| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:27:06 PM | Hi and thanks in advance to all that respond. I've been on POF for a couple years on and off now, so now i'm back and need help. I usually get a lot of views on my profile but nothing, same goes with responces....."read" but no reply. So i'm sending out a distress signal to anyone who wants to help....please be brutally honest and don't hold back.
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:56:18 PM | I know headline is meant to be a joke. Doesn't work for me.
For main pic you need closeup of your smiling face. If it was not for the hat, I would take #3, crop it and use it. If you have similar one without the hat, use that; if not, then I would go with #3.
Couple interests don't highlight. Rephrase them so they do.
Not a fan of "Hey and welcome to my profile". Just dive in - the intro in the paragraph is fine.
Get rid of children line. That question is "do you want to make children with the partner you seek". You don't. If you want to say that you are OK with dating a mother, say it in another way.
If you talk about being funny, but don't put in any funny bits in profile, you come out as if you are making it up. Make some jokes somewhere in it.
In "First Date" I would avoid observation about first dates and just present a scenario. You did, just not in details. | |
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:58:18 PM | I agree with the suggestions given to you by Yev, above.
I think you'd be better off if you did a delete and started fresh. JMO
Too many mixed signals here for me.
Work on the photo for main.
The about me section is just that. This is where you put together a couple of paragraphs that tell us what kind of man you are. What are your strengths?
Character and personality traits. Right now yours sounds like the majority on here, nothing stands out. Honest, loyal, trust... blah, blah, blah. Everybody uses the
same 3 descriptors. It's fine to use them if they are 'who' you are, but leave off the 'have to earn all of these things first' part.
Please include a paragraph about the type of woman you are searching for,
I'm sure you can do better than 'lover and best friend', has to be a better way of
saying that. What attributes and personal characteristics are you attracted to?
Write about it, let the women know if they fit what you want.
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:30:35 PM | Well....that was informative!
bucsgirl......thanks that really does help. I guess i'm better in person with certian things like quick witted humor and being original is tough due to the fact that i think everyone on gods green earth has already come up with something. Whatever happen to meeting people the old fashion way, chatting and spending time togeather....whoa now there's a concept! This is why i'm not in sales, i could'nt sell ice to an eskimo. Selling yourself in a profile to catch a womens attention is'nt the easiest thing concidering it's all been done and you have had the pleasure of hearing it all. | |
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:42:42 PM | Ohhhh okay! How about "maintenance manager." No, wait, um, "building services supervisor." Is that too misleading? Um, "industrial services."
Yeah, I'd go with that one.
P.S. Don't beat yourself up -- no one can sell ice to Eskimos. They have a lot of it already. | |
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:23:53 PM | Even saying "pick up lines" is putting in someone's subconscious grey matter that you're here to be the "pick up" guy.
Not a label anyone wants...unless that IS what you want.
I'm going to do the rare thing and disagree with ursula. If you do fill in profession, a misleading, fluffy job title.....if you're a janitor, say you're a janitor. Anything else...may as well load the ammo and shoot yourself in the foot.
I speak from experience....had contact with someone whose profession was listed as "transportation engineer" or something similar. Then told me he was a truck driver...no biggie...I did go meet him. Long story short...he was a "fluffer" a polite way to say he was less than upfront. Putting a "fancy name" on something doesn't make it attractive....if it's horse poo it's horse poo....no matter what you call it. It still stinks.
I'm sure there's some creative way to spin even stinky stuff...but once someone is there and makes the amazing and disappointing discovery that the "fancy" stuff is manure. There's no backpeddling out of that. | |
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:27:30 PM | | Once again bucsgirl thanks...very insightful. Unfortunatly i've never been a great writer so i usually make up for it in person with witty banter and sarcastic remarks. I can usually make anyone laugh, now trying to portray my actual personality onto this screen....well that's another story. Now here is an extremly dumb question, i'm curious as to how much me not wanting children is actually affecting my chances even with the women who have "Undecided/Open". I'm not sure how to put this, i do like children and if i was to have them i know i would be a great dad. If something should happen and we have a child i'm not gonna freak out and leave the country if you catch my drift. I would love and care for my child no matter what. Well i guess it's more of a deep rooted issue cause i come from a broken marriage, never the less i'm just curious to hear from a womens stand point on that. | |
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:41:29 PM | Yes, thanks, Bucsgirl, you've given me something to think about. I will definitely give the issue of profession some consideration. I just hate to see that spot left blank or, god forbid, filled with something like, "Yes, I have one" or "Ask me!"
OP, you're talking about children you MIGHT have with a partner, but what's really a bigger issue, IMO, is how you feel about the children a woman you're dating might already have. Are you open to dating women who have kids? With that in mind, you have to choose what you think best suits your answer.
It's the kind of thing you might have to address briefly in your profile. As in, "I don't want to have children, but if you have already some, I don't mind." | |
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| Can someone please pull out the first aid kit and repair my profile!
Posted: 5/11/2008 3:17:52 AM | Thanks ursulaMajor,
That's just the phrase i was looking for, i absolutly don't mind dating a women who has children. Been there done that in the past, i just don't to be branded as some big meanie cause i don't want children of my own. Like i said though stuff happens in life and if does then i will be the best damn dad out there. | |
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