| What exactly does "Dating" mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:56:10 PM | I have recently had an experience of meeting a guy on this site who seemed absolutely wonderful but the word "dating" was constantly used. It only lasted 3 weeks and I think the fact that I really liked him scared him off. Do I assume from this that if a man states he is looking for "dating" on his profile then he is not looking for a relationship? Its confusing as most profiles list off all their wants as looking for a sensitive, loving woman etc., yet they just want to see you on the odd occasion for a few beers and if at all possible sex!
Would just be interested if anyone could shed any light on this terminology? | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:11:01 PM | I just take dating as not wanting a relationship, but that's just me. Some people say friends and stuff when they want a relationship, but they want to be friends first or whatever.
I say what I want as the goal, not what I want now. Just because I'm looking for a relationship doesn't mean I'm jumping right into that with someone, it's just what I want as the end goal.
That's just me and my line of thinking though. I take it seriously enough that I don't want to fool around just 'dating' or occasionally going out with people or whatever. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:11:20 PM | Listen up rubiesred,
Dating to most woman I have 'been out with', means this....a drink,is a drink,is a drink.
Got it....the term dating is OVER,DRACONIAN, and I would NOT got out with a woman who said the word date.
Dates are for kids...like the breakfast cereal, TRIX...for kids.
Cripes ,get with the times....dating...good lord...please.
Jeff
Toronto | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:19:14 PM | When I joined PoF I was pondering about this question too... dating... and then what...? Guess dating isn't really the goal... unless you like to spend some time with many different people...
Different people say it different ways. Some people look for a LTR, but they state "friends" or "dating" since they consider this as a start. Otherwise I can't imagine or wouldn't expect that someone who's looking for a LTR runs without a date into this. Even talk/email is handled different by different people.
Unlike that less significant box usually people say in their profile what they are looking for... | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:19:23 PM | I think the word dating means spending time together doing different things. Dating could be long or short term. I dont think it is childish. Long term sounds like marriage and I think that scares people off.
I know its hard. I really liked guy too and he just cut the texts, im, emails, and phone calls off. Yes, it leaves you confused. But, my friends keep telling me to move on. If they dont have enough respect to talk to you about it..they are not worthy of long term...take care of you! | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:19:43 PM | Closeup11 what exactly are you supposed to call it when you are going out with a man/woman and getting to know them, going out? I think most people use the term dating but finding a common definition is the problem, and do you have to be Mr. snotty about it? OP, do a thread search, this topic has been done to death and you might find some decent answers on previous threads.
Some people have dating on their profile but also include in the about me section that they are not opposed to a relationship if the right guy/gal comes along.
If you want long term then seek out others with that on their profile or you could actually talk about this before you start dating. The only marginal dates I have had have occurred when I met someone without speaking to them e-mail and phone first for any length of time.
Usually, after several e-mails and phone convo asking someone what they are ultimately looking for is pretty normal so save yourself the guessing games and ask. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:53:45 PM | i "dated" a man for nearly three years...he told me from time to time we were just "dating" when i asked...yes, come to find out he had some feelings...but not "FEELINGS"...
i pondered this over and over thinking perhaps that it was a "start" and perhaps love would grow...well girls...it is what it is..."dating" is either a "time filler" until he finds the one that really steals his heart...or it is a way to have a relationship that is not really a relationship...or its a "trying on stage"...go figure...
when the word "dating" is used by a man...it is much less than a relationship and much more than staying home alone... | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:49:10 PM | Don't assume anything based on a multiple choice question they made the guy answer when he made his profile. When you sign up they give you these options.
Friends, Activity Partner, or Hang Out - great if you're just looking for a platonic buddy.
Chat email - if you just want a pen pal
Intimate Encounter - blocked by most...but at least they're honest.
Other relationship - apparently the same thing as intimate encounter.
Short Term - who knows
Long Term - Ok you're shopping for a spouse and being upfront about it.
And since there's no button that says "whatever happens happens", it leaves you with "dating" as your only option.
