| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:56:46 PM | | Im an 18 year old male and have been friends with a 15 year old female for some time. Recently she has been making sexual advances towards me and i just wanted to know if the age difference was okay for dating and any form of sexual activities. Like is it legal for us to do anything being the ages we are and being in ontario. I just dont wanna get in any trouble, like she is a really nice girl and i do like her. Please i do need some help with this soon like she really wants me and i cant hold off forever | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:07:21 PM | Funny you should ask - and timely. The law in Canada just changed…
"It is now illegal for adults in Canada to have sex with a partner under the age of 16, one of the new provisions of the Tories' violent crime law that came into effect on Thursday.
The Tackling Violent Crime Act raises the legal age of sexual consent in Canada to 16 from 14, the first time it has been raised since 1892.
But the law includes a "close-in-age exception," meaning 14- and 15-year-olds can have sex with someone who is less than five years older…"
cbc
may 1, '08 | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:09:24 PM | Yes you can hold off. You are 18.... find someone your own age to play with. She is nowhere near old enough to make adult decisions..... it is up to you as the *hopefully* more mature one to realize that at this age 3 years is a world of difference.
Tell her to contact you when she is 18 and if there is still interest then go ahead.
Just MHO.... | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:05:32 PM | If I remember correctly from my legislation class, it is legal for 2 persons to consent after the age of 12 to engage in sexual activity if they are within 2 years of each other but not exceeding 16. for example a 16 and 14 is ok, 17 and 15 not ok.
I apologize if my information is inaccurate however none the less it is not legal to sleep with a minor if you are 18 or older no matter the amount of years between you. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:21:42 PM | Yes, it’s legal. She’s fifteen; you’re eighteen. She is legally allowed to have sex with someone who is less than five years older. That includes you.
That doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Or a bad idea. Just legal. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:38:57 PM | | She is too young. Put her on the back burner and keep looking. There will be tons of women closer to your age out there who will gladly turn a young stud like you every which way but loose. Find some wild thang in her thirties who has a young guy fetish and have the time of your life. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:01:07 PM | | Legally I don't know, but if she decided to ever 'cry rape' you will be in a LOT of trouble. But as for in general, you should REALLY hold off. At that age neither of you are fully aware of how birth control works and how sometimes even when you do it right, it STILL doesn't work. And I really think you don't want to risk getting a 15 year old pregnant do you? Wait for awhile, you'll be glad you did. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:44:25 PM | forgetting the man / woman scenario
why
15 = girl
again...15 = girl
you are legally a man...in Ontario you can vote, you have civic, moral and adult responsibilities
find someone your own age
to me, the other thing is this...asking the question is all the answer you'll ever need...you know its wrong | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:49:40 AM | I have to agree. It is wrong to do it. But it aint easy to say no. Trust me been there done that. When daddy is at ur front door, it opens ur eyes alot! Especially if his little girl is in your bed at that time. That is a night I wish i didn't remember.
Very similar situation. She 16 me 21. We worked together, and got to talking, then got to kissing, on and on, etc. Went on for a year. That is the only thing that saved my Hide. And, he didn't know when it started. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:16:42 AM | | If you "like her" don't do it. I realize you'll do whatever you want anyways, dispite the advice, so if you have sex make sure you use protection. 15 years old is too young to have sex, in my opinion, I realize these days 12-13 year olds are having sex but it's just sad. At least wait until she turns 16. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:54:31 AM |
wow im confused like you say its 16 and but then you say 14 -15 can if im not 5 years older...so im only 3 so can or cant i
Legally, you can. That doesn't mean there aren't people out there that will consider you a slimebucket. The reason you shouldn't have sex with her (unless you have to repopulate Earth, which is unlikely) is the same reason a 50 yr old guy shouldn't... its not his age that matters, its hers.
At 15 she is just "blossoming" and probably sexually and emotionally confused. Jeez, just look at the dipsh!t things 20 yr olds post on here. She has chemicals running through her brain (as do you) that she needs to mate with someone she has a connection with, as though we still live in the Stone Age. She gets crushes on her teachers or other adults. She's thrilled to death that an "older" man of 18 talks to her (even though many would still consider you to be still a kid).
In many ways, she is like some poor farmer who wins the lottery and is itching to spend it. Maybe he would love to buy a warehouse full of Elvis collector plates or ocean front property in Saskatchewan, but it doesn't mean you have to be the sleaze that sells it to him.
