| | The age of 50 watershed for dating.Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I have been amazed at the number of women who have 50 as a top age for men.
Does anyone know why that is ?
Is there a similar watershed for women ?
Being 51 today I am gobsmacked that many of the profiles I have been looking at now reject me coz I am no longer 50.
Did I change dramatically at midnight on May 6th ?
Clearly not, I am the same man I was yesterday............... | |
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| The age of 50 watershed for dating.
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:29:18 PM | | Awww welcome to the half century mark.. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. If you look at my profile, I think I have 56 listed for the high mark for a man. I agree, you are the same man as you were yesterday. That being said, our world is still caught up in "youth" and "beauty", therefore us "oldies" but "goodies" are sometimes cast aside. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 4:09:41 PM | Okay, you asked, so I'm going to give it to you straight from the hip, a manner I wouldn't use in a normal social context.
For me 50 is a cutoff, but it really is a ceiling I try to avoid reaching. I generally go for men close to my own age, so 37 would be a more realistic ceiling, but I am willing to entertain the possibility and check a guy out up to 50.
I've noticed that apart from my generally having better relationships with men close to my own age, there are physical changes that seem to catch up with just about every man by age 50. If I was 50 myself I might have those bodily changes taking place too, so not be able to be picky about it, but the reality is I am trim and tight enough (in body and face) to be able to find a guy who is also. I don't like the loose facial skin and loss of muscle tone I see creeping in on men in their 50s. I'll be forced to deal with it in my man someday most likely, but that doesn't need to be now since I'm only 35 and have a face and bod like a twenty something. Even high school guys still try to pick me up sometime, so I know I don't have to venture into the 50+ saggy pool just yet. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 4:21:04 PM |
Same reason a lot of 50 year old men have their minimum dating requirements at age 25. Or a top age of 42.
Isn't that the truth?  | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 4:58:23 PM | HEY OPIE-your profile says you are 48??? OOPS looks like we got a liar here....yet you posted this a few days ago on this thread about a women lying about her age...
wat if she lied about age....... do you continue anyway? Posted: 5/6/2008 6  45 PM One lie means other things she has said could have been lies too. I would tread very carefully with this woman.
Hmm so now exactly what age were you in your picture? 48, 49, do I hear 50? going once, going twice....OP is 51 and lying about his age!!!  | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:20:01 PM | so I know I don't have to venture into the 50+ saggy pool just yet.
Saggy pool ? LOL Not all of us are members of the saggy club......but I will agree that the vast majority of men and women look physically soft/saggy by 50.....if not 40. Gravity is always tugging and unless you work hard at tugging back.....your raft in the saggy pool will slowly deflate......plus denial kicks in and who looks in the mirror and makes an honest assessment about themselves ? Claiming to have an athletic body and checking that particular box in your profile goes a lot farther than simply wearing designer sweats with white stripes running down the sides while watching sports on TV.
If I was 50 myself I might have those bodily changes taking place too
Might ? again ----> LOL ............. unless you work hard at it consistently and possess exceptional genes........... bank on it baby.
Peace | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:44:50 PM | Not me. The older I get, the older men I am attracted to when looking for a long term relationship..... boy toys have no age limit, maybe that is a sign? To each their own I guess. Attraction has to be there or it will never work, or perhaps there is a cut off because of an abundance of "geezers" sending e-mails? I'll bet you that if you look good for your age, they will still be looking at you just the same. Hang in there!!! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:52:26 PM | | When you've reached the age of 50+, it's either Murphy's Law or the Law of Gravity that will affect your body. As long as the body functions (like it should) and I'm not having to spend megabucks for Depends, I'm one happy dame! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:53:40 PM | Loose facial skin and loss of muscle tone amoung other things is not just limited to men...it can affect both sexes....and its also not limited by age, as I've meet younger men and women who because of their health...or a simple lack of taking care of themselves, they can look out of shape at any age. I'm 53 and proud of my muscle tone and lack of sagging skin...and I'm active enough to know that many younger men and women can't keep up with me...so if we're going for honesty in the forums...lets say that age is not the "cut off" point...its the point where its recognized that they show their age poorly...and nothing more. In the scope of "relationship material"...or dating preference...I personally have a cap limited by personality...or lack there of...and I would rather be with those who are decent in heart, mind and soul before I consider their looks...perspective! Thats all it is...so OP...pay no mind to the age nonsense...it really won't make a difference in the end!  ....fish onwards! | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 6:56:31 PM | oh.....oh.....OOOOHHHHHHH...........
