| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 4:41:42 PM | Seriously....they're total strangers....you're a total stranger.....so what is the loss if nobody responds to you? They're people who you don't know from Adam.
The plain and simple truth is this....most folks probably aren't attracted to 95-99% of the people they see on here anyway, or maybe they're not even serious about looking here in the first place. So why take it all so personal?
In any event, most of these people probably wouldn't even be a good match for you anyhow.
People need to stop taking it all on themselves if they have little to no success on this site....it's only a site.....
Most people who don't look like models will have a pretty rough go of it here....just like in a pub or a club...
Tis life....get over it. | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 5:32:53 PM | I heard that! I wrote a replty to a guy(as a courtesy) I did not have to respond at all, I said sorry we are not a match, happy fishing I hope yiu find the 1.
He wrote me back a rude e-mail saying that "I was not all that,( I never said I was) and what was I looking for Spics and brothers with big junk" OMG! what an ass! I just blocked him and reported him!
No wonder he can't get a woman.  | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 5:47:54 PM | | Good topic SteveBeairsto, Glad you brought it up ... I just look at profiles and because they saw me looking at them, looking at me, well then they emailed as they thought I was interested and then had to email back to say no not at all....some emails I just DON"T reply to and who is going to get me the "PlentyPolice" You are right people should get over themselves and realise that not everyone is going to be remotely interested, in the colour of their hair, what they are going to say about themselves, or their collection of GI Joe dolls etc etc | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:17:34 PM |
I just look at profiles and because they saw me looking at them, looking at me, well then they emailed as they thought I was interested and then had to email back to say no not at all...
Ah say...ah say ah DEW believe there's a way of turning off your profile so you can peruse discreetly.
I certainly wish those East Coast women would find it...
Cheers to the OP! DAILY it seems someone pauses in the doorway as they're exiting and says in a carrying voice "NO ONE NOTICED OR APPRECIATED ME HERE! THIS PLACE SUCKS! I'M LEAVING! DON'T TRY TO STOP ME , EITHER! I'M OFF FOR A LIFETIME OF LONELINESS!" But politely , of course. | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:23:17 PM | They care because it is human nature to care. You are human are you not. We all are and we all have feelings we all have a heart. You may hide it. You may deny it. You may pile all the garbage of your personality on top of it but it is still there. It still haunts you. It will not be denied. It wants to love and be loved. It is who we are. You may pretend that you don't care. You can be sarcastic and hostile. You can be mean and angry. You can be nonchalant and dismissive. You can be all of those things but underneath it all there still beats a heart that can feel. A soul.
Here you throw out a hand into a crowd of thousands from all over the world. To not have a single one reach back would be painful to say the least. So yes some are bound to take it as a rejection from not just you but the other 60,00 online at the time. Perhaps you are able to blow it off to save yourself from the pain but not everyone is so dismissive of their feelings. Your post is at its best insensitive at its worst cruel. We should never belittle the pain of another person whether you know them or not. You will be in pain someday we all are way t o often. Wouldn't it be nice to know that at least one person on the planet cares enough to reach out a hand when you need one.
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 10:46:29 PM | Daobe, Are you serious!?! C'mon, really!?!
Here you throw out a hand into a crowd of thousands from all over the world. To not have a single one reach back would be painful to say the least. So yes some are bound to take it as a rejection from not just you but the other 60,00 online at the time. Perhaps you are able to blow it off to save yourself from the pain but not everyone is so dismissive of their feelings. Your post is at its best insensitive at its worst cruel. We should never belittle the pain of another person whether you know them or not. You will be in pain someday we all are way t o often. Wouldn't it be nice to know that at least one person on the planet cares enough to reach out a hand when you need one.
I'm soory, but you have missed the point here. POF is a social site. Period. The vast majority of folks are here looking for a good amd positive experience. If you come on here you understand that there is a chance that no one will find you interesting that day. You also understand that if no one out of a sea of 60000 hands reachs back to you, you are doing something wrong. this site is not here to help you if you are in need. That is not it's function. Yes if you reach out in need, people will help, but if your desperate need is a date then no one here is your prostitute.