Even a willing victim is still a victim. If you want to be seen as a man, then wait until she's old enough to make that decision. Otherwise, you may be in for more drama than you can handle. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:49:16 AM | | OP - allow her time to 'grow up'! She may desire you - but you must have the restraint to hold off! Keep her as a friend until she can make an informed and mature decision. Legal or not - morally you must be the man that you are in this situation. Think with the head on your shoulders first - before 'Mr. Happy' tells you to do something you may regret! She is still a child! | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:53:37 AM | tdk13,
I have just read through all the responses and you should by now have had your question answered.
But I do have to say that I think the fact that YOU are asking this question in the first place, tells me that not only is she far tooooooo young to be having sex, so are you.
If you cannot see that what you may be about to do is such a bad thing for you both, but more so for her, then you are obviously a very immature young man and you are not ready to be in a relationship that is that intimate.
Please do the right thing and tell her that it is not okay and to back off, then and either go look for a girl you own age or go have a cold shower.
Think of it this way, if you were her father would you be happy if some 18 year old had sex with his 15 year old little girl?
From my part if it was me and my girl, I'd want to shoot the dog that did it to her and boy would she get the sharp end of my tongue for some time to come.
Sorry, but I'm just a tad old fashion and probably will be condemned for it. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:11:20 AM | | OP, simply put, you can "date" her...just hold off on ANYTHING sexual til she's 16. unless she just turned 15, that's less than a year for you to wait -- for a girl you really like, that's not a very long time. so, show a bit of patience and self-restraint. meanwhile, use your hand. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:41:20 AM | NO NO NO SEXXXXXXX
She is 15...........
And the reason a 14 and 15 year old can get away with it without legal reprecussions is no one is of legal age. In the states, in most states if a girl is 14, and there is more than a 4 year age difference (which would assumingly give one power and control) you would be in deep do do. However here most states vary a bit. One would have to check individual states on the legalities.
My question to you would be............so what if she seems to be coming on to you?Control yourself.............................If you can manage to date and keep it in your pants, fine. Otherwise walk away from this. One year can be a long time with raging hormones. Best to leave it be. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:10:27 AM | (sighs) First the fact that you cannot understand the answer to the question of legality that *ohdriver* posted is of concern that you are immature at the _least_.
Most fifteen year old GIRLS do not even know what they want or even can make an informed decision about sex. She's feeling all sort of new hormones at this time. But IF you can date her and keep your ~ahem~ penis in your pants then give it a try. Right now, I'm thinking, you aren't mature enough to let your brain do the "talking" for you.
You said it yourself.....you are confused.....in more ways than one.IMHO. And if you do have sex, be prepared for the possibility that she could very well regret her decision after the fact. I have a daughter and when she was 15 there would be NO WAY that I would have EVER let her date you OR any other 18 year old man. Period.
Find someone else is my opinion, leave the little girls alone. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay younger vs older, age and consent
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:59:42 AM | She is emotionally immature.
So are 40/50 year old men and women who date 20 something men/women. Besides, having sex at that age is not inherently associated with immaturity.
What I feel is important is that you are only friends. It's purely a sexual encounter. If you are going to use her, the posts in this thread are irrelevant unless you are seeking validation for your thoughts and intentions. Hopefully, you are going to be a gentleman and show her that all men are not users and she can have great relationships with her clothes on.
It's legal... but it's nothing to be proud of. | |
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| Just wondering if its okay
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:24:08 AM | Even though the OP is from the Socialist Republic of Canuckistan and some of the answers ARE relevant you've got to remember that these forums are open to people from pretty much everywhere on the planet so ... DO NOT take ANY advice from here necessarily as LAW where you live. Going into court on a kiddie-diddling charge (State RAPE ) and stating you're grounds for a NOT guilty ruling by quoting some internet site like this will get you an EXTRA 10 years for stupidity!!
Use you're common sense (look it up) and figure on the fact you're asking strangers from across the globe if it is "right" ?? If you have to ASK then it ain't. Simple answer. WAIT. If there's some real connection there it'll still be there in a couple of years. Hang out, be nice but stay outta her panties until she is fully legal and lilkely mature enough to think of you as an old dude by then anyway.
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""First the fact that you cannot understand the answer to the question of legality that *ohdriver* posted is of concern that you are immature at the _least_.
Geeez. NOTHING to do with being immature. Normal!! You should read the results of the latest Ont. Grd 10 Literacy tests? Probably fairly typical for most of N.A. & Australia too. Once you get past the educrat's baffle-gab you realize what the STATS show is that only about 23% of high school kids (that includes graduates too) can actually understand what they're reading. | |
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