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Posted: 5/7/2008 9:26:21 AM | | I've been playing with my profile a bit, and would like an outsiders view on what they think! There is always room for some improvement. Why is it so hard to write about yourself? Jeez, you would think that is the easiest thing in the world to do! Thanks in advance! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 9:38:00 AM | You have a fair start,but there is certainly room for improvment.
I consider myself to be adventurous, and I am generally satisfied with life. If you are mentally ill, a criminal, on drugs, married, just looking to get laid, have severe emotional baggage, are into head games, or the bar scene, please do not get a hold of me. I want to talk to good, solid people who are mostly happy and well adjusted...I have no time for anything less.
This paragragh is ALL over the place. Starting out well,IT QUICKLY DETERIORATES. The men you are attempting to ward off DO NOT normally read profiles,therefore ALL you are doing is turning off the one you may be interested in.
Start there,and check back
best wishes
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Posted: 5/7/2008 9:41:26 AM | Writing about yourself is difficult. Let me review what you have
Headline... Booooooring. You are much better writer than that.
Pics are generally good, but the group scenes are a little too distant. You need to show yourself (and your group) closer by cutting the background.
Text is fine overall ... except for negativity. Get rid of the rant you added, pronto. It is a lot more effective in keeping away good guys than those who you are trying to keep away. Same goes for "If you are mentally ill...." sentence.
Interests are a big part of "hang out" profile. You need a lot more of them. Normally I say at least a dozen, but for hang out, at least two dozen would be better. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 9:49:35 AM | | Thanks...if I think of any more interests, I will put them up. Also, I can't think of a good headline! :( Creative juices are just not flowing for me right now...if anyone has a suggestion, please let me know. Also, I went ahead and made some of the changes you suggested..... | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 9:55:00 AM | I rarely see a woman with a "hang out" profile, usually, it's just men. It's turned my whole world upside-down and I'm not sure what to advise.
Usually, I tell men that women alreayd HAVE friends to hang out with, as you say you do, as well. What you're looking for is a MAN to go do things with.
I'd consider that "dating." Dating can be as casual as you wish. But on a dating site, I think you're likely to get more hits on your profile if you don't get eliminated right off in search parameters.
Your pics are good, very pretty woman, need a few more of just you.
I liked the body of your profile and I felt you managed to give a good sense of the person you are with what you chose to say. I'd like to point people to your profile and tell them, "Like THAT," when they don't seem to get what I mean about needing to reveal something personal.
I agree, the headline has to go. Pull that plug on that baby. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 9:57:58 AM | Wow,that was fast! lol Now let's work with what you have.
I am a simple, down to earth Northern girl who loves her family, friends and her dog. Most of my time is taken up by school and work, but you have to get out and meet people somehow! For fun, I like to watch movies, read, rescue dogs, eat good food and drink good wine. I have a new interest since joining this site: I find it really facinating to look at all the profiles on here! About me...I really like drinking tea, and I have ten different kinds on hand at any given moment. I always let my toenails grow too long before cutting them, hopefully that doesn't scare anyone off! I do love to garden, and take great satisfaction from watching things grow. (hahahaha...my toenails included there, I guess!) I like to go camping, and have been known to do the odd road trip, with no destination in mind.
I am a very ethical person, and really dislike injustice of any kind. I am also a loner. Although I am quite social, and have many friends with whom I enjoy being, I never crave having people around. Although I like being quiet, cuddling with my dog and reading or writing in my journal, I more than make up for that when I have someone's ear! I live a quiet life, and I am not into drama of any kind. Rather, I seek to keep my life balanced, and have fun just as much as I like to be laid back.
First and foremost, I am looking to meet new people. I honestly think that you can't force sparks to fly, but if they do, what a bonus! If I was to become interested in someone, it would be with a man who is mature, respectful, responsible and able to take charge. I would hate to limit myself to what someone looks like, because that is only a small part of the package. How does he treat others, animals, his mother? These are questions that I ask myself when considering a man to be a part of my life.
I consider myself to be adventurous, and I am generally satisfied with life. If you are like minded, don't be shy!
1. "First and foremost, I am looking to meet new people. I honestly think that you can't force sparks to fly, but if they do, what a bonus! " You mention "sparks" should they be something that is relavent to a "hang out" profile?
