| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:46:26 PM | POFers:
Not long ago, I was talking to a friend who is seperating from his wife. One of the reasons for the seperation was that he was snooping in her panty drawer (he had suspicions about her) and found a strap-on which he had never seen before and it was still in it's original box. The box cardboard looked as though it had been removed from and placed back in the box suggesting it had been used.
He confronted her and she admitted using it on a girlfriend of hers and having it used on her by the same girlfriend. My buddy freaked out and said he was out due to her infidelity. She is admanent that it is not really infidelity since it was only with another woman and it was not a real penis that was used on her. She went on the explain to him that it is really common for women to do this with other woman. Essentially, she made it sound like a huge percentage of women have strap-ons for this purpose and that it is no big deal.
Is use of strap-ons among women common or is my buddy's wife a freak? | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:05:25 PM | Shes' a freak and a big fat liar thats trying to get out of trouble.
It isn't what even average women would do!
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:10:39 PM | | id have to watch video evidence of your buddy's wife banging her girlfriend with the strap on before i could pass any judgement on this one. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:16:13 PM | Regardless of which gender she did it with, she cheated on her hubby.
Now the use of toys...that is everyone's personal decision. What works for one person, will be disgusting to another. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:31:41 PM |
id have to watch video evidence of your buddy's wife banging her girlfriend with the strap on before i could pass any judgement on this one.
I'm with ya there buddy. Hey OP,,,,got a video we can watch? It might be interesting...  | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:34:23 PM | Now, I know naivete runs rampant in our society, but are you really asking this question?
First, I don't think a woman who uses a strap-on is a freak. What people do in the privacy of their own home is their business. Enhancements can be a wonderful part of sex. However, if you're saying that you don't know if one person in a marriage who has sex outside of that marriage is not cheating on their spouse? C'mon! I have yet to find the straight woman's same-sex orgy that so many men fantasize about!  Been lookin' for quite a while, too!  Probably find one right after I'm invited to the all-girl pajama party pillow fight!
This one's pretty simple. She had a desire. She acted on it. She got caught. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:40:12 PM | No....she's a freak plain and simple. She and that other woman need to get help because they both acted in a disgusting way. Shame on them.
If I were your friend I would ditch her. She's damaged goods lol. For that matter, so is that other lady that did this sick act with her.I am very sorry that your friend had to go through this and find out this shit. He certainly deserves better and so does every guy!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:57:33 PM |
I'd say He is a bit of a dill! An opportunity "Missed"
shoulda got it on with both of em!
Now, that's what I'm talkin about....LOL  | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:24:56 PM | Yes it is infidelity - it doesn't matter which gender she was intimate with.
Being intimate with a consenting adult of the same gender doesn't make one a freak by the way.
Two consenting adults using a sexual aid doesn't make either one a freak neither.
I guess I just don't like the word freak. Your buddy's wife might be many things, but she's not a freak.
As far as the rest, you could always Google the info and see what they have to say about us wimmins and sexual aids.
JMO
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:25:34 PM |
She and that other woman need to get help because they both acted in a disgusting way. Shame on them.
Hows is using a strap-on shamefull?! Why do they need ot get help? Because they explored their sexuality and some toys?! How is it disgusting? Is using viberators or having sex disgusting?!
I am shocked at how close minded, judgemental and prudish the posters on this thread are. Yes, his wife cheated he acted as I would have hoped any person would have, left and hopefully spoekn with his wife about what happened and been adult about the situation; but grow up, it's a sex toy. LOADS of people use them, it's not a big deal.
Hoenstly, grow up people. If using a sex toy bothers you, then don't have sex. No offense, but havng sex is a LOT more 'disgusting' than using toys. It's messier and you can get STDs, other diseases AND possibly get pregnant from having actual sex, whereas with toys, that is nill. Think about it. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:28:53 PM | | Why in the world would a man leave his wife after finding out she may be bi-sexual?. I think your friend need to go have his head checked. That's a reason to do backflips not a reason for divorce. If i were you i might want to take a closer look at my friends sexuality. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:28:57 PM | big, If she hid one aspect of her persona from him, what other surprises awaited your friend? Infidelity sounds about right, even if she was sexually intimate w/ a woman and used a device to facilitate their act. Her excuse to him for "why" sounds like rationalizing to me.
