| Profile pictures with CHILDREN!!!!
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:23:28 PM | | I don't get it. I am looking through the guys profiles and ALOT of them have children in the pictures. Am I the only one that feels that you SHOULD NOT have a child in the picture - no matter if its your child or someone elses? | |
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| Profile pictures with CHILDREN!!!!
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:50:47 PM | YES YES YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I so agree, i am vry pro protecting children's ID
Indeed i had a msg only tonight - a guy wi his daughter, and would you believe his msg sed tom me.... ''gr8 pix U remind me oF my daughter
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elieve it well tired now - thrash this one out tomo | |
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| Profile pictures with CHILDREN!!!!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:21:05 PM | Yes, I agree. People [men and women] should be alittle smarter on here. In these crazy times we live in, should never put our children on here for a world of strangers to see. Come on read the papers, watch the news people....Bad crap happens all the time!!! wake up! Be aware of the world around you...  | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 6:44:23 PM | I can understand posting pictures of your kids in a protected setting, but certainly not on a dating site, particularly one where your profiles are accessible by those without accounts.
Any anyone who uses phone txt shorthand anywhere needs serious help. That they compare an adult woman to their child is plain creepy. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:45:08 PM | On a dating site. I think children picture's should just be left out. Why can't they just word it say they are kid friendly. Open minded about it. Instead of posting pictures of anyone kids? Isn't that what m.y.s.p.a.c.e. is for!!! Since you have that option set as private! Family and friend's and all the above? Where this is a dating site. And should use words to express! Even though most people on this site. Have kids and aren't even honest about that one as well!!!!!
Phone text? wtf? This is 2008 get over it LoL Opps was that shorthand?  | |
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| Profile pictures with CHILDREN!!!!
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:57:02 PM | Children should not be posted on these sites.
If two people connect then they can send pictures of their children.
We are here to meet someone and we write a profile about ourself; not one about ourself and our children.
Leave the pics of the kids out. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 1:31:56 PM | | I don't understand. I put my kids pictures up for a while (no longer there) and my intention was to show that I am real and I do love my kids, enough to be proud of them and show them to any interested woman. Why was that so wrong? I certainly did not want to look creepy in any way. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 5:01:36 AM | Save the kiddie pics for your my space account in a private folder that only limited people can view. Why is it wrong? It's less about wrong than family security. If there were no such things as identity theft or pedophiles it would be far more acceptable. Since we don't live in a perfect world, protecting your children is more important than trying to show people that you care. You actually show MORE caring by not USING them to attempt to attract a mate IMO.
Yeah, I love my kid, but you won't find a picture of her on a dating site, that's for darn sure! | |
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| Profile pictures with CHILDREN!!!!
Posted: 7/21/2008 3:28:18 PM |
We are here to meet someone and we write a profile about ourself; not one about ourself and our children.
I would have to disagree,, My son is a big part of who I am,, therefore,, a woman should know that from the get go,, and not latter on...
I don't use my son to attract woman,, but I would rather say,, my son is a extension of me,, and we, together are a team ,, and have fun,, that should be part of a profile,, an expression of who we are...
Children meet strangers everyday,,, it's one thing to expose our children to the world or the Internet,, (in bad taste) but here,, I protect my son,, both in the real world and the world of the Internet,, Matter of fact it's safer here than the real world,, in my opinion.. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 1:22:04 PM | rdcnorm,
First, You are using your son to attract women. That's sad.
She's not going to date your son...she's going to date you. Her maternal instincts will take over if she's a good person.
Second, with over 125 people who put you on your favorites, how many of them are not men? You don't know that. Stalking is still alive and well. People think children that are snatched from their homes are random acts...often they have been watched for some time and are known to the parents at some point.
You are putting your son in danger by exposing him on a dating site .
It's inappropriate. Boys get abused and kidnapped as much as girls do.
Children have no place on a dating site. I've been a single mom for over 17 years...mine is grown now, but I NEVER posted a picture of her on a dating site. I speak from experience. My child's welfare was more important than getting attention.
Nuff said! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 3:26:52 PM |
I would have to disagree,, My son is a big part of who I am,, therefore,, a woman should know that from the get go,, and not latter on...
I don't use my son to attract woman,, but I would rather say,, my son is a extension of me,, and we, together are a team ,, and have fun,, that should be part of a profile,, an expression of who we are...