You have listed "hang out " as what you are looking for. HOWEVER you "first date" section would also tend to make me think maybe you should be listing "dating" instead.
best wishes
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:07:54 AM | You asked for suggestions for a username. It really got my attention when you said you want a man that can take charge. I realize that could mean different things to different people,but it is VERY unusual to see that written in a profile. This DOES NOT mean it is bad! What I am suggesting is that you incorperate your user name with that in mind. For example,could you expand upon what you mean by " take charge"? I may be able to help you with a username if I understand your feelings better.
Best wishes
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:10:05 AM | | Ah, yes...there it is. I do have many friends. Not many male friends. (None, really.) I am a nursing student, so for sure my contact with the opposite sex is limited. I also work with all females. I am not sure I even want to date. And I would like to hang out with someone before I consider dating them. To me, but I could be wrong, hanging out doesn't imply dating, and I don't want it to. But, yes, more male friends would be nice. If I find someone I can date, even better. If after I date someone, it turns into a relationship, wow, good for me! But I would like to just hang out first. No pressure. What is wrong with being friends first? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:11:45 AM | | There's nothing "wrong" with it. It's just that, on a dating site, you're more likely to find people who want to date. That's all. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:15:04 AM | There is nothing wrong with being "friends first" all I was attemping to point out was that you are possibly sending some mixed signals. You mention "sparks" if you want to be friends first,then I really think you shouldn't mention that.
Best wishes
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:17:29 AM | | I just mean (superficially) someone who has his own ideas, doesn't always defer to others, has suggestions for things to do.....independent, someone who walks the walk...maybe I should just put that instead of being ambiguous? On a deeper level, it means other things, but I don't want my profile heading in that direction! lol Does that help? Or still too vague? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:18:55 AM | The general progression is Hang Out - Friends - Dating - Long Term - Intima... *thwap* OK, OK, not that last one.. Ouch... that smarts!
I think your profile should be at least friends. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:25:07 AM | | Yes actually that hepls a lot, if I am understanding it correctly,you would consider yourself to be a little on the traditional/ old fashioned side then? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:29:23 AM | | Yes..can you be old fashioned, and still be up for women's lib? Well, that doesn't matter, because I am! lol Thanks a bunch you guys (and gals). | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:39:58 AM |
Also, I can't think of a good headline! :( Creative juices are just not flowing for me right now...if anyone has a suggestion, please let me know.
I might be a nurse, but don't ask me to "play doctor" with you.*
* Disclaimer: this was not a serious suggestion. Please don't use it | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:39:59 AM | Okay...so I am making a cup of tea, and I come up with this gem: Tea for two?
It's not the best, but it will do for now I guess. I welcome any and all comments.
edit: for my headline, of course! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:44:00 AM | I've got some.
"Turn your head and cough."
"This should only sting a bit."
"Tell me where it hurts."
"Orthopedic shoes? Not on your life!" (might be too long)
"Everything that's good for you tastes bad."
Um.........I'm.......not really helping, am I. Sorry. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:48:15 AM | | LMAO...Yes, I suppose I could go in that direction...maybe something like "You need a series of painful diagnostic tests..." (Also too long...) Maybe I will have to resort to something like that, but at least its funny...even if only to me! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:53:35 AM | Bend over. That is the only thermometer left.
I am a nurse - I've seen plenty of those. Much bigger too.
OK, I better stop. Next few got completely inappropriate. Sorry bout that. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 11:10:02 AM | Yes..can you be old fashioned, and still be up for women's lib? Well, that doesn't matter, because I am! lol
lol Well,it is my opinion that is going to be VERY difficult to find a man that will fit BOTH of those desires!  My guess is you will need to give on one or the other. Which one do you consider the most important? Accepting your " liberated" side or " taking control" ?
Best wishes
OFCB
ps This makes you rather unique,in that you apparently have a healthy dose of each. EXACTLY what you want for a username! You should try to incorperate BOTH in it.
Some thoughts to ponder: libyettradlady
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Posted: 5/7/2008 2:19:05 PM | Kiss me where it smells funny....
...oh wait, wrong thread. The swingers' lounge is which way again?! | |
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