| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:18:25 PM | The reason I ask this question is because my co-workers seem to make fun of me cause I tend to be silly/childish at work. Please note that I am a 1st grade teacher and that I feel that I am entitled to be silly with my students. However they believe that it is because act silly that I can't find Ms. Right.
So I must ask," how important is humor/silliness in a relationship?"
Is humor/silliness a plus  or is it a turn off ? What do you think?
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:41:22 PM | If you work with 1st graders and you CAN'T be silly, then something is wrong with you!
I know everyone says they 'like to laugh' blah blah...but humor is easily, seriously one of the most important things I look for in a partner or friend. If we don't have compatible senses of humor, there is no chance at all. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:06:21 AM | Well, sometimes it's good and sometimes it's a turn off. It kind of depends on the appropriateness of the situation. People who think they are funny, but are not, are a turn off for me. People who are always goofy and never serious are just sharing one dimension of themselves - it's hard to connect with them on other levels. Sometimes people use humor as a defense mechanism and it comes across as not genuine.
It's a turn on when it's real and comes from the soul. I think this is why some comedians are funnier than others. This is just my subjective opinion though - doesn't mean it's necessarily right. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:59:53 AM | Life is just too serious and a sense of humor is vitally important. Being able to laugh at yourself and your own silly mistakes is a wonderful quality. I am more attracted so someone who has a sense of joy and wonder about life than to any other quality. In a long-term relationship, it is that sense of humor which will get you through the tough times. And one of the most intimate moments a couple can share is when they can exchange a knowing giggle or twinkle in the eye at a private joke.
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:50:22 PM | ^^^^ALL good points!
I couldn't live without a good amount of silliness in my day, and it certainly is a must in my mate!
There is a fine-line, though...
It would seem to be easily grasped at once if you dated, say --Robin Williams for five minutes...
Extreme silliness is fabulous in a stand-up comedian, but not in your mate if he starts to wear on your patience for joking when a straight answer is prudent...
I wouldn't want to have to be the serious one all of the time!
And please... no frogs down my back!
I wouldn't want to end up flinging the poor thing against a rock. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:21:56 PM | Gee.. humor is really important.
I don't trust a person who doesn't have one. It means they can't accept their own mistakes.
How can they accept anyone else's if they don't accept their own????
Think about how much we mortal humans fail every day. How many times have you had to start tying your shoelaces again because you made loops that were too big or something?
How many times have you had to pull forward and start over when you started backing out the driveway a little too close on one side?
I've been accused of being a little silly also... so I try to be careful. It's a fine line between being "childlike" and "childish". If one accepts their mistakes too easily or indulges themselves in them.. at least in front of others, it's hard to win their respect back. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:56:25 PM | Life is serious, and relationships are hard. You better have a sense of humor or you are in big trouble!
That's not to say that there's a time and a place for it, sometimes it isn't appropriate, but an ability to make the best of things even when things are tough is a gift. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/8/2008 10:29:46 PM | | What good is a playdate if he's a stick in the mud? Being able to laugh together, let loose, be myself and be silly sometimes is a needed couterweight to the seriousness of life and work. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:19:35 AM | ^^^^
heh, yeah, well, communication has evolved along with what is perceived as attractive. Instinctively, we are all drawn to the one that will encourage procreation and the survival of the race. It's genetically embedded in all humankind. And unless you view sex as only something we HAVE to do to survive as a species, then go right ahead with not caring about personality traits, including having a sense of humor.
I think that humor is mandatory in a relationship. If you take life too seriously, it can lead to your demise.
Of course, this is just an opinion...
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:34:01 PM |
I wonder how funny a caveman or our ancient ancestors where, or is a comedic personality a new thing...?
She picks up his club and ughssssss my turn...
I know
Bad geek goto the corner.... | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:48:58 PM | | I think it is vital for a relationship (at least one I would want to be in) Of course there are times for seriousness, but if you can't laugh at yourself and life (especially when it gets rough) then this journey of life is just not as managable...You just have to find someone that appreicates that side of a person and can either accept it or be able to go right along with it!! I work with four and five year olds so humor/silliness is a day to day occurence in my life as well, and it is the best way to live! | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:20:04 PM | | Humor is a fun way of communicating. Sex is too... but there needs to be more or it remains in a purely juvenile realm that will leave you feeling empty and unfilled. Unless you choose to drink excessively. That's always an alternative to having an adult relationship. | |
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| How important is humor/silliness in a relationship?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:09:41 PM | It's funny (no pun intended) but I think the point that is missed that is humor is relative. We all want humor - but we want someone who matches our humor! So OP - find someone whose love of silliness matches your own. I like quick wit and banter..but am not really looking for silliness. I think the key is finding that the someone who "loves to laugh", will laugh at the same things you do.
There is my two cents- with a dash of tequila thrown in. :) | |
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