| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:52:06 AM | There's been lots of threads on height but I'm just wondering if maybe a lot of probs would be solved if a woman just didn't give her height with heels on?
I'll go out with guys, tell them my height but they are still initially sometimes shocked because I have heels on. A 3" heel puts me at almost 6'. It's got to the point where I started buying nicer flat shoes but its not well...the same as showing up in heels, ya know?
So I pose to the guys, do you think noting your height in heels is probably better for a woman because you both might be around 5'10" but if she wears heels, she is going to be a lot taller than you.
Or does this just not matter to you? | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:56:44 AM | Galmanual Revised Code 47821.552AZ.^&NNG442s6.DD44: The height a woman displays on her profile will first be determined by converting the number from English to metric/(4431+69*A-998)81/451-3
This will definitely make it easier for us guys to know... All we have to do now is figure out "A" and we'll know your height....
One less confused guy here....
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:01:26 AM | Alot of women do put this on their profile
As for me I don't care ... years ago I dated a girl that was 6'4" all legs and loved 3, 4, 5" heels ... some nights I'd have to stand on the step above just to kiss her goodnight. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:17:16 AM | Who cares how tall she is in heels?
It's how tall she is lying down that matters. 
Sorry, couldn't resist. :p
Anyway, seriously... for the most part, it doesn't matter to me.
How tall a woman is won't really affect my opinion of her in any way.
Sure, a tall leggy woman might be nice... but that's just appearances.
Being taller isn't going to change her personality.
Besides, I've dated women barely pushing 5'. LOL!
But if she's going to tell me her height... then I'd like to know what her actual height is.
If she wants to tell me how tall she is in her favorite heels too, that's fine.
Like many things... it's just another extra.
If you like heels, then wear them. If not... don't.
Just don't wear them for my sake. I don't care if you're short or tall.
As long as you're an incredible woman on the inside, you can win my heart. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:22:18 AM | Just curious....do guys really care if a woman they are attracted to is taller than them while wearing heels? I'm on the taller side, so I don't really have to deal w/ this....but I wouldn't care if it WAS the case.
Seems like women are more concerned w/ this. If so, why would giving your height in heels matter? A guy who thinks you are a cutie will still think so if you're just a couple inches farther away.
Or are you expecting potential suitors to exclude themselves (based on your stated preferences) because they are shorter than you when you DO choose to wear heels?
It always seemed silly to me to worry about the potential height difference that may occur during a VERY small portion of your daily life. I don't know many women who wear 3" heels other than on special occasions/going out......yet this insistence that the guy be taller than them in heels is widespread.
I mean really, how many hours in an average day are you going to be w/ your man AND wearing 3" heels? Why would you want to limit your dating pool just to ensure matching eye levels for that 1/1000th of your lives together.
Is it really THAT important for him to be taller than you every single second of your day?
Say he's your height & a fantastic guy, 22 out of 24 hours you see eye to eye on everything.....but since you plan to wear your heels for 2 hours out to dinner, that makes him not suitable dating material?
It baffles the heck outta me that some women (not pointing fingers at you, OP) continually whine that there are no decent guys out there while basing their selection process on a type of footwear they hardly ever wear for more than a few hours at a time.......... | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:38:32 AM | its a matter of attraction.
just like weight, race, hair color. Height is important to some of us. It's not about "me being taller than her", its what I find attractive.
I like petite women.
I had couple of dates with women around 5'5, 5'7 and they had high heels, so that put them right at my height. It was an instant turn off. The minute we stood up next to each other, I knew that the date was over.
its a matter of preference.... | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:46:47 AM |
its a matter of preference....
Totally and I don't begrudge guys who feel this way. We all have our "things". I'd rather know prior to this was a barrier than afterwards.
But there is alot of suprise sometimes at my height which is why I put this thread up. But putting clarification maybe in my profile is probably a good idea. Its not that I wear 3" heels all the time just when I'm dressed up, I find they often look the nicest with the outfits. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:03:32 AM |
It's how tall she is lying down that matters
You got that right Adam.... care to compare our heights? I can wear heels if you like....
OT: It really shouldn't matter like what many posters have said here. Besides, if you put your height in heels and then go on a hike with a new guy for the first date and he is 6'5", he's not going to be impressed that you lied about your height.
If it's an important thing to you, then just put in your "About Me" section that you like to wear heels and how tall they make you. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:04:25 AM | Maybe we should try this and also to be forced to put a picture up of yourself "naked", so we all would have a better understanding of your "true" body type......<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> 
Even better.......we could have pictures of all you women standing there naked with 4 inch heels on..........  Shakes head.......and they wonder why profiles are so hard to really interpret and understand.
