| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:37:22 PM | | ok, I had a debate on this with my friends yesterday about this and my opinion on this is was I don't think sex is everything. Sure sex is something that's a part of the relationship but I don't think it's everything and my friends think opposite that if you can't please your partner in bed it's over. Yes sex is important to have because it's expresses emotional intimate feelings for each other, but it's not everything. Any other opinions? | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:40:48 PM | You work with morons.
I suspect if you interview the girlfriends/wives you'll get a different version of how their men "perform."
With the divorce rates what they are, 5 out of 10 marriages are in trouble and the guy is close to being kicked out, and it has little to do with sex. | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:47:47 PM | Sex is absolutely NOT everything. Good sex is just a sign that all the other things that are more important are in place. There are plenty of things that are more important: love, intimacy, trust, respect, openness, kindness, compassion, understanding. If you have those things, the sex is both a garnish and a glue that helps hold it all together.
Oh, yeah...and your friends are idiots. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:48:23 PM | First, sex isn't everything in the relationship!! But it can be a huge problem if it is not satisfying to either partner.
Second, good sex also doesn't make a good relationship on it's own.
But,, in a good relationship, one that has the respect, the love, the ability to compromise, and communicate,, sex can be worked out, learned,, and taught,, using those virtues to enhance what is there.
There may be times in your life when you want the good sex part only, and not the relationship, and one should not confuse the issues. Nothing wrong with an adult who is in that part of their life, but most wont admit to it.. If you want the good relationship, the good sex can be worked out,,  | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:00:09 PM | Sex is an important component to a good relationship. When the sex fails to be important its time to look at what is going wrong in other avenues of the relationship.
You can get good sex from a different person every night of the week if thats all thats important to you. Sex within a good loving relationship is two minds and souls coming together with indescribable love.......................can it get any better.................. | |
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:13:31 PM | Sex is a leading indicator as to when things are going wrong. But it's going to be pretty hard to have her begging for more every single day, regardless of how good your friends think they are...they aren't really, just like to believe they are.
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:17:34 PM | | The biggest problem I see, and I speak from experience, is that when the sex is not good, you can take it or leave it, and I preferred to leave it, which made him mad. Of course I never told him the reason I lost interest in the sex was because he was terrible in bed... so he thought I didn't care about him, personally, anymore, which wasn't the case. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:19:41 PM | | I hope you were hanging out with younger guys because pushing thirty, they should know the answer to this. Of course people need to be sexually compatible but when love exists, people are able to find other ways to express and experience intimacy. So while I would not sign on for completely crappy sex from day one, I would not walk away from a relationship if a man became impotent because there are other body parts. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:26:51 PM | Look at it this way if you think sex is actually that high up on your list. Refer to my list of things more important than sex: love, intimacy, trust, respect, openness, kindness, compassion, understanding.
Which of those would you give up if you had to trade it for sex? | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:31:20 PM | Packegedealx3, there younger.
sex can always be worked out and I don't see why would someone leave there partner if there was just bad sex. They just have to work it out. But to each there own reason. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:33:35 PM | neiby
if I was in that situation none of the above would I give up for sex. Because if I'm not getting all of the above first and foremost from my partner, I'm out. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:36:12 PM |
Sex is absolutely NOT everything. Good sex is just a sign that all the other things that are more important are in place. There are plenty of things that are more important: love, intimacy, trust, respect, openness, kindness, compassion, understanding. If you have those things, the sex is both a garnish and a glue that helps hold it all together.
Oh, yeah...and your friends are idiots
 Very good response. Couldn't have said it better myself.
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:38:32 PM | Op you are right and your friends are wrong. And as a Nursing Assistant, I can assure your friends that eventually, when they are old, "it" will shrivel up and no amount of viagra will help. What type of relationship do you have then, if you based the whole thing on sex? You won't have any.
There has to be a common, giving, and mutually respectful relationship outside of the bedroom, or you are just having sex, not a relationship. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:50:00 PM | Sex Is everything to a porn Movie and not real relationship..... so much other factors to a relationship.... take the best sex to a relationship and if other aspects aren’t there it becomes miserable sex and no relationship........ a good relationship might be everything that will make sex good too.
sex is not everything but its what holds everything together
yes true in certain relationships, say when for example the woman is getting other benefits such as money for giving it...but believe me when the money runs out or someone with better offer comes along No good sex could keep it together | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 3:03:46 PM | From the forums...
The biggest problem I see, and I speak from experience, is that when the sex is not good, you can take it or leave it, and I preferred to leave it, which made him mad. Of course I never told him the reason I lost interest in the sex was because he was terrible in bed... so he thought I didn't care about him, personally, anymore, which wasn't the case.
Now there was a brilliant way to handle the problem... checked the profile and...
I am an independent, confident, honest (to a fault) fun loving person (emphasis added)
No.. you're not. | |
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| is sex everything in a relationship?
Posted: 5/12/2008 3:04:05 PM | | Sex is important, but definitely NOT everything. My first ex was an amazing lover, but a terrible companion. In fact, the sex was the only truly positive thing in our relationship. And you can't have a loving, lasting relationship based solely on that. Other things are important too--trust, respect, friendship. You have to be compatible emotionally as well as sexually or else you might as well give up. | |
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