| Help with profile please
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:48:14 PM | I think the title says it all.
I notice I am a little short on good head shot style photos, I may attempt to take one of myself. I left the profile a little generic so as not to reveal too much and it has been my experience that readers tend to find any negative twist whether intentional or not so simple seems better.
Fear not I take the suggestions you may write to me as just that and all help is greatly appreciated. | |
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| Help with profile please
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:04:49 PM | Okay here it goes.
You're right, it is generic. I got no sense of who are. Just what you like to do. I think you're trying be funny with the "interest". I just don't take your profile seriously. Women probably won't either. Humor is good. You just need to tweak it.
Pics - I'd use your other head shot. The main one is too fuzzy. The high school grad pic, LOL, funny but come man.
I understand not giving away your identity. Just expand on who you are as a man and what you're looking for in a woman.
Keep chipping away and good luck.
Havoc | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 8:23:45 PM | First off, I don't know what you think your interests say about you, but you should know that they are not the norm for grown up people. You will get NO hits from people searching for like minded folks, and you should consider putting real ones in there (if you have any.) Naked coed gardening does not scream "Message this one, he's a real winner!". They do, however, give off an impression, albeit not a positive one.
Also, I don't know anything about the traits that make you unique after reading your profile. I know you are a nerd, and have some strange interests, but little more. You need to work on elaborating on the about you section, let the women out there know who you are, and why we should be messaging you as opposed to the other (more normal seeming) guy in the next profile. A good format is you as a person, what you like to do, and who you are looking for.
Where IS the section about what you are looking for? If you are looking for long term, this is important. You seem lazy about your profile, and it is not doing you any favors.
What is with the "space walks are the best!" comment? Do you do drugs? This sounds more weird than anything. Your profile falls way short of quirky, and if that is what you are going for, it doesn't work. Quirky can be good, but you need to put some thought into it. You are letting the reader do all the thinking, and it does not bode well for you, my friend. Some of the jokes are okay, but you could probably do better.
I don't like games or drama. I do like to be romantic. I also prefer to meet rather than continued cyber communications; there is much to be said for interpersonal contact.
In my opinion, this needs to go. If you need to say that you don't do drama, work it into the main body, as with the romantic thing. Also, the thing about meeting...uh....maybe you should save that for when you are talking? It sounds downright pushy, and women like to decide for themselves if and when they want to meet. If after you are messaging someone, the timeline is not satisfactory for you, deal with it then. No need to turn us off at the get go.
Your first date: So what if you don't drink coffee? Let the lady have whatever she wants! Just because you want to drink, say, cat piss, doesn't mean anyone else wants to. You can do better. (I like tea, by the way, but don't want to be told we aren't going for tea because my date doesn't like it.)
Your headline is generic, and could be improved.
Hope that helps. Good luck with your search. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 8:56:49 PM | Adding my two cents to the already good comments you have received.
Pics:
NYC (#1) - good profile shot.
Fuzzy (#2) - lose it. It looks like it's 15 years old. People want to know what you look like now.
with dog (#3) - Good shot. Use a cropping tool to get rid of the top 1/3 and right 1/8th and focus on you and the dog.
HS Pic (#4) - see comments for #2, only moreso.
Covered Bridge (#5) - can't tell what it is, really; bike more prominent than you.
On bike (#6) - keep.
Toga #7 - Underexposed, unflattering, old. Lose it.
Road shot #8 - Good pic. Needs a caption to explain what/where, and perhaps some cropping.
The four keepers make a good enough baseline. Add more as you get them.
Interests: nothing to add that Nursinggrl didn't already say.
About Me:
- sightseeing, not siteseeing.
Unnecessary, informationless, unhelpful statements:
- "I spend time at home and work, the usual grind typically."
- "I don't like games or drama. "
There is nothing in your profile to explain the sort of woman you're looking for. As another reviewer (OldFashionedCountryBoy) is so fond of saying, she needs to see your profile and say, "That's him! That's the man I'm looking for!" and then she needs to read the next part and say, "And he's looking for me!" You have nothing to describe what kind of woman you're trying to attract... and your profile isn't informative enough for it to be inferred.
First Date: Again, I defer to (and agree with) Nursinggrl's comments.
Good luck. I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 8:59:12 PM | Headline is sappy. Need to find something a bit more lively.
Some of those pictures need to go, I mean go somewhere other than here.
You need to list more interests, you must have more. Think.
The about me section was a cop~out. Take your time and do it properly.
This is where you describe yourself to your potential partner. What kind of man
are you? Bossy and ill tempered or caring and compassionate, depenable or a complete scatter brain? Write a couple of paragraphs about you, not the hum~drums of your daily activities. Also in this section write a few lines or a small paragraph about the type of lady you're searching for. What attracts you, her qualities.
The first date needs some work.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:24:46 PM |
I just don't take your profile seriously. Women probably won't either.
Ok, adjusted pics and humor.
Pics - I'd use your other head shot. The main one is too fuzzy. The high school grad pic, LOL, funny but come man.
8th grade actually  | |
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| Help with profile please
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:50:07 PM |
Adding my two cents to the already good comments you have received.
Pics:
NYC (#1) - good profile shot.
Fuzzy (#2) - lose it. It looks like it's 15 years old. People want to know what you look like now.
Pics adjusted and lines edited. The cropping will have to wait a day or so. | |
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| Help with profile please
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:57:36 PM |
First off, I don't know what you think your interests say about you, but you should know that they are not the norm for grown up people.
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Also, I don't know anything about the traits that make you unique after reading your profile. I know you are a nerd, and have some strange interests,
What is with the "space walks are the best!" comment? Do you do drugs?
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Your first date: So what if you don't drink coffee?
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A raw and honest critique thank you. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:05:29 PM | Looking better already - seriously.
One comment about interests; if it's underlined in blue, then that means that it can be clicked and searched on. Doing this will widen your potential matches, as more people will see you from those lists. I mention this because you have a couple that still aren't underlined, and I know for a fact that if you put "The Muppets" it will show up hotlinked, whereas what you have does not.
No, don't ask how I know this. And don't click on my profile in an attempt to find out either. 
Also, your profession - Government? You run a country? I know you say in your profile that there are constants, so maybe put something here about those constants.
The first date is still a bit pushy on the meeting. I happen to agree with your philosophy, but the simple fact is that a guy on a dating site who wants to go straight to meetings will be seen as overbearing/pushy, and perhaps a little creepy. Save it for when you're communicating with someone so you can gague how they react instead of putting it in their face right off.
Good work - keep at it! | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:13:32 PM | Chris,
Wow! Nice work! Your inbox should already be full!
Good luck, Havoc | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 11:52:20 AM | | Yep, it reads much better! I don't think you are a jerky wierdo anymore. Good for you, Chris. | |
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