OT.........I am all for POF either eliminating most of those specifics or making them all very very specific........such as height, weight, shoe size, clothes size, age, occupation, income, number of marriages, and children, and of course type of vehicle driven.....along with the number of vehicles, and last but not least.......square footage of your house.......
Just my opinion..........   | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:09:43 AM | Wouldn't matter to me, except I have heels of various heights, including flats. If my heels bother my guy, I won't wear them. They're just shoes.
But if it's going to be a big deal to other people, there's nothing stopping you from mentioning it in an email or over the phone. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:17:34 AM | Just as a woman refusing a man's interest on the basis of his height is horrifyingly and indefensibly shallow, a man who would care about a woman's height to the point that nice ladies like you would wonder if the women ought not to just start listing their "heel height" in their profiles is equally as bad.
Height means absolutely nothing, people! Really, I just don't get why people are so hung up on it. I don't get why guys (though they're guys I'm not meeting; every man I've known in my 34 years of life hasn't cared one way or the other about a woman's height) care about a woman who might be taller than they are, and I certainly don't get why a woman would care so much about not only a man's height in comparison to hers, but care about his height in comparison to the shoes she's wearing.
I get preferences, I really do. I prefer women with long, thick hair and large breasts. But it doesn't mean I'd refuse (even for a moment) to consider a woman with short hair and a smaller chest. It's a preference, and I have enough skill with the English language to know how to communicate the difference between "preference" and "requirement". I require that a woman doesn't smoke, that she isn't involved with a guy (and hasn't been for the past 4-6 months, so there's a sense of closure), that she doesn't do any recreational drugs, and that she's reasonably healthy (I don't want Barbie; nor do I want Roseanne). Past that, it's all open for discussion.
The difference there is significant. Preference, requirement.
I really wish people, men and women both, would get over this silly height issue. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:39:30 AM | | Most men don't care about height. It is usually the women who are concerned about height. A lot of women with about average height ( 5' 4" ) or shorter will only date much taller man such as 6 ft tall for example. The 5' 4" woman will wear 4 inch heels. That would make her 5' 8" with heels. Then she wants a man that is still at least 4 inches taller when she is wearing heels. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 12:52:23 PM | | I'm 6ft already. Add heeled shoes and I'll be what 6ft 3, 6ft 4 ? My special someone was hesitant enough due to the fact that I'm taller than him, you really think exaggerating that is a good idea? How about a "cares about height"/"does not care about height" option? | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 1:33:01 PM |
I'm just wondering if maybe a lot of probs would be solved if a woman just didn't give her height with heels on? When I see heel references in a woman's profile, I naturally assume she's got height preferences in men, perhaps bordering on superficial requirements. That's just me. Besides, don't most women wear heels sometimes or more often than sometimes?? Guys understand women wear heels.
So I pose to the guys, do you think noting your height in heels is probably better for a woman because you both might be around 5'10" but if she wears heels, she is going to be a lot taller than you. How is that, I'm 5'10", a 5'10" woman in heels is not going to be a lot taller than me. What does "a lot taller" mean? One inch taller? Two inches? Four inches? Significantly taller to me is like half a foot. It means different things to different people.
Or does this just not matter to you? A woman's height is insignificant to me as far as it relates to dating preferences. Now if I were looking to be the coach of a woman's basketball or volleyball team, maybe I'd be more concerned with women's height. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:40:58 PM | Bad idea to give height in heels as real height. Just give your actual height and say you like to wear 3" heels or something.
I don't worry about it, I'm a little on the taller side so it's not often anyone would touch my height even with heels. I'd actually just be a bit taken back by someone being that close to my height, but not a big deal, it'd just be an adjustment for me being taller than almost everyone I see.
I don't know anyone that wears heels all the time anyway, so height with heels would just be plain misleading or possibly outright lying, depending how you look at it. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:12:47 PM | | I can imagine it might be a problem if the date has the dreaded "short man's syndrome"...I like tall...itd be nice to look a gal inthe eye rather than the part on the top of her head! | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:42:05 PM | I went out with a woman who was 4' 6" 3 inch heels would not have helped anything. Me personally do not care about the height issue. I could always say you were a woman i could always look up to.  | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:50:27 PM | I once knew a tall girl in high school, we were friends. I think she thought more of it, and I think her mother did, too. Back to the story...her mother once told me that in order to respect a man, the girl needs to be able to look up to her man, physically.
She was a little old school, but it makes sense. A girl that is taller than her guy has the dominant position. Doesn't always square well with psyches.
Being 6'5 myself, I think I might be a little scared of a girl that could look me in the eyes. Heels or not. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:04:31 PM |
She was a little old school, but it makes sense. A girl that is taller than her guy has the dominant position. Doesn't always square well with psyches.
How does this make sense?
I don't even feel "submissive" around a guy who is taller than me. A woman who is taller than me certainly don't mean a thing.
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