| A better profile
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:18:57 PM | Hey everyone, this is just out of curiosity and I'm NOT seeing how many people I can get to look at my profile haha promise! but what if any changes/improvements might I make to my profile?
Is it important to have a long about me or ideal partner type description or just keep it short and sweet. In general I like to keep it somewhere in between, just list the basic points, I mean my lifes story shouldn't be necessarily, isn't that the point of meeting, to get to know each other better? As for the ideal partner description maybe it's not the best idea to be too specific or anal as its likely it will be hard for anyone to match all of them. Personally I think its important for an ideal partner to look after themselves and when I say that I don't mean that they dress well and eat out all the time, rather I mean that they are healthy/have a healthy lifestyle and are happy people. I dont know how I would put that better or if I even have to but thats what I'm here for so feedback please=) | |
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| A better profile
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:30:06 PM | It's not a bad profile, but here are some things you might want to consider.
I'm not interested in dragging someone all over the place, what I want is to move forward together.
Just a side note, I will reply to all messages from people who meet my criteria (basically anyone 18-25), however I am less likely to reply to one liners like, "Hey baby whats going on" I'm not here to have single line conversations, I'm actually interested in meeting new people.
In my opinion, this entire thing can go. It sounds negative. Why can't you say instead that you really value having a good conversation, and have respect for those who can easily open up and talk? You can still stress that you are interested in meeting new people, and most of us are less likely to reply to these one liners. But you will still get them. Or worse, you will get the ones who just put an emoticon in the message. Oh well, it happens, and saying this in your profile will not deter it. Also, your profile says you are looking for friends, but I feel like I am getting a mixed message. Do you want to date someone?
If you are just looking for friends, maybe consider putting more interests up. People who are like minded and searching are more able to find you through them. I have heard others say you should have at least a dozen for this type of profile. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 6:46:54 PM | | Thx for that constructive response, some very good points indeed. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 7:06:35 PM | Yeah, more interests is good and the second half of the first date makes no sense.
But, here is something else that makes no sense to me. I see profiles from young pretty women that are really horribly written. But as long as pics show her as pretty, she has over 100 favorites. Well, to my admittedly non-female eye, you look like the male equivalent of something like that. Not that you don't have good stuff to say - you do. But, you should be getting tons of favorites and contacts on your pics alone.
So, I am curious what women think. Am I wrong about OP's good looks? Or are women not nearly as shallow as men? | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 7:20:28 PM | | Yes, he is very beautiful. And women are not nearly as shallow as men. In general, that is...there are exceptions to every rule. I think it also makes a difference in the amount of favorites if you put "seeking intimate encounter". That seems to rack up the favorites, is what I've noticed. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:16:50 PM | Yep, he's very pretty, and he looks like he's totally aware of it. That sort of thing spells "trouble." Hardly any really beautiful men are really worth it. Unless they're gay, and you can appreciate their beauty without dealing with relationship bullshit.
OP, your profile is fine, except for the headline. Change that at once. Virtually anything else would be better than what you have. (Exceptions: "Nice guys finish last." Never use that, never say it. Don't even think it or read it. Just no.)
If you could get some pics of you smiling and looking like the mythical "nice guy," I'm sure you'd be more than happy with the response you get. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:57:43 PM | Haha ursula that made me chuckle, I'm not an insecure guy and I'm not an idiot so I do know I was blessed with the absence of the ugly stick and I'm not one to keep asking how do I look, how do I look nor do I think or obsess over it. As for smiling well you might not be able to notice it even if I was smiling in a pic this small but a while ago I smashed 2 of my teeth and although they are now filled, it is one thing I cant help but be conscious about at least until I save some money and get a crown. As for the heading I will take your advice and change it now thanks=P
Nursin the reason I had what I'm looking for as a friend, was because I don't think I've ever dated someone I didn't know pretty well. After I thought about it I realised how this may be confusing to people looking at my profile so I changed it. Once again thanks for the advice guys and enjoy your Saturday night=) | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:58:53 PM | You're welcome. And it's Friday night.  | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 11:00:54 PM | | hahahaha, ursula...I no sooner thought it, and you posted it. | |
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