| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:16:14 AM | | I have been on POF for about 3 months. I have noticed that mabye half of the profiles that I visit either have a blank for profession or some cute saying inserted. At first I wondered, "What else are they hiding?" Now I really want to hear from guys as to why this is blank. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:19:14 AM | my guess since its profession thats blank, they arer hiding their money ;)
I guess there are some women online who select men by profession and guys with something to lose tend to not want to say exactly. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:46:22 AM | | If men are here on this site for a long term relationship, the subject should come up. I think a lot of women will pass them by and they may miss a great chance. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:55:46 AM | | I see the exact same thing on womens profiles. Does that matter to me? Not at ALL it's love I seek not $$$$ Too many seek only financial security. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:34:31 PM | | If my profession matters, I don't need to know her. If she's primarily interested in my profession, she's not interested in me. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:40:38 PM | I see this with women all the time. To me, this is very important. While I'm not looking for money (I have my own) I tend to be look for people who are at or around my own intelligence/social/economic level and a profession is a good indicator of that.
It's not a deal-breaker but it's a factor. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:49:33 PM | I think profession tells me more about the person. To me it is just part of the whole picture and can make a difference on compatibility.
Thanks for your comments.
PS I did not mean to exclude women - all comments are helpful. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:50:11 PM | Roadpilot,,,,
I think if a woman passes a man by because he did'nt fill in his profession,, it is the woman that has lost a good chance to meet that man...
The woman is not such a prize as she thinks herself to be..
This question begs to be listed as a gold diggers question. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:07:01 PM | | I wish people would put in their profession or at least their highest education level achieved. Even if it didn't matter to me, men who lack any college education usually feel uncomfortable dating a woman with a doctorate. Plus there is just so much difference in life experiences, goals, ect... I've responded to emails from some men trying to gently tell them this by saying, "We just really don't have much in common". I've had some of them write back angry telling me that they are wealthy trucking company owners and who am I to assume they are poor because they drive a truck. This was not the case at all. I wouldn't care if they earned $1 million per year driving their truck, I still wouldn't have as much in common with them as I would with an out of work biology professor. I've also been dumped because of MY profession. I've had men who I've met in a club or at a social event chating me up like they really were attracted but when they ask what I do they make an excuse to leave. I can understand how they feel. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:11:02 PM |
I think they should replace profession with "average penis size (when in use) well, then you also would have to have a field for breast size, its only fair  | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:46:23 PM | It's not a deal breaker if they don't write their profession on their profiles, but it most certainly is if they hesitate or seem vague about what they do once I ask them. I simply don't have the time or energy to waste on jaded or paranoid people. And I'm way
too old (and tired) to play silly games. 
JMO | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 2:29:23 PM | | agreed with oldsoul. Leave it vague, then get to know the gal/man and find out what they do.....heck...medical field could be anything from Janitor in a hospital to Doctor....but I bet the doctor gets ALOT more mails than the janitor might if they filled out their actual professions. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:21:37 PM |
I think they should replace profession with "average penis size (when in use
But Bette
Then they would be required to
display photos as verification! | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:44:11 PM | Servman wrote:
"To me, this is very important. While I'm not looking for money (I have my own) I tend to be look for people who are at or around my own intelligence/social/economic level and a profession is a good indicator of that.
It's not a deal-breaker but it's a factor."
I agree, I feel this same way. Plus, if what's written in that blank is "unemployed" then I know not to even bother wasting my time.
That being said, I can understand why some don't feel comfortable broadcasting their profession but once we begin to chat, if they're very tight-lipped about it, I can't be bothered. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:11:03 PM | Now I really want to hear from guys as to why this is blank. - Roadpilot
> Why guys?
> Why don't you ask women? I have lost count of the women who leave their profession blank, or who insert some cute saying, as you pointed out. One woman wrote 'Mind your own business.' Someone else said 'Yes, I have one.' Another 'Good one.' Yet another 'Being a woman.'
