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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:52:38 PM | Ok, we know many of you guys can cook. What I'd like to know is:
1) Do you clean up after yourself?
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2) Do you leave the cleanup for the person(s) you cooked for?
Inquiring minds want to know... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:59:17 PM | Huh ? You mean you go on dates with men who tell you to do the dishes afterwards ?
Or are you saying that in a relationship, if one person cooks then the other person cleans up afterwards ? In that case, that seems fair.
Either way the answer is still situational. As a general rule of common sense though, if you 'treat' somebody to a meal, you should be cleaning up as well. I'll tell you honestly that if a woman invited me over for dinner and then expected me to clean up aftwerwards I'd oblige her but that would probably be the last time I ever saw her. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:02:31 AM | | It's always a good idea to offer to help clean up after a meal. He probably will tell you not to worry about it but it's still classy to offer. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:46:05 AM | | My b/f does the cooking and many times he also does the dishes. I try to get in there to do them but he usually sends me away and says to go relax. I think if one cooks, the other should do the dishes. I have a heart problem that prevents me from standing for extended periods of time or from exerting myself very much, so he only lets me do the dishes if I'm feeling quite well. He can tell by looking at me whether I'm physically up to it or not. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:47:30 AM | | My rule is "You cook , you do the dishes." I once had a person trash my entire cook kit making dinner, every pot, pan, dish,spatula,plate,etc. I was willing to overlook the mediocre meal, (which, btw, would have taken me one pan and one pot)but then she she sez"Well, since I cooked, you have to do the dishes!" Now I lay down the rules before people start tearing into the kitchen, and I find people a whole lot less willing to destroy the place when they know they're going to be the ones scrubbing for hours if they do. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:57:11 AM | Interesting answers, but riverye's answer is pretty much how my experience has been. Needless to say, I have mixed emotions when someone hints they'd love to cook for me. While appreciating the intended thoughtfulness, the thought of cleaning up after them fills me with dread.
Also it seems that weekly some man will start a thread in "Ask A Girl" what women think of men that cook. Sooooo, thought I'd "Ask A Guy". | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 1:06:19 AM | | My b/f cooks at his house, not at mine. I usually make the salad and set the table and he does the rest. The man is a Virgo. Everything is always in it's place. LOL I love it!! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 1:23:52 AM | I have never dated or been in a relationship with a woman where we cooked dinner or ate at home, every meal shared has been out somewhere.
So I have to clean up after myself or my home smells like foot soup.
I would never presume to leave the cleanup for a person I cooked for. Unless I cooked at her house and her sink and surrounding counter top were covered in dirty dishes because the dishwasher was also full of dirty dishes (which I have seen). | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 2:49:56 AM | | I enjoy cooking now and then and I've always found its so much easier and far less daunting when you clean up as you go so thats what I do. In general though if I'm cooking for a guest then I will wash up as I'm the host. On the other hand if its more of a family thing or eating with the people you live with then most of the time whoever didn't cook washes up. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 5:40:04 AM | Live on my own so I have to do dishes... eventually! While dating my last girlfriend however I'd typically clean up either immediately or within an hour or so if I prepared the meal. Was normally a joint effort too in both cooking/cleaning.
Years ago I shared an unfurnished four bedroom house in Calgary with three friends. We had to get furniture and crockery, so amongst other things we bought a four piece crockery set meaning each of us had one bowl, one dinner plate, one saucer, and one set of knives, forks etc. We each had our own area of the kitchen to stow our own gear, so we knew if we were using someone else's dish (no-one was that tight that they wrote their name on the crockery or anything!) so if we wanted to eat a meal, we had to clean our dishes!
The frypan and stovetop was another matter though!!! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:48:24 AM | OK this is easy.
If I cook, meaning I am making the main course, vegetable, and any other side dish, the deal is,,,,, I cook, you clean up. But this does not always work. Having been single now more than I've been attached, means it's just habit.
Now I often clean as I go. Using pots, pans, and misc kitchen tools, are cleaned, rinsed and put in dish washer. After dinner it's a team effort with table clean up and loading the washer, and left overs. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:50:04 AM | | Hey I've got to! Chosing to be single has some drawbacks you know! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:54:12 AM | | If I cooked I'll clean up after. If I'm cooking dinner for someone it's always nice if they offer to help, but usually I'll decline and do it. But sometimes it's nice to have a hand... | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:57:57 AM | If I cooked as part of the date, I'll do the dishes. If we're a couple and I cook for a special occasion like your birthday, Mother's day, or just as a surprise because I love you, I'll do the dishes. If we're together and it's just Tuesday night Hamburger helper and mac and cheese, YOU'RE doing dishes  | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 7:38:06 AM | holacrap.... WHO CARES!??!
