| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 11:03:59 AM | I just completed 12dates with IJL.
I found it to be window shopping.
A couple hours of conversation,
an exchange of information and
a hug goodbye. No second dates.
Although a few agreed to meet
no one actually followed through.
Has anyone had a similar experience? | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 11:29:10 AM | Ah you found the date hoe syndrom. They let you wine and dine em then move onto the next guy. lmao
I am not trying to be mean but i have had a couple of my female friends do the same thing on other sites.
Its a way of getting romance without the commitment.
Good luck with your hunt and mat your next fish get hooked. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 11:29:24 AM | I checked out their website. I filled out a survey to see a sample of my matches. It asked me for my phone number; even though I knew that meant I might be put onto a mailing list, I filled it out anyway. Once I hit submit, all it said was, "Thank you for your interest. Someone will contact you shortly." I was rather annoyed by that. I knew it was a paid service, but to prompt you for a survey and not get any results was a bit deceiving.
Anyway, after they called me repeatedly, I finally agreed to meet with a consultant. It was a quick desicion for me NOT to sign up after I found out the price! What was it... something like $1400 for 12 dates?!!! Or $1600? Good god! On top of being expected to pay for meals, and not have any sort of guarantee.
Pfft... if it were free, or even a minimal fee, I would've definitely considered it, but I'm not about to put my savings toward a few change encounters. I'll stick to POF and real life for now. I haven't met that special someone yet, but I've been on a few enjoyable dates, even made a couple friends, and haven't lost anything for it. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:01:27 PM | | Neither i havent gone on any real dates. I did meet a good firend for coffe one night and pizza another time. I am carefull what I do because like most I dont like to have my heart played with. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:03:05 PM | I've never tried it.
I had a friend that did and it seemed that every guy she met was an alcoholic. They'd meet for lunch and the men seemed to DRINK their lunch. She was VERY unhappy with the service and would call and complain after each meeting. The person that was running it was pretty rude to her. She had to threaten to take them to court to get a partial refund. She paid 1,400 which was 116.67 per drunk she met!
I'd rather meet someone for lunch so if you don't click it's short and you can get on with your day. If you meet someone you truly click with then you can get together again soon.
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:29:35 PM |
I just completed 12dates with IJL.
I found it to be window shopping.
A couple hours of conversation,
. . . No second dates.
Although a few agreed to meet
no one actually followed through.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
I am not familiar with IJL, but I have had many dates that went the same way. Why? Because there was just no "spark." Without chemistry, there is no need to see a man a second time. I always sent an email saying as much, though.
If no one actually followed through, did you initiate second contact or did you leave it up to the women?
you found the date hoe syndrom. They let you wine and dine em then move onto the next guy.
Not necessarily. Seeing a man once or twice doesn't mean that a woman is taking advantage of him; she might taking the time to make up her mind.
Splitting the bill solves that problem. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:47:40 PM | Whatever happened to the idea of a relationship
developing over time? I guess those days are gone.
I had 12 first-dates in two months. Three of them
I thought had promise. But that's from my POV.
Two hours is not enough to get to know someone.
I'm seriously in the market to meet one specific
woman and get to know her and share the ups&downs.
But I can't afford another round of IJL date$$$$$. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:50:10 PM | I have met about 10 men in the last year via the internet. Of those I have had lunch with about 6. Of those I have always paid my own way. Why??? Because I didnt fancy any of them when I met them and didn't want to give the wrong impression.
Always best to meet for a coffee....first. And forget this lunch dating thing. If you dont fancy someone you are probably not going to meet them again. And it works both ways. I have met a couple of guys who have not even given me eye contact and who have made excuses to leave early. I can laugh about it now but at the time it felt weird.
I read that one in every 35 dates results in two people meeting and finding each other interesting and attractive enough to want to meet again. Oh well only 25 more to go. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:18:46 PM | I agree, if you're paying one of these shoty outfits, well, then you might as well be paying.They are all a crock of s--t.Period.
Jeff
Toronto | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/15/2008 4:14:34 PM | | I don't know what to say exactly except this is so sad.I mean there r soo many guys on here complaining about women just wanting them for a free meal and here u r spending a butt load of money for the privalege of supposedly taking a lady out for lunch.What gets me about it is if the lady asked for the 1400 for the lunch date u would call her a whore or worse but yet u pay to another kind of whore who was and did work u like a fine tuned instrument.You paid the pimp.Why don't u trust ur own judgement about the kind of woman u r looking for?I mean u met the pimp and paid him for lunch dates which u got now all u have to do is figure out how many lunch dates equal 1400 in ur book.I think this lesson was expensive,to expensive.If u had met a woman for lunch from off of this site and she mentioned she was in a financial bind for whatever reason but didn't ask u for any cash,wouldn't u say she was baiting u?Would u call her a gold digger or someone just out for what she could get from u?Yet u paid a complete stranger for pimped out lunch dates. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/15/2008 4:24:11 PM | I think it is alot of cash or in a womans world,a nice spa visit and a couple of pairs of shoes weeeeeee.ok sorry I got caught up. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/15/2008 5:03:43 PM | Never heard of them. I prefer to meet for coffee or a walk the first time around, it's just an introduction and if things go well, then we can make plans for lunch later and if they don't? Oh well. There's always tomorrow. 
