| anatomy/physiology - not sure how to catagorize this topic ?!?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:30:01 AM | Hi all out there in this big ocean !
I have a question on the anatomy and physiology in relation to the male/female body structures. ......
I was talking with my friends today and she was rather upset ! She told me that her new boyfriend and her were trying to take their relationship to the "Next Level!!" It was thier first time with each other .... heres the problem - he is used to dating women who are small framed - the model type body build. My best friend is very tall and has a big bone frame, and larger build then he is used to dating. he was frustrated becuase he doesn't think he '"fits" when it comes to them "hugging!" down south!! he told her that he didn't feel they were sexually compatable that thier bodys didn't fit together.He siad her thighs were thighs were too big and wouldn't give him enough room.
She is very confused and hurt becuase she dates guys his size and build and has never had a problem sexually with them.
She asked me if its possible for two peoples bodys not to be able to fit together like thier created to do in that manner!!! I told her I am no expert in the body structure and biology department!!! but that I would ask and see if perhaps some one else knows the answer to this problem?!! I thought it didn't matter what size or shape you were, that sex and reproduction worked the same way for every body size and shape. the male organs fit the female organs no matter what!!! if that wasn't the case then we would not have population issues !!!
again - any suggestions or advice is much appreciated !!! I am not sure what to tell her or if there is anything that can be done to change the situion and make it better for them!!
as I stated earlier - I don't know what to tell her!!! please help any advice would be appreciated!! Is this guy wrong about his biology and anatomy and got it backwards!!??? I don't rember this ever being questioned or a problem for people when it comes to this kinda sitaution. I'm no doctor or nurse - but I do know enough about how the mechanics of our bodys work!!! I have never heard of this problem before!!! is this possible??!! and if so what can I tell her!! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 1:45:08 AM | Shug for some people, men or women, they may get used to a certain build, then find it hard to "fit" with someone else...
If he has decided he doesn't feel sexually compatible, he may not be willing to work out things in that department...
To have some guy say your thighs are to big, UMMMM that sounds pretty dang insulting, and I am sure it really hurt your friends feelings...
All a person can say is that if he likes or cares about her enough he would be willing to work around the ISSUE he sees, other wise they just aren't going to be compatible...
I am sure it happens more than we'd like to think...
Some people have an idea of what turns them on sexually, and until they realize that satisfying sex is not all physics, then getting sexual turned on won't happen for them... | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 2:37:42 AM | | I think it's very important that two people "fit" together sexually. To turn the scenario around, if a guy i met was so small i couldn't get any pleasure, or so big it hurt everytime we had sex, i would not continue a relationship. It would be far too frustrating. It sounds like this guy can't get "close enough" to her "good bits" to have good sex because the fat on her thighs gets in the way. Dunno, maybe he's a bit smaller that the other guys she's been with so previously it hasn't been a problem. I know sex isn't everything but when there's a problem right from the get go i don't really blame him for wanting to bail.... | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 3:47:29 AM | If two people are in a caring relationship they would find a way to get past this (different positions.... hell, maybe a penis extender... hehehe) instead of berating one to make them feel like they are not good enough.
If it is not his preference to be with a woman who has the body shape of your friend then he should just go find one he does prefer.
The excuse "her thighs are too big and wouldn't give him enough room" is BS..... 
I suggest your friend walk away and not allow any further blows to her self esteem. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 3:57:00 AM | Interesting question.
I agree with the first reply as far as what he said is pretty harsh, and if I was your friend, and he had said that to me, I don't think he would have to worry about our sexual compatibility any longer.... Also...I truly hope that she delivered the obvious retort to this. That has he considered the possibility of it not being the size of her legs, but rather the size of his "leg" ?
A little length ""goes a long way"
Also the O.P correctly points out that if his feeling about her were genuine, then normally you want at least to try to work the kinks out.