Children meet strangers everyday,,, it's one thing to expose our children to the world or the Internet,, (in bad taste) but here,, I protect my son,, both in the real world and the world of the Internet,, Matter of fact it's safer here than the real world,, in my opinion..
Why not just get a puppy and take a picture with it? Women dig cute animals right? So if you happen to be in the picture with one maybe they'll look again and think you're an animal lover, right?
My Daughter is VERY much an important part of my life. To use HER as an attraction would be wrong, period, end of story. It's a morals issue. If a woman is interested in me, I will bring up my Daughter and feel them out on kids. In no way, shape or form are you unique in that your Son is important to who you are, but it's not appropriate to expose him to the Internet and all the creeps out there.
I'm an IT guy. Security is one of my jobs. Do you have ANY clue how many kids have been approached indecently on the Internet? WAAAAAYYY too many for my comfort. There's no magical software to protect them, only good common sense.
So it's up to YOU, the caring father that you profess to be, to protect your child from possible harm and this is one such situation where you need to put your child AHEAD of your goals to meet someone. It's not worth the risk to your kid. Ditch the picture and show that you really do care about him. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:05:56 PM | Thank you Dday555.
Good suggestion.
I think it's really up to the POF creator to make children on a dating site against the rules and enforce it.
That would take care of negligent parents.
The worst is people who have their picture taken with children that are not even their own and the parents have no idea.
Not cool! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 3:46:52 AM | You should never buy a nice car, someone will steal it...
You should never talk to anyone you don't know, they might rape you...
You should never be nice to anyone, they'll take it for weakness...
You should never socialize with unknown people online, stalkers stalk more than children
You should never agree to meet people you've only met online, they'll rob, rape, abuse, stalk, target you
You should never date anyone you don't know already, you can't be too careful
You should never get friendly with anyone and communicate frequently with them online, they'll steal your identity
You should never use computers for online banking, they'll steal all your money
You should never try so hard to give others your fears, they have enough of their own... | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 2:39:33 PM |
First, You are using your son to attract women. That's sad.
That is quit an assumption,, but I'll let you have your opinion,,
She's not going to date your son...she's going to date you. Her maternal instincts will take over if she's a good person.
Your right she is not going to date my son,, my son and I are a team,, I'm sure this will just blow your mind,, But my dates include my son,, you can jump all over that if you like,,, but date are just people,, like any other we meet day in and out,, whether it be a brief conversation,, or a friend of a friend who my son and I meet for the first time,, no difference,,
You are putting your son in danger by exposing him on a dating site .
It's inappropriate. Boys get abused and kidnapped as much as girls do.
Right,, my son has no access to this site or any others,, except for PBS kids,, Noggin,,
Yet we can send our children to school,, to church, where as a parent,, we are led to believe our children are safe,, But yet they are not,, teachers have been convicted of molesting children,, bus drivers the same,, Our religious leaders have done so as well.. those people we are supposed to trust,, even if it's a rare occasion, but it dose happen,, can you say what child is next,, I can't, Yet those men and woman do have access to my son, and other children,
Yet on the Internet,, no one has access with out my permission,, don't give me the crap they can find me,, so can't anyone else,, all you need to do is a phone search.. and he or she could live just two blocks away,,
I think some people are just to paronid...
Second, with over 125 people who put you on your favorites, how many of them are not men?
I see to relevance to that statement,, yet there is one man out of the 125 ,, who has put me in their fav,, are you suggested just men abuse children,, I don't think so,,,
Geeze should I include over 200+ clients who over the years have met my son,, should they be considered as people who are unfit,, just because I personally do not know there entire back ground ,, I think not,,
You have fears built into you,, therefore you need to project them on others,, where I believe most people mean no harm,, yet keep a watchful eye out,, without the paranoia..
Good luck to you,, and I will continue to do what do,, | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 6:56:41 AM | That is kind of rude of you val0214 calling a person who has a picture with their child posted a negligent parent. I do not see it as them being negligent at all instead a caring and proud parent who wants anyone who is reading their profile to know that their child is part of their life and they are a package deal.
Negligent parents are the ones that starve their childeren, commit mental and physical abuse against them. Posting a picture with your child with you in it is a far cry from being negligent. Maybe you could better put your concerns about negligence against children to use and volunteer at a safe shelter for abused women or get involved in a program that mentors foster children... Those are the people that have had negligence committed against them and it is for real.
Yes there could be a chance of a child molester coming to an adult dating site to look for a victim. But that is slim. Also after reading rdcnorm's profile he seems like a concerned and involved parent to his son. I am sure that he is not going to bring a woman into his and his son's life with out getting to know her first.