Pink | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/15/2008 5:43:40 PM | I have had a few do this to me...insist that I pay and never see me again. There are even threads on who should pay for a date and some female posters say a man should pay because it is tradition or if the man suggests dutch she will not see him again because it means the man is cheap.
I know a woman who dates guys just for free meals and moves on to the next guy. She has no intention of getting to know someone.
I prefer to go dutch on the first date or two and when and if I see she really likes me I will offer to pay.
I think it is sad some people view dating as a free meal and not as a chance to get to know someone. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:35:28 AM | I agree that the up-front cost for 12dates is over the top.
However, I met a quality of woman I was not otherwise meeting.
So, like most things in life, I traded one thing (money) to get
another (dates). Yes, I would like the down payment to pay
for the dates. But It's Just Lunch is a business and that's how
it makes its money. Also, the bills were split evenly on all dates.
That's an IJL rule that I appreciate.
I knowingly took the risk since I don't translate well on dating websites.
Women typically "peek" at my profile but e-step no further. This is annoying.
Just call me the Peeked At King or the Who Viewed You Prince.
I'm better in-person so I guess I'm talking myself out of POF, et al.
And yes, I initiated the second dates during the first date.
But then a few days later I get the email or phone call rescinding the offer.
After one Sunday night date, a nurse kissed me like we were newlyweds.
Holy ****! I mean, that send a message and yet no followup emails were returned.
(s ..... i ..... g .....h) | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:03:25 AM | don't be so harsh on yourself
also if the lunch thing does not work try something else. go ice skating or roller blading
a nice walk can be fun. try talking instead of feeding. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:56:52 AM | I was a member of IJL. I did meet several quality woman and actually dated one for about 6 months. The aspaect of IJL that I liked was that they charged everyone $1,400 to join - meaning that the women were employed or could otherwise afford the service. When you meet, there is also a CLEAR understanding that the date is Dutch. Although, I always offered to pay. Some agreed, others said Dutch was fine. IJL also has arrangements with local restaurants that know why you are both there. They seat you at nice tables and the staff doesn't hover - they let you talk. All it was a pleasant experience.
I've met women on other dating sites (not POF, BTW) that were one level from destitute. One woman had no bus fare money to meet me. Another, while talking to me on the phone, stated that a friend had given her an industrial size roll of toliet paper and she was busy re-winding it onto a smaller roll to fit in her bathroom. Why? Becuase she couldn't afford any TP until the check came on the first of the month. I understand people's situation, but sometimes you must set limits. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:10:10 PM | | Conemaugh, I must agree with you - and that was one of the reasons I did consider IJL. I'm still young and I'm not interested in dating anyone for their money, but knowing that the person could afford the service did show some stability. I've had people turn down dinner dates, even after I suggest something cheap like Subway. I'd like to know the person can at least afford the occasional dinner and movie. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:21:53 PM |
for $1400, I'd expect "it's just sex", not lunch....'
wtf is wrong with these people?
For $1400, I'd expect a shiny new widescreen flatpanel TV.
People are dumbasses.  | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:33:40 PM | While reading this tread I decided to Google that site and found a lot of negative publicity for that business. Things such as Attoney Gerneral's in various states looking into them after receiving so many complaints. Customers peed off about the rudeness of the staff. The database being misleading in the number of active members. And so on.
But I can't feel sorry for anybody taken by those crooks. They are probably the same people who would fall for the Nigerian scammers. So naive.
Anyway, someone who shells out $1,400 when you can find someone for free are either; not practical, too desparate, or can't do things for themselves.
And to suggest that people are better than others because they can afford to waste $1,400 is elitist at best. I can afford to do it, but I'm not ever going to allow myself to fall prey to sharks. Plus, I never consider someone based on their socio-economic status. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:55:13 PM | | I was turned off from their ads right from the start. Aimed at busy professionals who have little time for dating. Give me a break. If you do not have time for a date, how can you possibly have time to get to know and understand someone? We are not just trying on a pair of shoes here. $1400.00 is not something i want to gamble with. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:10:19 AM |
After one Sunday night date, a nurse kissed me like we were newlyweds.[/]
Call me overly sensitive, I can take, it but is it relevant that this woman was a nurse?
We have a hard enough time dealing with a bad reputation ( much of it undeserved) !
Thanks for listening to my mini vent .... back to the OP ..... we have all done foolish things in the pursuit of a partner that have been more costly in the long run, so for all the people who will question your judgement in spending this $$, ask them to reflect upon what their dating/marriages/sep/divorce cost them!!
I haven't heard of this company , and it's too bad it is a for-profit venture as the premise is ok and appealing . ( I'm sure the marketing was persuasive !)
Keep trying ... !!! | |
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