| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:02:13 PM | OK-- he's one for the dating text books...though imagine its been done gazillions of times in many different variations... BUT .... here goes:
What do you do when you meet a man who is so stunningly gorgeous and he is showing you tons of attention? Now I know some men like larger women, but this absolutely terrifies me! Especially as a larger women... I immediately rush to the conclusions that A) He's just looking for sex and thinks I'm an easy target, B) He has vision problems C) He has low self-esteem, D) He has a BBW fetish.. ok, I dont think I'm a dog by any means-- in fact, not to brag, I WAS a Ms. Santa Cruz Beauty Pageant runner-up at age 20, BUT that was 22 years ago .... so tell me .... whats the scoop... just be immediately on-guard? | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:08:51 PM | Wasn't that you complaining about not getting any attention because you're a BBW? Now you're complaining about this gorgeous guy hitting on you? Wow, are you ever happy? Can't you just enjoy life without looking for something wrong with it?
There is nothing wrong. You are creating drama out of nothing.
Yes, be on guard ---> He'll run faster than you can say "psycho." <--- great plan. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:10:36 PM | | You have to go for it to avoid regretting not doing it, if you know what I mean. If it seems too good to be true, keep an eye out for any warning signs. Don't put yourself down because you have a flaw. All women (all people for that matter) have flaws and there are some men who have a thing for certain flaws, I for one have a thing for nerdy brunettes, some have a thing for older women, some fancy really short or really tall women etc etc. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:10:53 PM | | OP - don't overanalyze the situation. I doubt you've known this guy for several months. Take one day at a time. There are so many hunks out there that love big, but beautiful women. Don't be on guard. Is it possible he could be looking for sex? Sure, but so could Joe Average that you may meet too. Keep your ears & eyes open; your heart open, and enjoy. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:11:25 PM | Use him for sex and companionship for a few years, maybe even marry him, eventually. THAT will show him, eh??
What's not to like? Can't a super-good-looking man NOT be a shallow fool? Even if he were to have a BBW "fetish", so--reap the bennies, I say! Is he nice to you? Does he treat you well? Is he a good dancer? I see no down-side to this scenario. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:18:44 PM | maybe its only you that thinks he's stunningly gorgeous...
beauty is in the eye blah blah blah...
if you want him, then go for it. who cares why, just enjoy it.
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:29:39 PM | Usually when something seems too good to be true, 9 times out of 10 it IS. I hope for your sake I am wrong, and that you found your prince.  | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:33:28 PM | I don't know about the rest of you...but if a drop dead beautiful woman started showing me a lot of affections and seemed to really like me...I would run for the hills....
In the land of reality, even non-superficial good lucking people go after other good looking people...they just choose from the best personality with the best looks...
You are right to smell something....
Fight within your class and you will be happier...
Look at the way it is now....handsome man likes you...are you happy??
Be beautiful inside....forget about the surface....if this guy had a horrible accident and his face was all scarred or he gained 100 pounds...would you still like him??
This is the type of question you should be asking yourself, before you let a rush of chemical lust convince you that you have "chemistry"...
...we all get old, sick, have accidents, etc....
Watch as the beautiful people slowly come apart as they age and try for every Bo-Tox...lip injection, breast lift, body lift, vagina lift, face lift themselves to true happiness....
Now ... a lot of better looking people are going to post after me and say that that isn't true....but what do they know about us??
..Plus they are always trying to justify their superficial behavior by saying that "it could happen"...then they go on meeting others, and dumping them shortly after...
Trust me....find someone who is truly compatible with you and you will be off this site and having a happy life years from now while the rest of these "beautiful people" continue to live a fantasy serial dating life on PoF until they are all old and gray and living with many many many cats....
I am the Mushroom and from deep down in the dirt and dark, that's the way I see it...  | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:31:30 PM | Funny that Op refers to herself as a BBW and in another post listed in her history
she says she is 55 pounds or more overweight but her profile she says "a few extra pounds" as her body type. So I need to ask you, what does a woman that really is just a few pounds overweight suppose to say on her profile? I think this is another reason they should remove body type off the profiles all together. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:39:29 PM | What's wrong if he has a BBW fetish? Isn't all lust a fetish?