> Hundreds of others just leave them blank - or write 'Ask me.'
> I can just see me writing to a complete stranger and, out of the blue, asking her what her profession is.
> So, Roadpilot, ask the women. Don't load the dice and make this look as if it is a man thing, like so many other negatives targeted at men. There are just as many women out there 'hiding' things as there are men, just as many screwed-up women as men.
> Best wishes - Soul Union. | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:14:06 PM | Soul Union,
I usually do ask the question, if they leave it blank........I just ask "so what do you do for a living and do you enjoy what you do?" I've yet to have anyone be offended by my asking this. I used to not specify my profession and would often be asked the same question and I was never offended by being asked but maybe that's just me? | |
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| Nor does the job reflect much of anything
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:34:00 PM | "So what do you do for a living?" is a pedestrian question that is usually followed by the even worse question of "so tell me about yourself." My narrative is a subtle snapshot of my life history, family background, political vision, level of intimacy sought with a woman, and flaws. I would hope that a woman would see it and get the clue that I am a complex man.
A person's vocation or career is generally some type of drudgery that is done to pay the rent. I'm pretty sure that one does not have a relationship of any kind with a job description. Nor does the job reflect much of anything. I'm a Doctor of Law. That would mean that I should, based on some of the comments above, be able only to have a real intellectual connection with a PhD or MD. That's the wrong approach. My best experiences have been with authentic, blue collar women, without advanced degrees or "career," who had something to say and were richly expressive with their emotions. My biggest duds were the big "professionally successful" women, who in MY experience were shut off from their feelings and were crude. They were failures as human beings. Message= career means nothing.
If any woman, after reading my narrative asks me something as trite as "so tell me about yourself" it tells me that she has nothing going on between the ears because she was too lazy to read my profile. It's even more insulting when her profile is 2 sentences worth of "I'm sassy, sexy, passionate, and looking for a real man. No losers. No pic no reply." The same goes for the job question.
The only thoughtful job questions should be, "does your work leave you emotionally drained...would there be some other vocation that touched who you are in a better way... would you rather be doing something else?" To finish, don't ask someone working at Walmart or 7- Eleven if they find their job personally fulfilling as that question misses the mark as well- right? | |
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| Lack of information in profession slot
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:43:34 PM | Since my profession is listed as "Queen of the Universe/Pagan Priestess," I can't complain when guys don't list theirs, BUT I am happy to share with someone who asks what it is I do to support myself.
And for you men who say women who ask this are golddiggers--nonsense. As several people have pointed out, professions give clues about people. | |
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| Queen of the universe
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:58:21 PM | Since my profession is not of particular interest to anyone on the forum and it is sort of given away when I have a photo up, there is no real need at the moment for it to be filled correctly.
Clowns will eat me too :-( | |
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| Queen of the universe
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:11:12 PM |
Clowns will eat me too :-(
Of course clowns will eat you. A recent study showed that most children are scared to death of clowns. My sons and their friends were, and when I asked them why, they gave two reasons: the Stephen King mini-series It and the movie Killer Klowns from Outer Space.
The only way to be safe is to petition the Queen of the Universe for refuge. | |
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| Queen of the universe
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:27:29 PM | 'Eh, it doesn't bother me that a man doesn't have his occupation posted on his profile. That would come up in discussion, usually sooner than later. I don't really care much what he does at the point when I'm viewing his profile. Unless, of course, he's an inmate. And if that's the case, then I'd probably find that out post-haste, seeing as it's one of the things I'm trained to do, is "find out" ~big grin~
Mine's not posted, uh, unless you believe that "part-time" brain surgery stuff with a smile, then well, hmmm, I don't think I'd want to talk to _that_ person, who believes that. ~shrugs~
*crazytimes1* - nope., yours pretty much speaks volumes as to what you do at the current time. I recognize that background and the uniform. | |
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