I guess you can have your own limits on anything, but you are throwing away possibilities that you might be surprised by passing up. All I can say is I am 58 and I can "still go", so someday, sometime, you will look up and say......"hey 50 isnt so old afterall. This is the voice of experience talking and noone really expects you to pay any attention to it. We didnt either, although I wish I had.
How about something like taking every person as an individual and not just shutting off everyone because of age. You might be surprised. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 8:03:24 PM | Age may be a number, but a lot of people may actually be "older" than their total number of birthdays. A generally active, healthy 60-year-old may be "younger" than a 50 or even a 40 year old couch potato.
57 and I can still walk around the block without breathing hard. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 8:05:29 PM | ...and don't let the grey hair fool you- I HAVE hair, and as long as I have hair, it can be any color I want it to be...
I choose grey. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 8:31:50 PM | Go Girl !!!
Meet and **** all the men close to your age and younger! Believe me they are all going to love you for it.
Please keep up the service to mankind, I sure loved the ones that did such a wonderful service to me when I was a lot younger like you are. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 12:25:52 PM | There is nothing wrong with 50 and more years for a guy. Its all down to state of mind and how you treat your ladies.
Lesley x | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 1:34:04 PM | Did I change dramatically at midnight on May 6th ?
Clearly not, I am the same man I was yesterday...............
Well....yes and no. Yesterday I thought you were 49 years old as indicated on your profile. And yesterday, I also had no reason to think you were anything but genuine.
Today, I find out you're 51, not 49. And while a two year age discrepancy is nothing in and by itself, it's the thought that someone actually manipulated their age to appear on more searches that bothers me.
But what is even more disturbing to me is that this thread was created for the sole purpose of discussing the big "five 0" and it's ramification in the dating world, and yet the OP lied about being 50 himself. Which renders this discussion useless in my opinion.
It's clear to me that by hiding his "real" age, the OP must have had a pretty good idea that 50 is indeed a "cut-off" age for many, or else he wouldn't have lied about it.
And I don't mean to pick on you OP, but I'm sick of people lying on their profiles. And I'm even more sick of reading all these threads accusing women of being the biggest liars about their age and/or their weight. What a joke. And thanks for the laugh. 
JMO | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 1:47:38 PM | Since both men and women seem to shy away from their true age and weight, maybe we should not make it such requirement for social selection and activity......
I am more than happy to just have multiple pictures placed on a profile that are recent and showing up close facial shots, as well as full length body shots, in order to get a more realistic idea about how nature and the person have taken care of the situation when it comes to weight and age......
It really does not matter to me if you are 35, 40, 50, or 60, but more so how you get my attention, and keep it........and that has much more to do with mutual attraction, emotional stability, mental capabilities, and financial security, to the point that the chemistry is abundant, and very mutual........
Just my opinion.........  | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 1:55:51 PM | | 50 can be a dating desert. I hated typing in my real age when I completed my profile. I get mail from all sorts of guys younger and older. The problem is distance for me. 2-3 correspondence's from men locally then poof they are gone. | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 3:26:46 PM | At 49 I also worry that (assuming I am still swimming here) I will stop getting attention from potential male partners.
I've made a committment to keeping in the best possible shape I can for the next 20+ years. (I am lucky to be able to afford a very good trainer.) And that's not only motivated by a wish to find a good love partner but also because I have to LIVE in this thing. I might as well invest in keeping it healthy and in shape.
I try not to rule men out due to age, however, most (not all) of the males over 55 or so are not in good shape or appear to lack energy. I've had plenty of experience (recently!) with men 40+ filling their profiles with pictures 5 or more years older and/or 40 or so pounds ago. Including one with whom I decided to overlook the egregious difference between his picture and his person and get to know based on what seemed to be a pleasant and appealing personality...only to have him cancel our second date because we don't "click".
I think he just wasn't willing to work on making himself look like the svelte person in his profile picture. And yeah, I guess he was a liar - a pleasant one.
Anyway, I'll try not to shy away from the number, but I'm never going to overlook those types of discrepancies again.
drnanjo (nancy) | |
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Posted: 5/26/2008 6:39:27 PM | | I am yet another youngish looking 40-something year old. I see a ton of guy's profiles listing 38 as the age cut off. I guess the assumption is that all women age poorly. You know what they say about assumptions..... | |
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