So don't assume anything. If you wanna know what the guy really wants, ask him when you meet him. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:01:36 PM | OP-Here are the list of POF translated labels/choices since you must have not gotten one when you joined....and based on my personal experiences meeting men here:
Long-term=sex if I can get it sooner than later; but if I have to wait past the first coffee date, ok I'll do "long-term" and ask you for a real first date; but then I'm expecting sex
Dating=sex if I can get it on a first coffee meeting and if not, well then see ya
Hang Out=I don't even want to have to be bothered to meet you for coffee first, I just want come over and hang out and have sex
Friends=I really want to be able to say I like you before I have sex with you and they didn't have a friends w/benefits options otherwise I'd have picked that cause it sounds nicer than intimate encounter
Intimate Encounter=sex, sex, and h*ll yes sex..don't expect me to hang out, want to meet you for coffee or call you a friend
Hopefully this clarifies things for you OP-happy to be of assistance  | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:15:42 PM | Remember Y2K day? That New Year's Eve of eight years ago when all the brains of our computers were to be sucked out and they became meaningless doorstops? Well, they didn't, BUT several words in our language lost their meanings instead. Took all the meat right out of them. "Dating" I'm sorry to say was one of them. Shot dead with the click of a memory chip.
"Dating" had been a great word, and it lived a long and fun and meaningful life. In it's younger years, it meant a stroll along the boardwalk on a Sunday afternoon. In younger adolescence, "Dating" grew up to include a milk-shake on a Friday night. Then though "Dating" entered its confused later teen adolescent years....but, as 'Dating' would like to forget or not have mentioned the 60's and early 70's as much as the next person wouldn't, we'll be respectful here and leave those 'dates' to our memories, or what we have left of them from those times.
But, "Dating" made a firm and bold resurgence with a firm grasp of identity again in the 80's, and even through much of the early 90's, and when someone said its very name "Date" as in, "....we'll have a Date"....while the number of options became more robust, generally "Dating" remained strong with a good sense of image and what it was all about. Then came the late 90's. "Dating" started to loose it's own concept....sort of an early alzheimers some say. "Dating" lost its natural understanding somehow of what it itself was all about. Should we go here? Should we go there? Should we go THERE? What about tomorrow? Tomorrow?? What's this all about anyway? ....and soon, all "Dates" were caught in a grey cloud malaise with loss of identity, and even the "Dates" no longer even knew each other's names or even simpler parts of it such as the how or why of them, or how to even dress....they became, well, less like "Dates" and more like "encounters"......Alas, "Dating" was confused,  and then that final day came when no one could even utter "Dates" name and have a clear picture of what "Dating" really even looked like any more.....
And then that dreaded Y2K day came! .........thunder, lighting, and the closing of the last soda fountain with its door firmly nailed shut and then the "Local Pali" (KINKS) was no more as it was torn down. Yes my friends, we still have the letters of the word, and sometimes even use them in that particular order D-A-T-E or D-A-T-I-N-G, but only as a carcas of a clear being of days gone by. I'm here to tell you friends, if we want to revive the word for our next generation behind or posterity for any reason, "Date" will need to be given one meaning, like it had once upon a time........and as we all know, that'd be an act of congress.  Until that day friends, let's remember what a great and clear living thing "Dating" once was, and know otherwise that we'll have to only wait until we ourselves again get to be united with all those great "Dates" gone by, now living only on in the sky. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:24:11 PM | Someone said that dating was people looking for wine, dine and sex.
A woman who took my last man away from me has a profile on another dating site and she lists "dating" as one of her interests (any ideas on what this says about her behaviour).
I used to think that dating meant courting, but not, seems to be like a friends with benefits but not much more... | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:31:43 PM | Means something to one person,and something else to another. I am looking for forever as seen in the eyes of the one person I am meant to be with. That should scare everyone off! | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:56:02 PM | | I don't really know what it means on pof but in the real world it usually means an evening of fun without much meaningful conversation, not feeling obligated to call you the next day and seeing other people. It means that no one really expects it to lead anywhere. It probably means that the person who asks you likes their freedom to play the field and intends it to stay that way. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 6:47:46 PM | i like to see some responses on this cause i don't know what dating is...
its so confusing 
i don't get how anyone can even communicate while dating where its so confusing with the many rules that come with it...
my main question is how do you know when is right to talk about being more?...and if your too shy for your own good should you date? | |
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| can some one save you forme not having a relasonship?