If you are not able to blow it off then you need to take some serious stock of your priorities.
Yes it can be a bit of a downer if you are not being responded to. My advice... send your profile into profile help. | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 10:55:16 PM | Personally the way I see it is if I write to a woman she doesn't respond then it just tells me she's not interested and in some cases not all it tells I'm a waste of her time air and space but do I care once either of these happen not at all I know I'm better then what someone else thinks and move on.
Just move on if the person your interested in won't respond because each of you out there are better then what one person thinks.  | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 11:17:25 PM | People do take this internet dating seriously...I dont , "At all"...Its a big play field for some of the people on these sites...
Meeting friends is important...Ive met some really cool folks on POF...Mostly through the forums...
I stay away from the gamers and louses , "Its not hard to spot them"...
This is a social experience , "treat it that way"...
This whole internet dating is a bit of a joke anyhow...Ill tell anyone to use it as cheap entertainment...If you can meet friends through this site, "Your much better off" ... | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 11:18:57 PM | Gotta disagree with the OP on this one. A lot of people do come here hoping to find a meaningful relationship. If I send out an email, I send it out thinking that this person *might* be "the one". I'm looking to talk to that person and get to know that person and see what happens from there. Most won't be right for me, but maybe one will be someday and it's possible that I'll find her right here.
I know I don't present myself perfectly, but I like to think I make myself into at least a worthwhile investment of time for most women. And I believe that I will make a woman very happy someday. So, I think I'm worth replying to so that we can both give a relationship a chance.
To not get a response tells me that not only am I not "the one"... and nobody can truly know from a profile, some pictures, and one email. It also says that I'm not even a remote possibility. Not even worth the time to say "Hi" and see where it goes from there. For someone to tell me that I'm not even a slight possibility does take a shot at the ego. I understand why people get upset.
At this point, I've gotten used to it. I probably don't like it any more than I used to, but I haven't complained about it except for this post. I know there are very good reasons why people don't respond to say "thanks, but no thanks". So, I've learned to accept it. | |
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/9/2008 11:57:11 PM | Well then canam miles. I do have another side to me as well I guess you'd like to see it.
First the point I intended to make oh narrow minded one was that people post to the forums looking for advise, opinions and help. Not dates. If you intend is to get a date from the forum you are the desperate one not I or anyone else that post here. Second this is more then just a social dating site if you didn't notice there are a vast number of people here simply looking for friends. Not dates, not one night stands, not F**k buddies, just friends to chat with, email, socialize. If I want a date I don't need to get one of the internet I can just go get one. Its not that difficult you just ask, be yourself, be respectful, funny if you can and don't look like a slob. Never had a problem so desperation on my part or anyone else's was not in the equation. Third grow a heart. People don't have to expect to be rejected anywhere ever for anything. Come as you are someone will like you. Oh and lastly I certainly never needed a prostitute for anything as matter of fact I don't even think I know any or were to find one. Your entitled to your opinion but don't think you have the right to patronize me or anyone else if your not asked to.
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| Here's something that NEEDS to be said.....why do people care if nobody responds to them or not?
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:44:25 PM |
Your entitled to your opinion but don't think you have the right to patronize me or anyone else if your not asked to.
Hmm... are you not the guy that said that the OP's post was insensitive and cruel.
The real point is the same that every othewr person has pretty much said. You are taking this site much to seriously If you feel as hurt from the rejection of faceless strangers as you seem to be. I did not say that you get prostitutes. I said that people are not here to help you (like a prostitute).
I am also gonna give you a hint. The forums are a great way to meet people to DATE. I still suggest that you send your profile to profile help if you can not get any responses from 60000 people. If it hurts you that much to not be successful here, then perhaps this is not the place for you. It is suppossed to be fun not hard. | |
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