| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:47:21 AM | Heard the following on a radio talk show......
The scenario:
Two people, a man and a woman work together. Each is very happily married to their respected spouses. This man and this woman both have a professional relationship with each other.... nothing more. However..........
They both feel an intense attraction to each other but both would never EVER consider having an affair. They each love their spouses immensely and each is totally committed to their spouse......
Yet.... the intense attraction exists and neither can ignore it.......
One night while both working late alone with no one else in the office, they are each at their desks busy with work. At the same moment they both look up at each other and a long stare ensues....... not a word is spoken.
The woman leans back in her chair and while looking at her coworker she put her hand under her skirt and starts to masturbate while gazing at him. He then unzips his pants and starts to masturbate while gazing at her....
Not a word is spoken and no physical contact is made between them during this act...
She gets her jillies off and he pops his cork.
They both go back to working and soon finish up their work and each leave both simply saying a professional good night and see ya tomorrow with no acknowledgement of what transpired.
Would YOU consider this cheating ? | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:51:39 AM | Now that is a hard question.
Did they or didnt they? Time to find a job away from each other so it does not go any further into this realm. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:52:15 AM | | A matter of semantics. Couples that have a sexually open relationship have a much braoder definition of cheating than those that don't. Cheating is only cheating when the agreed upon boundary of acceptable behavior is breached. The afore mentioned act is akin to masturbating to porn. Ultimately it is up to the couples involved if what happenned would be considered cheating -- If you would be afraid to tell your SO about what occurred then you already have your answer! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:54:46 AM | WTF...ewwwwwwwwww....thats just soooo wrong, yes of course it is in my book anyways...i couldnt justify this if my partner got it of in front of a woman who also got it of at the same time...just so wrong...(shudder)...... | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:59:32 AM | It all depends on the couples and how "open" they are sexually.
After all, some will do threesomes and such.
Plus, in some ways... it could be compared to looking at porn and pleasuring yourself.
However...
Did the spouses KNOW what's going on between these two?
Probably not.
Did the spouses agree that such was acceptable?
Doubtful.
This goes beyond porn... because, while you're "looking but not touching"... you're doing it with a person you will see on a regular basis. Someone you know you have an attraction towards.
Personally, yes, I'd say that what they did constitutes cheating.
I find it highly unlikely that either would admit to their spouse what happened. And that's the first sign that it IS cheating. If it's something you have to hide... or don't feel comfortable telling your partner about... then you KNOW that it's cheating. Simple as that. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:59:55 AM | Wowza! I'm not often speachless!
I don't think their minds were thinking of their spouses! I know I'd be upset if I found out my S. O. was jacking off while a gal was masterbating. I mean... those are some pretty private moments.
I also feel like those moments are going to lead to something else. At some point they are gonna fricken jump on eachother like Wild MONKeys!!!!!
So it was a weird kind of foreplay..........................
So yes... in my book it's a form of cheating | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:00:47 PM | | Hell yes!! If i found out a partner had done that he'd be kicked to the kerb and i'd be shouting NEXT!! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:01:06 PM | | i wouldnt say its cheating, buti know if my boyfriend did that, he would be my boyfriend no longer! If you know your partner would be unhappy with you doing that, you shouldnt do it, its simple. yes i think its wrong, but i wouldnt call it cheating. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:01:43 PM | | Well, I am going with, yea, because if my husband did that and I found out he'd no longer be my husband. You just don't "get off" for another person when you're married. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:02:21 PM | | Heres what decides it for me. When he goes home, his wife asks him what happened at work today, and he says "nothing" because he knows she'd freak out if she knew....thats cheating. If he goes home and says "Hun...you arent gonna believe what happened to me today....!" and tells her the whole scenario, then its possibly not cheating, depending upon what she says. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:05:08 PM | Syncopath took the words right out of my mouth : did they tell their SO's about this ?
It's cheating when you desire another and you don't try to forget/ignore those feelings. They may be patting themselves on the back for not touching eachother but the intent was there. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:10:50 PM | | DUH... ASk yourself this // if your partner did this would you be upset ? feel hurt ? feel cheated on ? of course .. anything like that is something that will hurt your spouse . | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:11:18 PM | | Yes, they cheated on their spouses. To me sex is an act that involves two people, with at least one of them reaching a climax. They both did, and as a result they cheated. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 12:15:51 PM | If you desire someone other than your SO you're not supposed to celebrate it by having a JACKFEST 2008 !
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:28:06 PM | Cheating is when you share a sexual experience or romantic ties with someone other than your spouse or SO.
But I'd have to say that you either meant to print this in the Penthouse Forum, or are now involved with a very nasty co-worker. Yuck what a gross thing to do at work. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:28:36 PM | First of all this would never happen to me, mostly because I work in a male dominated field but almost as important I do not multi-task very well.
For me even the thought of sex with another is in effect cheating. After the fact I would of course ask for forgiveness from my SO. This would in no way change the fact that it was a moment of weakness where I succumbed to lust.
I fully accept the fact that I am not perfect,
do you?
Almost an 
Ur. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:31:38 PM | Cheating? I wouldn't say it is in any actual sense. Unacceptable? You can bet your ass.
Just because it may not be cheating doesn't mean it's acceptable. If it's unacceptable it's unacceptable.
It's along the lines of drugs or anything else. Some people may find it ok, some people find it unacceptable. While none of those issues are cheating, they still have that acceptability attached to them.
While I don't say it would be 'actual' cheating, it's along the same lines and totally unacceptable to me. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:33:30 PM | hmmm, good question, I'd have to say that it's not cheating, however it is unacceptable relationship conduct. Nothing to end a relationship over, however something that would indeed cause the other party strife if they found out .
I guess, this is like asking if phone sex / camera / strip clubs etc an issue ? The answer usually lays within the people level of intimacy with each other .. EX: watching a strippper masturbate in a club, is NOT cheating as there is not relationship established .. But, watching her do the same thing and then have coffee with you afterwards , IS. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:46:09 PM |
If you would be afraid to tell your SO about what occurred then you already have your answer | |
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