| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:18:25 AM | What do you consider too be a long distance realionship?What amount of driving time is too much?
For me as long as it's on the Island its cool,if the feelings/desire are there an hour is not a long time/drive to at least see where it might go.
I wouldn't be comfortable starting a friendship/realionship with someone that lives in Moncton,Halifax etc...
How far is too far for you?Are there any other deal breakers that would deter you from being with a potential partner?
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/11/2008 4:18:18 PM | I travel a lot for work anyway, so for me distance wouldn't necessarily be an issue. I've got a lot of friends in Halifax and area, so to travel over there to meet someone would be fine for me. I could always make a weekend out of it. And from where i'm living right now it's only a 3 hour drive anyway.
I'm not completely settled in PEI and for my line of work i don't need to stay here, so i think if a relationship in another province was starting to develop into serious potential, that may make me consider looking into moving. I don't have any kids though, i think that would make a big difference for many people. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/11/2008 5:51:21 PM | That is the same for myself^^^I travel for work all over the maritime s. I feel just as comfortable in NS and NB as I do on PEI. I will always hold PEI close to my heart. And really...we are really just a skip over the Bridge, or an afternoon sail away.
Beyond NS, NB, and PEI...it would have to be extraordinary reasons.  | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:21:59 PM | | Ive done the far away relationships and for me and what im looking for, its not for me. I dated a girl in NS in January and the 4.5 hour drive every weekend and only weekends was not for me. I attempted to date a girl in NB a few weeks ago and again, just weekends was a killer. My ideal relationship is one that can grow. Weekends you cant really do that. How do you call and say, lets go to the movies, I need to go shopping, wanna come? If it gets serious, who moves where? I did date a few women 45 minutes away and that was great. I spent a few nights a week with them and the weekends. It also gave us the independance with the distance. So for me, the far away relationship doesnt work for the goals I have for my life | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:03:50 PM | | That is definitely the ideal situation, but if a person can't find that ^^^ locally...one has to search away. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:51:52 AM | I did date a few women 45 minutes away and that was great. I spent a few nights a week with them and the weekends. It also gave us the independance with the distance.
You also can get the feel for wether you want it to become more permanent or just remain friends,good for you singleislander for at least leaving your options open.
The thought that a person could miss a great thing,because they restricted themselves to the same town saddens me.I think love is worth a hours drive ,3 and 1/2 or even 2 is a bit too much for me.
Unless they are willing to move to the Island I really see no sence getting to know each other,feeling could develope and someone gets hurt.
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:56:07 AM | Hey Peiprincess... ((and everyone else )) I'm back girl! Couldn't stay away from the forums 
Just had to get me motor up and running again ((( Yeah I know I talk alot )))
I have to say that an hour or so, give or take, isnt to bad of a distance to be seeing some one but once you go over two, then three and so on, it only gets frustrating.
I have to agree with "singleislander"... Makes it hard to go to a movie, shopping or anywhere together with distance like that between two people!
Then again, if two people were to meet online, got to know one another, and ended up being very compatible with one another, hopefully there would be something that could be worked out... one or the other moving for instance!
Just me and my lips flapping away again lol
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:06:14 AM | | Relocating isn't so easy when you established someplace else. Kids are in school, they have friends, activities to consider. Plus if you have been in a particular job for a long time, you have pension and other considerations. Property, the list could be endless. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:14:43 PM | | Bingo CFA. I work for the Government and I can not be relocated, so unless I met someone who was well off financially or was willing to move to the Island, it is just wasted time, for me. FRiendships are great, the odd visit, but why start something that cant be finished | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:17:17 PM | Welcome back Cindy  .You have been missed,now we can spice up the forums again lol! 
All valid reasons ComefromAway and singleislander,not to start anything that would require someone to lose a job,pension etc...
I'm glad to see that some if not most agree that an hour or a bit is not consider long distance,or to far a distance not to give it a shot.
I wouldn't move off Island but anywheres on the Island is up for debate.The thought of not watching my Grandsons growing up is to unbearable the loss I would feel is not worth it. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 1:44:22 PM | | A big problem for me is that even if i do meet a guy who lives nearby, the relationship is pretty much going to be long distance half the time anyway. I work offshore 5 weeks on 5 off. When i'm off for 5 weeks i can go anywhere and do anything i want. But when i'm on I'm in the middle of nowhere in the Gulf of Mexico. Talk about long distance. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:38:16 PM | Hi Captain Butterfly my brother in-law is a Captain and works in Trinida,he is gone for 6 weeks home for 6 weeks .
My sister always says she has the best of both worlds a man when you want one and gone when you get sick or irritated with one lol.
They have 3 beautifuls kids and really do compliment each other,when he is home he is very much the husband/family man.
They have been together 17 years on the 18th of this month,guess what i'm saying is it's really up to the indivual on what type or hard they want to work on a realionship. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:09:43 PM | I hear what you are saying about the " up root and move" situation ! I guess no it wouldn't be as easy as it sounded when I was typing in up 
Thank you very much peiprincess, it's good to be back! I sure missed these forums and you guys, and all the chitter chatter! Seems like the forums have slacked off a bit!
We gonna have to get it back up and buzzing
So look out readers
Also I see what you mean about moving and missing the Grandchildren as well! So no It wouldn't be that easy of a thing to do
((( I must have been gone back to my early 20's when I posted that )))
That's when I moved away...
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:10:43 PM | Too far is out of the province I think.
My kids are grown and the youngest is due to leave the nest in a very short time, but I still don't want to take myself out of their lives.
I am looking forward to grandchildren some day and would rather be as close to them as humanly possible.
If the kids were to move away that is something I would have to deal with of course.