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:46:14 PM | Well, the word 'dating' is one of those things that everyone sees differently, so the best way to go about is just see their behaviour with you or straight on talk.
To me dating is more of doing activities together and getting to know each other ... and though my goal is a relationship I feel like 'long-term' implies marriage and there is no way I'm looking for that right now. | |
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| can some one save you forme not having a relasonship?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:58:50 PM | If someone is hot for you and you are hot for them.....and you connect on mutiple levels....... dating will soon turn into a relationship.......and neither will want to date any other....
Dating is doing the numbers game until each of you hits bingo......
Peace | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:07:46 PM | Sweetie...
Dating ...is dating. Simple.
It is just getting to know each through going out and doing things, talking, having fun, and just being friendly and at ease. It's the discovery of whether you like each other enough to keep seeing each other or not.
You may have a huge attraction and it has the WOW factor. That WOW factor can cloud logical and sensible thinking. Bring it down to a comfort level as fast as you can. Don't swim and wallow in it. It makes for wanting a relationship very fast. It makes for demanding time and attention when the dating time (that you should have) hasn't really kicked in. Men are notorious for running when this WOW factor kicks in for the lady and she is on a pink moon for him.
A man needs to date first. If you are the girl for him, he will know it and it will be better through dating and .....more than 3 weeks!!!
I hope this helps.
Good luck..
W | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:14:11 PM | I find it odd that some think there is differnt meanings to the word dating. I figured dating was what a boyfriend and girlfriend do when they see each other. Dating is going out and doing things with each other to get to know each other better.
Some guys though insist that they are just hanging out with a woman and not dating her. I never understood this because they see potential of a relationship yet they dont' call it dating. Never understood the difference.
So......I just never refer to dating. I just say that i am seeing someone. I call the guy i am seeing my boyfriend and we have been in contact with each other for over a month and gone out a few times already. I think that if you have seen the guy for at least a month, kissed him, and he still wants to see u after a month you can consider yourself as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Well......this is my opinion. Everyone has their own opinion. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:16:52 PM | "Dating " on this website to me means the following:
I've been in a couple of relationships/marriages before and obviously it didn't work out otherwise why am I here? So I am NOT going to make the same mistakes and rush into anything, I am going to take this slow, turtle slow, so slow that molasses may set up in my a$$, but if you want to get to know me then you will get on board and enjoy the pace! | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:28:49 PM | Dating means you are just meeting someone for dinner, a movie, or whatever. If you both enjoy each other's company you may go on more dates, trying to figure out if it's going to lead to something more substantial, but it takes time to really get to know someone well enough before making that decision. Sometimes it works out, but most of the time one, or both of you are disappointed, and you may go your separate ways. 
Pink | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:44:50 PM |
Got it....the term dating is OVER,DRACONIAN, and I would NOT got out with a woman who said the word date.
Cripes ,get with the times....dating...good lord...please.
Cripes? Exactly what “times” are people suppose to “get with”; the 1910’s? 
The term "dating", like many of the other profile categories, is ambiguous. So, if you meet someone you click with (i.e., you’d like to date, see, meet, greet, hook-up, hang, chill, goof, whatever, with them again), communicate your intentions sooner rather than later to ensure you are both on the same relationship page. | |
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| What exactly does Dating mean?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:11:21 AM | If you have to wonder what dating is, then you shouldn't be with that person. When you are with someone you ASSUME nothing. You talk to the person and find out where the relationship stands.
The posts are full of people wanting exacts to everything, or they want others to read their partners mind. Its about communication. Dont assume you know what he thinks; dont ask complete strangers what he thinks; dont try to read his mind; ask him. Communication is a wonderful thing. | |
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