| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:49:44 PM | I've had friends look over my profile after I wrote it, but they're mostly "yes men" so I need some objective points of view.
I'm not sure if posts in this forum require moderator approval, since I already posted a request for a profile review but it didn't show up, so I apologize if this is a double post. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:04:11 AM | Honestly, there is no point in a review.
No picture + 'Body Type A Few Extra Pounds ' + 'Smoker? Prefer Not To Say ' means that almost no one will even click on your profile in the first place and the very few who do will not get past the latter two points.
Just in case anyone wanted to contact you, you have nearly every single filter available turned on to make sure no one can.
Weight aside, tidy up these issues and try again, not that there is a whole lot to be reviewed anyhow. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:09:56 AM | I never noticed the "prefer not to say." I think that's the default when you set up a profile and I must have skipped that question.
As far as the filters, plenty of people can contact me. A search within 75 miles of my location reveals over ten pages of women, and quite a few of them are looking for long term relationships.
Should I lie about my body type? I'm not exactly a bean pole or muscular, and I think someone expecting an average size man would be very disappointed by someone 20 lbs. overweight. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:15:47 AM | You wouldn't have to consider lying if you posted a picture now would you?
As suggested drop the list of mail restrictions. Nobody could contact you even if they wanted to.
Age between 24 and 32
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
These are pretty much the only ones you need. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:19:25 AM | Well, I did say in the OP that I hope to remedy the picture situation when I get my camera working again. I was hoping that would do away with the constant "post a picture."
I'm not sure which restrictions I should drop. My fear is that someone looking to just date will contact me, we'll hit it off, go on a date or two, I start seeing a future, and they don't want to go beyond casual dates with anyone, let alone me. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:20:08 AM | Should I lie about my body type? I'm not exactly a bean pole or muscular, and I think someone expecting an average size man would be very disappointed by someone 20 lbs. overweight.
No, you should not. Probably a good idea to consider diet and exercise, but that is a matter for another section. The important part is that if you are overweight, you want pictures that show how bad the situation is.
Now you can argue about people being judgemental and your bad childhood and loving you for you or whatever if you want. Just laying out a bit of reality for you here, all evidence shows people who are overweight at not going to get contacts without pictures. Even normal weight people are not going to.
I'm not sure which restrictions I should drop. My fear is that someone looking to just date will contact me, we'll hit it off, go on a date or two, I start seeing a future, and they don't want to go beyond casual dates with anyone, let alone me.
Most guys of average weight, with pictures, non-smoker, no restrictions will not get any contacts at all. Factor that in your equation. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:23:36 AM |
Well, I did say in the OP that I hope to remedy the picture situation
I was wrong. I posted that in the first message I typed, but I got an error so I had to retype it and forgot to include that part. I apologize. | |
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:45:23 AM | I'm not sure which restrictions I should drop. My fear is that someone looking to just date will contact me, we'll hit it off, go on a date or two, I start seeing a future, and they don't want to go beyond casual dates with anyone, let alone me. The exact same message can be delivered by someone claiming to be looking for a long term relationship. You need contacts first then dates second, or else the long term thing just ain't gonna happen. Open up the restrictions, then filter the plethora of contacts. After that, you still need to win her over with your charm.
Friendly fire ahead ----------------->
We ain't so cute and desirable that our mailboxes are nearing capacity. I think we can handle the upcoming flood of inquiries.
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:37:03 AM | I'm not sure which restrictions I should drop. My fear is that someone looking to just date will contact me, we'll hit it off, go on a date or two, I start seeing a future, and they don't want to go beyond casual dates with anyone, let alone me.
RISK: If you never try anything new, you'll miss out on many of life's great disappointments.
Subsonic: Amen my friend, Amen!
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| I would like to request a profile review.
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:04:18 AM | Just how many women do you think there are out there OP that are merely serial daters?! Most people looking to date on here are also lookign for a long term relationship eventually. Hell, most people looking for friends and Hangouts on here are looking to date, and are open to relationships. A relationship has to start somewhere. If you plan to propose on a first date you will strike out 98% of the time. Just some food for thought.
And women like men of all shapes and sizes. Most of them are not the superficially visual creatures that most of us men are. They can look at a fat, hairy brother and say "damn he's sexy". Personality goes a LONG way my friend. | |
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