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Posted: 5/8/2008 2:19:41 PM | I've been on here since late January... I get a lot of profile views but very few of them actually message me or IM me...
Just wanted to see what I can improve. I'm here looking for friends, not sex. Guess I've made that abundantly clear... too clear, perhaps?
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Posted: 5/8/2008 2:31:23 PM | It is always good to mention that you are a real, live woman. Makes you stand out from all the other female profiles here, filled by blowup dolls. But maybe headline is not the best place for it.
Pictures - good. A bit too similar, but good. Interests - good. Your first date section was consumed by a hungry goat, so you should catch him, get it out and put it back.
Love and sex paragraph needs to go. A huge turn-off and any men who is not insulted by it just has not read through your profile.
You are not legally divorced. You might be effectively divorced, you might have a mindset or someone who is divorced. But you are not there yet. It is not honest to put Marital Status as "divorced" till the divorce is recorded by court as effective on that date. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 3:46:47 PM | sorry but I thought your profile was just too long to read......
and kissing a animal....eeekkk | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 3:47:49 PM | I agree with Yev, as usual. Someone should catch that damned goat and make him spit up people's first-date ideas.
For someone who wants to meet "friends," you really go into a lot of detail about yourself and the activities you'd like to do. Most people are going to think you want a date. And why not? Dating can be as casual as you like. Bottom line? If you want to meet a man to go out and do things with, other than tennis, squash or Bingo, then you want a "date." Consider changing that.
If not, then take out any mention of sex, as it doesn't apply.
As another woman who is "separated" and not yet legally divorced, I agree that it's best to be very clear about that part so no one is offended or upset. I've only had one man refuse to meet for coffee because of it. So it goes!
I think your profile could be further improved by removing the paragraph about your tv-watching habits. It simply wasn't as interesting to read about what you do NOT like as it was to read about what you like.
Lastly, I hope you're not sitting around waiting for your in-box to fill up. Do a search in your area and peruse some profiles. Initiate contact if you see someone who interests you. I have it on very good authority that 97%* of men would *love* that.
* Numbers have been estimated by a team of well-trained fruitbats. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 4:18:20 PM | Yev, thank you for your input. The title is from a Trisha Yearwood song and album... Real Live Woman. Guess you didn't get it. I changed it.
I don't like to put the same old crap in the 'first date' section. How can you possibly make that interesting without saying the same things everyone else says?
Love and sex paragraph... gone. Thanks. Marital status changed. Thanks.
And Ursula, I changed it to 'dating'. And the tv habits paragraph... gone. Thanks.
And no, I'm hardly sitting around waiting for Mr. Right to show up, I'm a very busy lady, and I do tend to message men that I find interesting. I can't figure out why they ignore my messages tho. That is pretty frustrating.
Anyway, thanks for your input, do I need to make any more changes? | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 4:21:13 PM | Well,I know everthing you enjoy doing. What I DO NOT know is if I would enjoy doing it with you? You describe neither yourself or what you are looking for in a man. Both are very critical IMO to your success. No one likes rejection,and if a man does not feel at least somewhat confident that YOU will like HIM, your chances of getting mail go down dramaticly.
Best wishes
OFCB | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 7:58:53 PM | | I would change the dating to friends. To include the profile talk more about being friend rather than dating and drinking. | |
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