If "who does the dishes" is an integral part of the dating equation for you, HOW BORING ARE YOU??
Put em in the sink, and get on with the date for fooks sake.
Or maybe we should continue down the path and figure out who takes out the trash, who makes the grocery list, who returns the DVDs, who cleans out the car after the date. By the way, who is supposed to mow the lawn if youre eating on the patio?
CRIPES PEOPLE! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 7:46:57 AM | I make her do the dishes
then give her a "dust buster" and tell her to goto "work"
all this while I am preparing my laundry load for her to work on later,
it's hard to find "good help" these days... | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:08:48 AM | Nah, Most of my dates are Dine & Dash!
Besides, most restaurants have automatic dishwashers these days! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:31:02 AM | I like to cook, that way I know things are cooked properly and to my liking. I always claim that if I cook then you clean, but I don't ever remember not helping. I am not a messy cook, and clean as I go. I am a big paper plate fan as well. So there isn't much to clean in many cases. Most times I get "You cooked, go sit down."
Never, ever, ever had a complaint. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:53:07 AM | I'm surprised with some of these answers,,
If I cook dinner, I'll also make it fun,, example I might make jambalaya,, lots to do with that dish,,My experience woman always want to chip in,, that can be a lot of fun,, cooking for a woman is just not about eating,, it's about getting to know someone,, or keeping the relatshionship fun..even romantic,,
The question was clean up,, again I never had a woman not offer to help in the clean up,, there again,, more fun,, she has her hands in soapy dish water,, I like to play then,, I come up from behind her,, place my hands on her hips,, kiss her neck,, move to nibble on her ear,, feel her wiggle, as she tries not to make a mess with the soapy dish water,, I can feel her push her cute butt into me,, as her head tilts back,, for a nice soft kiss on the lips,,, yummy.....
What did we have for dinner again,, I forgot,, In my opinion,, sharing,, is the key,, enjoy life together,, | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 10:47:41 AM | “HOW BORING ARE YOU??” Me? very, actually.
I’m appreciating hearing that most of you guys would clean up and offer to help when cooked for. My experience has been that only a couple of men I’ve cooked for have offered to help with the clean up. Not one has cleaned up after cooking for me. Loved rdcnorm’s idea of cleanup… | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:31:39 PM | The person who offers to cook dinner is responsible for the entire process. This involves:
-Shoping for ingredients
-Making sure the dining locations is sanitary enough to eat in
-Providing beverages that are to everyones liking
-Cleaning up afterwards
Of course it is always polite for the person being cooked for to offer to help in any of the above areas.
-Just this guys opinion | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:35:17 PM |
The question was clean up,, again I never had a woman not offer to help in the clean up,, there again,, more fun,, she has her hands in soapy dish water,, I like to play then,, I come up from behind her,, place my hands on her hips,, kiss her neck,, move to nibble on her ear,, feel her wiggle, as she tries not to make a mess with the soapy dish water,, I can feel her push her cute butt into me,, as her head tilts back,, for a nice soft kiss on the lips,,, yummy.....
OMG!! Guys! Please! Here is an example to learn from. Not only will I clean up for u, I will cook whatever u want if ur giving me attention like this. Don't just sit on ur ass in front of the tv. How hard is it for u to stop on ur way to the fridge for another beer and give me a kiss or a hug. Would it really kill u to stand there and stroke my back or rub my shoulders and have 60 seconds of conversation with me?
DUH!!! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 2:23:26 PM | | Yeah Thebugisback, I'm pretty boring,too. Know any good recipes? I love cooking contests. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:08:36 PM | Actually, it is one of my little secrets!
I do the dishes when cooked for, and boy does it make an impression!
I've noticed that older women always insist on cleaning up my kitchen
and with younger women, it doesn't even cross their minds! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:17:00 PM | | Wow you have too much time on your hands; I usually clean up with the girl I'm with; they help; but to be honest it doesnt' matter as long as it gets done. | |
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