But I would never move for love of a man, nor would I want him to move to me.
I would feel so absolutely guilty if he left children behind for me. Ugh! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:30:27 PM | | Thanks peiprincess, it seems though that women are more willing to deal with their partner working at sea for long stretches than men are. I think it would have been different to if i had met someone while i was still going to school, before the long shifts at sea started. Oh Well, i do love my job though, and i'm sure I'll find someone who apreciates that somewhere. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:08:21 AM | This is a great thread! It's something that is bound to come up for us on POF too, since the site is cross Canada and everywhere else too!
I'm not sure what my limit would be, guess it would depend, as you said Princess, on how much feeling was involved. I wouldn't go round the corner for a guy I didn't feel good with, but I might cross the ocean for one I did like a lot. I guess the distance I would travel is relative to the strength of the relationship possibility.
I THINK I'd even travel to PEI for the right guy, or was that the right lobster? Maybe it was the right church? Hummmm, nope, I think I'd cross the straight for a great guy who could make my heart sing.
Welcome back Cindy, so good to see you again. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/19/2008 1:16:33 AM | | It just feels like if I restrict myself to finding someone on PEI, which I love with all my heart, I'll be alone for a long long time. Talk about finding a needle in a hay stack! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:44:38 AM | Again I'm going to comment...
All in all, I guess it would have to do with "The actual meeting someone" and "The actual moving away / or not moving away! We can all say what we think we might do, but when the needle is found in that hay stack, one may have a different point of view! (((No pun intended >>>> needle/point)))
But seems like there is still more hay than needles
Thank you Lady Mara, it is good to be back amongst the good people I have chatted with in Plenty of Fish...
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 5/25/2008 8:31:52 PM | The moon is too far, although that Branson Billionaire fella is apparently working on some kind of touristy shuttle, so even the moon will be in reach before long! lol
I drove to Ohio 2 years ago to meet a guy I'd been chatting online with for months! We just had to meet and he couldn't leave his country, for reasons that are noyb! ;) .. Anyway .. I suppose if it had been "love" I would have moved - why not?
I have met guys who've come here from N.B., whatever.
If I were currently looking for a relationship and met someone from Australia (hint!) lol .. I would definitely go there! Been looking seriously in the direction of BC for sometime now. Anyway, I'm here for now - til the surgeon is done sawing away!! lol ..
I just think it would really suck to meet someone that you click with 'that' well and then live to regret not taking the leap. Reminds me of that song - when you get a chance, I hope you dance .. blahblah .. and I know . .. it's a lot easier for me, no children, no family. Saying good-bye to friends would be hard, but then .. PEI is a great vacation spot and I already know the Best beaches! | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 6/30/2008 2:33:09 PM | Depends!! I have on my profile fishing within 8 miles radius of melksham( that way I can avoid congested cities such as Bath/Bristol/Swindon.
If someone really takes my interest, and the route to them is a nice cross country drive id consider 25 miles 40 even. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 4:44:35 PM | Well Gary, call me dumb or numb or whatever, but what the heck are you doing commenting on a thread about how far is too far for a relationship, and saying that 25 to 40 miles would be considered by you, when you're posting in a thread in a country across the ocean from where you live?
I know that sounds rude of me, but what I mean is this: If this is a topic in which you're interested why not post it on a thread in England where you may have a chance of catching the interest of some local (or 25 to 40 miles away) lady, who shares your ideas and your local as well?
As for me, I'm across the strait from dear ole PEI, but would happily make the commute if the bait were as fine as I remember island men can be. AND, if a willing and worthwhile island guy were interested in me, I'd make it worth the trip for him too. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2008 2:29:26 AM |
As for me, I'm across the strait from dear ole PEI, but would happily make the commute if the bait were as fine as I remember island men can be. AND, if a willing and worthwhile island guy were interested in me, I'd make it worth the trip for him too.
Good for you lady,recently I have changed my mind on only looking in PEI.
Sometimes you have to be open to change,never close any door's we might be surprized at who is knocking! | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:38:27 AM | | Travelling within the Maritimes isn't too far. Of course, getting to know a person before a trip is very important. I have managed to include an introductory meeting in some of my trips to Halifax to visit my daughter. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:32:00 AM | I'm sorry Lady Mara but Like Gary - I didn't realize that only people from a certain area could post in that area... is that something new??
God forbid should we get some interesting threads going on PEI. I would guess that the number of guys from PEI that I have chatted with that read the forums, I could count on one hand... so if "someone from away" wants to post an opinion (WHICH I THOUGHT THESE FORUMS WERE FOR) - go for it. Thanks Gary! | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 3:15:43 PM | Absolutely agree shortbutsweet! Geez, the forums are for Opinions and we are ALL free to post in pretty well any thread we choose, anywhere in the world, not Just province to province but even from across the ocean! lol ..
It's Just his opinion and he is totally entitled to it, regardless of where he lives.
I also agree that we can use more people posting in our little Island threads, otherwise she's pretty quiet in here, don't you think?
OT - too far .. well there are days that a trip to town is "too far"! Then there are times like those when all the factors fall into place and a drive to Ohio happens! lol
I chatted online, on the phone etc. with him for 8 months! We met in an online game and weren't even looking but we found each other. Anyway 8 months later away I went in a borrowed car and my "date" paid the gas, it was a Blast!!! I'd do it again in a heartbeat, cept these days I think I'd keep it in Canada. That border can be tiresome, boring and the candy sux!! lol
Welcome to PEI! I figure if we can get 'em to cross the bridge... 
It's still a friendly (ok friendlier) place .. compared to many ... mostly 
A.S.is'
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