The next poster "DARE TO" has some good points that I am in full agreement with such as the following
very important that two people "fit" together sexually
f a guy i met was so small i couldn't get any pleasure, or so big it hurt everytime we had sex, i would not continue a relationship
I agree with these statements although the second one, I don't think can really be compared to this situation. If a man is "well...well well endowed" and i am screaming in pain rather than ecstasy, yes, this is a big problem (no pun intended) but we are talking about a part of the anatomy that is not going to change. Not a whole bunch of ways to get around this problem without one person or the other sacrificing some, if not all enjoyment.
But in your friend's situation, the presence of "a bit extra" on her thighs is completely workable. Have they tried different positions? How close together are her feet? Maybe widening the entrance a little would make it a little more "user friendly"
What about massage oils? This all just swings back to what the first reply said. If he really wanted to, he wouldn't so eager to throw in the towel without exhausting all options.
Tell him to quit whining, and go back to his bone racks so he can feel like King Dong again. Best of luck to her.
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Posted: 5/8/2008 1:14:26 PM |
me thinks the guy has sexual problems himself that have to do with the empty space between his ears
LOL...
Kama Sutra may be too complicated for him...
When there's a will there's a way.... I've sweated on more "big" thighs than your friend will ever have... and none have ever been in the way. Great ear muffs too... | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 1:38:49 PM |
If it is not his preference to be with a woman who has the body shape of your friend then he should just go find one he does prefer.
The excuse "her thighs are too big and wouldn't give him enough room" is BS.....
Yes..I agree with laughinglibra .....the excuse of saying " because her thighs are to big to fit together" is a croc.
In truth....he is not attracted to her body in the visual sense and provides a lame excuse like that...
OMG, if I was attracted and cared for a woman like your friend OP.....I wouldn't care about the thigh issue.....there are so many other positions to try which are highly pleasureable...
It's quite possible, that he may be sexually ignorant.....and believe missionary is the one and only postion....
Therefore, the anatomy problem may lie with him ........due to his lack of length to even make it to her opening.
OP....your friend should give this guy his marching orders and meet someone that is compatible to her....JMO | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 1:45:16 PM | | OP, it's quite possible. I was with a woman one time who was larger than I was, basically, plain and simple, she was large-boned and tall, etc. I'm 5'10", maybe 5'10 1/2", and I weigh around 155, 156lbs. She was about the same height and heavier. We did not fit together well, sexually. It's true this can be the case. In general I tend to stick to the "tried and true" traditional way, where I'm always at least a little taller and bigger overall than the female; in my opinion it just seems to work much better, the chemistry's better, sex, everything. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 4:21:14 PM | It is possible, but I have never experienced as being the fault of the womans, and I have true thunder thighs. I have however had men to small to pleasure me in certain positions, like the spooning position. This definitely had nothing to do with my size in that position but all their size....
Tell your friend to tell him to grow a****so that they can fit. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 5:05:15 PM |
It is possible, but I have never experienced as being the fault of the womans, and I have true thunder thighs. I have however had men to small to pleasure me in certain positions, like the spooning position. This definitely had nothing to do with my size in that position but all their size....
Tell your friend to tell him to grow a****so that they can fit.
Yes it would never ever ever be a cavernous vagina that requires well above the average 5.5-6.75 inches to fill 
You can't have it both ways if he can be "too small" she could be "too big". People come in many different forms but barring something far out of the average things should usually work fairly well.
OP: does it really matter if this guy was honest in his reason for wanting out? Tell her to just accept that he doesn't see a future and she should move on. The reason could be even more hurtful to her than what she's been told, so best to just call it a day. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 5:23:20 PM | | He does not find her sexually appealing. However, he could have been a bit more tactful....didn't he see her size right from the beginning? We have types we are sexually compatible with and types we are not sexually compatible with. For instance, I could never been with a man thinner and shorter than I am: it won't fit right.......he needs to be able to pick me up. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 5:29:27 PM | Holy frack!!! I would simply tell the guy to hit the road and find someone he thinks he 'fits' with!! What a jerk!!  I'm quite a curvy girl and believe me I have been able to accomodate many different sized men in my life time! He's just an as$!!! | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 5:31:47 PM | Not exactly sure what the problem is here. It's possible she's just not very flexible and cannot get her legs out of the way for the positions he's used to or most comfortable with, or indeed he's not at the right height for her. Perhaps some experimentation is called for. I am sorry, without directly observing this couple in a clinical setting it would be hard to speculate.