A freak? I'm sure that strap-ons wouldn't be manufactured and sold if there wasn't a sizable market for these, but I'd be willing to bet that it's not a majority of women w/ a few men among us all, who would be freaks IMO, if they have one. I'd bet that your friend was slightly concerned that he might be the target for such an object, but felt more slighted that she confided in a friend outside of their 'ship' in a way that 'told' him that he was either inadequate as a man ...or a friend in whom to trust w/ her kinkier side of self. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:46:28 PM | BV: Interesting, you suggest the guy does backflips and celebrate. I take it you're implying the guy would be in heaven by having his wife and this other woman as a 3rd (in a 3-some)? Yeah, he'll be in heaven alright. But that wouldn't be forever. Just wait to see how he reacts when the wife says "my g-friend wants me to reciprocate the 3-some with her and her lover."
Yup, I think alot of men love the idea of a 3-some- but that all turns ugly when the lady decides to be the 3rd wheel with another man and woman. It never fails....
The issue here is trust fidelity. They apparently had an understanding and she broke it .... trying to justify her actions by saying it was with a woman so it doesn't count. Oh lord. And I guess if she had an encounter with another man she would use the old "But honey, it's just the mailman- he means nothing to me" excuse? | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:58:47 PM | OMG this is funny. Sounds like the episode on Friends with Ross' wife. HAHHAa
so is that other lady that did this sick act with her
huh? sick act? Would this be a sick act if she was using the strap-on to peg a guy? ^^^
OP: I am sorry to say OP this is infidelity even if it was with a woman and strap-on. Even if it was TWO WOMEN AND A CUP, its still infidelity. This was the probable root cause of the trial separation and will be a point of contention if they decide not to divorce. There will be no trust left and the guy would most likely be asking for a 3-some some time soon. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:53:24 PM | | Um, yeah, we women have been strapping on fake penises and penetrating our best friends since the stone age. It's only natural. Not to worry. No reason to suspect extreme freakatude. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:54:38 PM | Ummmmm It's cheating... no matter what she 'claims ' it is....
A girl I know did this, told me afterwards, it's not cheating because it's same sex....
Another point is that, toys or no toys, the people involved can still get STI's....
That to me, would be a reason in itself to be pissed off.... | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:55:05 AM | Cheating is defined by how it affects your partner. If OP's friend felt cheated on, it was cheating.
My Ex-wife always considered "looking is cheating" therefore for me to visibly "check out" someone was hurtful to her and she considered it a betrayal therefore it was. I alternated looking up at the ceiling between looking at my feet just to make sure that my neck didn't get screwed up. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:27:33 AM | | Cheating? In my opinion yes. She kept it from her husband, and that usually eans it's a bad idea. Now if he KNEW about it and was OK with it, but clearly that was no the case. But no, I never been into any of my "friends" that way, lol. Sounds like she' bi or at least was curious into being bi | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:31:46 AM | ^^^^^
Agreed. If she was bi curious there are ways of exploring that as a couple rather than behind his back. Since when is it "normal" for women to screw other women with large artificial rubber apendages without informing the husband (so he can watch) of the desire to do so?
So yea, it's cheating IMO. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:46:44 AM | mmm......wonder what he was rummaging in her undies drawer for......???
this never would have happened if that b!tch of a wife of his would have just shared her undies with her faithful husband!!! but nooooo, she emasculated him even further by reducing him to sneaking panties behind her back, then she goes and boinks the soccer mom that their son rides with to practice.
tsk.....tsk
yep
we wimmins all carry the new nifty purse-size strap-on with the high impact polystyrene case, complete with mirror (inside the lid), lipstick holder, and wipees. these make great gifts for you fav aunt, niece, sister or mom......heck, even memaw would love a newer portable model like this!!!! and remember, they come in a beautiful assortment of colors, like manic magenta, tortoise-shell, icy ivory, and sapphire blue.
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