To rdcnorm kudos to you for standing up to these people that think you are being a negligent parent and letting them know that you are not going to cave into their whims and remove the picture of you and your son. Personally seeing that picture showed me the love that you have for your son.
There are too many people that sweat the small stuff instead of trying to concentrate on their lives and fixing them. Of course they have something to fix or they would not be here in the first place.... or maybe it is that they are frustrated and need a tap in the behind to get a smile on their face and realize that life is too short to sweat the small stuff. To those of you that cast the stones against those that post pictures with children - get over yourselves and worry about something of more importance and try to fix it! | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 12:33:49 PM | I've been in computers since the first PC came out. I will guarantee that I can go through most everyone's computer used on this site and find some sort of security breech that the user was unaware of.
I don't need a phone to find you, your computer uses the internet. You log in and you have an IP address. Just by looking at the range and a quick search in one of the MANY databases available I can tell who your carrier is. Now I do another search and I can tell what area that carrier uses for the range. I then further refine my search and do a trace on it, now I have a direct line to your computer from mine.
Knowing this information is child's play out here. I will not further explain how I can trace you because I don't want to teach any nut cases around here how to track someone, but you SHOULD be getting the point by now.
Proud is one thing, I can understand that, but being ignorant of just how easy it is these days to find someone is inexcusable. I'm telling you it can be done and there are programs out there just for this.
There is no excuse not to arm oneself with knowledge as a child's protector. Go research it. In fact, go read the book "Hacking Exposed" and you'll have a whole new and different thought process on the Internet. You will NOT feel very secure, that's for darn sure.
I HAVE to keep current on the attacks our network face every day. I trace them back to the source and get in touch with ISPs all the time and have people's accounts suspended because they were being used as SPAM machines and had no clue they were infected. I bet most of people aren't even using a firewall and have no clue just what it does.
Ignorance is Bliss...
I'm not paranoid, I'm an IT profesional.
My warning wasn't a "Whim", it was good advice from one parent to another. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 1:11:51 PM | dday555,, I sure your were not addressing me,, but if you were,, advice is something that is asked for,, I certainly did not ask for any,, advice is like drugs and a hour glass,, once given,, the giver is gone,, then you are left in time with more crap than what you started with,,,
I do happen to agree with you,, someone can find us on the Internet,, the same way they can use a phone search, go through a people search,, motor vehicle,, public records at city hall,, and the list goes on and on,,
If someone want to live in a compound, in fear of life so be it,, with tall fences,, and security guards roaming the grounds,, with a chance that guard may be a child molester,, so be it,, I do not fear what you suggest,, yet I am aware,, of most if not all things and issues that may harm both my son and me,, I will confront any issues that should occur,, however in doing that I will not, nor will my son live in fear of what might happen in life,, but rather live life,, and learn from it,, again,, with my watchful eye,,
peace,, we will live life............  | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:04:22 PM | I agree with many of the posters on this thread that pictures of children (especially if they're not your own) can not only be misleading but also not very smart.
I'm sure many of us understand that family is important (it's a good reason that you've being photographed with them) but saying that in words should be enough. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2008 4:22:01 AM | Here is a tip for the Soccer Mom's out there quit reading the neggtive newspapers.. Help the sky is falling. Don't let your kids out of your sight without their knee and elbow pads.. There are predators everywhere.. Please most abductions are done by people known to the family..
People are not going to see a picture of your kid on your web site and then track you down just to take your kid.. Too much effort and thought..
Let your kids be kids like we did.. Quit being a Soccer Mom | |
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Posted: 8/8/2008 3:36:43 PM | | Will i think diz shit iz ish if a dude wants his kid in his photo it is iight that means they anit a beat down father oh well | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 6:05:13 AM | It seems that being an advocate for children is not an easy task. I am sure that most
people are just not informed of the dangers. However I want POF to decline pictures with children immediately. I am trying to contact the administration but with no luck.
Do you know where on this site we can contact them?
Karen | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 12:21:52 PM | The one you want - the big enchilada, head honcho, site owner - all that - is Marcus, also known as Bigfish. He does read his emails - has responded to mine on more than one occasion. However, your local mods, as well as the admin, can be reached at this site:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts70399.aspx
As many times as I have seen similar threads - and my own feelings are similar to yours (kids shouldn't be on a dating site) - I have not seen anything akin to making that a rule. Good luck to you with your quest | |
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