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Posted: 5/8/2008 6:35:11 PM |
Yes it would never ever ever be a cavernous vagina that requires well above the average 5.5-6.75 inches to fill
^^^^^^^^^^^ I believe that is a load of crap....the partners that I have had throughout my life , have never possessed one of these so called " cavernous vaginas ", that some blokes have suggested exist.
I think guys using the excuse..." she was too big ".....is their inability to come to terms with their own inadequacies.
The truth of the matter was this guy didn't like the look of the OP's friend's thighs......so he blames her for their incompatability, where in actual fact is that he is not into her.......or can't get into her. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:03:15 PM | | Alright, for whatever reason, the two people mentioned in the OP's post aren't going to click together. For whatever reason. We don't choose what turns us on, or turns us off. And, we can't be attractive to everyone. Yes, the guy came up with a lame excuse. But they should both move on. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:26:26 PM |
^^^^^^^^^^^ I believe that is a load of crap....the partners that I have had throughout my life , have never possessed one of these so called " cavernous vaginas ", that some blokes have suggested exist.
I think guys using the excuse..." she was too big ".....is their inability to come to terms with their own inadequacies.
Oh please, what self-serving BS. With women just as with men the vast majority fit into a "norm" and there are always exceptions to both ends of the scale there will always be a few men and women who have rather tiny parts and a few with very large parts.
To claim otherwise can only be to try selling yourself as a monster-meat man that can fill any orifice no matter the size (btw there is a pothole on my way to work .... about 2 feet across, would you mind?) Or an admission that you've not been around the block enough to know that people do vary. And that there are extremes in both directions among both men and women.
OP a little larger? Ummm would that be large enough for "cottage cheese thighs"..... just saying I know plenty off guys that find that to be a turn off......nvm like I stated before maybe the reason is best left alone and she just move on. | |
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| anatomy/physiology - not sure how to catagorize this topic ?!?
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:43:01 PM |
I was talking with my friends today and she was rather upset ! She told me that her new boyfriend and her were trying to take their relationship to the "Next Level!!" It was thier first time with each other .... heres the problem - he is used to dating women who are small framed - the model type body build. My best friend is very tall and has a big bone frame, and larger build then he is used to dating. he was frustrated becuase he doesn't think he '"fits" when it comes to them "hugging!" down south!! he told her that he didn't feel they were sexually compatable that thier bodys didn't fit together.He siad her thighs were thighs were too big and wouldn't give him enough room.
She is very confused and hurt becuase she dates guys his size and build and has never had a problem sexually with them.
Tell him to buy some extendz.....
If you're cross-eyed and have dyslexia can you read all right? | |
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| anatomy/physiology - not sure how to catagorize this topic ?!?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:11:37 PM | Thanks for your opinion on the matter !
I am not cross-eyed or have dyslexia and I read perfectly fine!!!
I just didn't know what to tell my best friend on that matter she seemed to be having. She was upset and hurt. I have never heard of a situation like this happening to any one. She came to me thinking I could give her advice . I thought all people fit together sexually . Atleast in the sexual manner of speaking. It's no big deal I told her they need to go to doctor or sex specialist , I 'm a security officer not a sex expert lol!!:wink!!
and yes I agree he pretty much told her what was wrong ! but she don't seem to relize it!
either way have a great nite! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 4:06:30 PM | | I dont think her vagina size was the problem, as i am envisioning a problem he claims is due to not being able to get close to her vagina, which he says is due to fatty thighs. That has nothing to do with vagina size, but him being to short. | |
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