Probably after your money, OP. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:40:08 PM | I think you may be underestimating your own attractiveness. And he may just be a friendly guy who can see that you are too. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:44:19 PM | You are only an easy target if you allow yourself to be....just enjoy the attention, play it cool, don't get talked into anything you feel uncomfortable with. Hopefully he is sincere and you will enjoy going out on some very nice dates with him - BUT - the moment he starts making excuses as to why the two of you should just stay in instead of going out -- DUMP HIM!!!!!!  | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:46:45 PM | Well well.. if that doesn't beat all... A good looking guy dating a BBW .. What on God's Green Earth is this planet coming to??? <- slightly sarcastic
PUHLEEZE... if a BBW isn't complaining about not getting attention because of her weight, she 's complaining about being noticed... <- NOT sarcastic
STOP and enjoy the time you have with him.. If you keep looking around the corner for an ulterior motive, you aren't going to have a good relationship.. BE YOURSELF.
I am sure he likes you no matter what the size of the package. Don't give him a reason to dislike the contents.
JMO
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:58:57 PM |
YOU are the one who has low self-esteem darling...
Exactly! She's got a good thing going, and is going to f'ing completely blow it because she thinks he has ulterior motives.
See, that's one example of why people blow relationship after relationship, and then start asking what is wrong with everyone else. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:59:15 PM | There's an easy fix to this.
If you really think he shouldn't be attracted to you, give me the guy's name, phone number, a headshot, and as a favor to you, I'll head over to his place with a bottle of champagne and try to "reason" with him. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:17:51 PM | The only scoop is this: your lack of self confidence is going to become very apparent to this gent if you don't put such foolish ideas aside. People like people for a variety of reasons. Why overanalyse this before it has even left the ground as a relationship/fling/fwb/friendship etc. If anything, revel in the fact that a guy who YOU find attractive is interested.
Geez, some people are never satisfied. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:21:38 PM | You should value yourself a little more than this. A BBW fetish? What ever happened to thinking that there are really some great guys out there? Yes, you are right to be on guard with ANY man, whether he looks like he just stepped out of the JC Penny catalog or not. But......give him a break. Enjoy the ride!! Love yourself!!! Have fun sweetie!! | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:26:46 PM | | I'm with you on this one...grab life (and him) with both hands. I've got news for you sometimes good looking men get lonely too and if you're what he likes then honey ENJOY. One day, one week, one month remember you only get ONE life .....so live it. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:54:46 PM | I have been called alot of things before in my life, but never that. Yet.  I try to stay away from the really attractive women. Ok, they stay away from me.  | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:59:36 PM | OK, at the risk of sounding like I have an ego the size of Texas... here is the thought out of my own left brain. I consider myself perhaps a little above average in the looks category. Yes, there have been times that I have been told I was "handsome", "dashing", "very good looking"... I have also been told I couldn't dress in style if I had a nanny that numbered all the matching shirts and pants...and that my hair style went out with PAC MAN.... so I have heard it both ways. Here is the deal.... If you are decent looking and you are on a web dating site.... the stereotype is that you are just here to fool around and get lucky and that you have no conscious other than what is between your legs.
OP, if you find someone who you consider attractive (.. key word here, YOU find attractive....)... spend the time around them. Find out what floats their boat. By this time in life you should know after spending a few dates with someone just exactly what their intentions are. You should also , by this point in life, have mastered enough self control that your brain does the thinking.... and you will be plenty able to take care of your self no matter the method a man choses to try and charm you for your womanly favors.
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:09:32 PM | I wouldn't base my decision whether to continue a relationship with this guy on what you perceive his attractiveness level to be. Attractiveness is wholly subjective, and maybe YOU have exactly the look that he's always idealized finding in a partner. You're a gorgeous and intelligent lady!
Just as with any budding friendship/relationship, be careful. But, I'm wishing you the best! | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:21:39 PM | | My brother turns heads wherever he goes. The women that turn his head are the ones that other men tend to overlook. They too tend to wonder what he sees in them, but to him they are beautiful. The only way you are going to find out if this man is sincere is to spend time with him. | |
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| Help-- he's TOO attractive!
Posted: 5/8/2008 7:22:51 PM | Wait and see. With any relationship, you have to spend time slowly learning who the other person is. You may find that he is a jerk. You may find that he's okay, or even fantastic. Just invest a little time finding out what he's all about. Meanwhile, have fun dating him. If things aren't right, you'll know soon enough. Do listen to your own intuition if things should go sour, though.  | |
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