wouldn't have any problem with it as long as the medication was having its intended effects and things were on an even keel. Lots of people are on such medication and it has helped them tremendously. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 2:52:58 PM | i could and have....
cause i have my own mental health issues witch i choose not to discuss on here.... but i have them and it causes a lot of problems for me in the relationship end of things....me personally i am anti medication and shrinks so i will never take a "happy pill"...but i know many who have resorted to that level to cope with there problems
if they have a true mental illness chances are we will click real well since we're both just as screwed mentally
and i would never trust another anti depressant ever again cause all they do is sugar coat the real problem and once your of it you don't know what to do with yourself or you kill yourself cause the medication made you feel like sh!t in the end!!!
has anyone ever noticed how worse ppl get each time they go on a anti depressant or when the dose goes up???
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