| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:31:20 PM | I was just wondering why women seem to have such a cold demeanor when they're out in public. They give you that blank stare or essentially ignore you even if you smile at them.
Some might give you that polite "ok, I see you smile", but it never seems sincere.
Is this normal or is it just me?? | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:34:25 PM | It's just you.
I only ever got that look from my mother... when she was pissed.
What are you doing to those girls? | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:35:56 PM | Is this normal or is it just me??
Its just you.
I usually frown and turn away from people that have a perpetual joker grin goin on.
Kinda creeps me out.
"ok, I see you smile", but it never seems sincere.
SINCERE? 
now not only do indiscriminate strangers have to smile at you but they have to do it sincerely ...?
oh comon...this is like a knock knock joke thread right? They're crap.
Knock Knock...
...who's there...
...*Smile*....
...*Like...WTF?*...Smile? Smile who?
...Smile sincerely...
^^^^ See...? CRAP | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:37:48 PM | Stranger danger? Seriously, about one out of every ten men will do something unpleasant if you give them the chance (ranging from calling you something sexual, to touching your ass). We realize that 90% of men are very pleasant, but you just can't be opening up to strangers, especially in a big city, or public place, where any person can make contact.
If it's in a smaller setting, or even in a smaller town, then it must be you.  | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:41:21 PM | In my best GIRL Voice!
There is a lot of stuff that addresses this in the forums!
Happens to me a lot too! Women are different then men.
They are not always looking, so they explained to me.
Many good looking women get hit on constantly and
they put up a wall. Can you blame them? You may be
interested in her, you don't even know her! She has no
interest in you, or probably no interest in having a man
hit on her, at that moment!
Don't take it personally! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:44:11 PM | Some of us may just be oblivious and not even notice and its being misconstrued as cold. I know if I'm at the grocery store or running errands etc, my mind is on other things. Unless you were to grab my arm and get my attention, my mind isn't going to register a smile ...well unless its being worn by a hot naked man....and it wouldn't be his smile that got my attention.
If I'm out with the girls or playing pool, I may glance around for the waitress or to see who else I know is there. If a man happened to smile then, I wouldn't notice because my mind is only searching for familiar faces. So it may come across as being cold when it fact it didn't even register.
Of course, some may just act cold...but of course I'm not one of them 
HR | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:44:30 PM | | Welcome to the outer-rim of the "defense mechanisms". Suburban Detroit is pretty heavily populated, and a lot of pushy men are constantly pressuring women for well, attention. I'm sure they're friendlier and less guarded in the more rural areas. But near to a large city, they usually keep their guard up. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:44:30 PM | | In my case, a smile with no follow up can often be kind of creepy. I personally prefer that I guy comes up to me and introduces himself instead of eerily smiling from across the room! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 8:52:26 PM | Geez...
It's called aloof and while it may pain some people that many women are aloof when out in public, there's reasons for it, I assure you.
Note: If you're unaware of what those reasons are, then be happy because that means you aren't one of said reasons. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:52:56 PM | | Ah...I usually smile and say hi to whoever smiles and/or says hi. And often I will be the first one to smile and/or say hi. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:55:28 PM |
Is this normal or is it just me??
^^^^^^^^^ It's usually nice to smile at a woman and follow with a greeting like:
"Hello....how are you?"
Smiling on it's own without saying a word......would creep the girls out. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 9:06:36 PM |
Stranger danger? Seriously, about one out of every ten men will do something unpleasant if you give them the chance (ranging from calling you something sexual, to touching your ass). We realize that 90% of men are very pleasant, but you just can't be opening up to strangers, especially in a big city, or public place, where any person can make contact.
See now this is why I have issue when someone says (on these boards) "oh, just go out to grocery stores or bookstores to meet women." It's just not that easy anymore because of this perceived notion that men are out to get women.
What are we supposed to do after the age of 30? These online dating sites don't work that well and meeting people in public isn't always easy
What's the solution? As a guy who finds it difficult to talk to a women in public, I need some help here. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 9:07:10 PM | I don't agree with that at all. There are MANY women that
I smile at and they return the smile. You don't have to talk
to everyone you acknowledge . Retarded people do that more
often than not! lol
I'm sure some women appreciate, just a nice smile, without
yet another guy hitting on them!
Staring is creepy!
Edit: I concur: Meeting women in public places is awkward at best.
Maybe a good pickup artist can do this, and maybe it's all in the
numbers, but I for one need some degree of familiarity with someone
I approach. And yes, a lot of people say a lot of things around here that
I have a pretty good idea, they don't do themselves! | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:11:48 PM | I was just wondering why women seem to have such a cold demeanor when they're out in public. They give you that blank stare or essentially ignore you even if you smile at them.
Some might give you that polite "ok, I see you smile", but it never seems sincere.
Is this normal or is it just me??
In my experience this is pretty normal. I think it's usually because they are insecure. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 9:28:24 PM | | it probably is just you..........i smile at women all the time, try to start convo's and sometims they small talk then leave.....and i think thier not intested at all......but all of my friends swear they were flirting with me.......i just dont see it happening at the moment......i think some of us are "flirt-retarded".....we know were flirting....but we have no idea that they are | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 9:36:21 PM | | I'm clueless when being flirted with. In my eyes it never happens, but an ex-girlfriend used to say it did. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 1:40:32 AM |
It's just not that easy anymore because of this perceived notion that men are out to get women. Yes, you are right. If we are not wary, we can get into trouble.
I was raised in a very small town, where everyone was friendly and reasonably safe to smile at and chat with. Sadly, I have found out the hard way, more than once, what happens if I let my guard down.
Oddly, a great many men seem to idolize the players, guys who get a lot of action and treat women badly. Why do men accept this behavior from their peers? Don't you know that it makes it harder for all the rest of you? It should make you want to smack them upside the head. I know it does me. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 4:11:03 AM | Seems like a lot more friendliness down here in the south. People smile and say hello to strangers all the time. However, I think that is dwindling down. Especially between men and women in certain situations. It is hard because you don't know who is a good guy and who is not. Given the fact that a lot of men ask questions in the forum that go something like ''she smiled at me was she interested" you can see there is a lot of confusion about what constitutes flirtiness and what is just common niceness.
God forbid you ever smile at a guy in a club, then they are all over you. I was told by one guy he though I was arrogant and stuck up before he talked to me, because of my demeanor there. I said when I'm alone, I have my guard up, because if you're nice they assume you want to be with them. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 5:00:58 AM | hi, well i must dissagree with you,, i talk to everybody, i am very friendly,, i am the women in line talking to the casheer,, that every is mad at,, LOL,, sometimes guys are only nice and talk to you because there flirting wth you..i will talk to guys not realizing there flirting,, ( blond streaks) LOL.. so if you get cold looks its because,, they probley think youre flirting......
cheryl | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 5:20:10 AM | This makes most sense.
mistressdolly
Welcome to the outer-rim of the "defense mechanisms". Suburban Detroit is pretty heavily populated, and a lot of pushy men are constantly pressuring women for well, attention. I'm sure they're friendlier and less guarded in the more rural areas. But near to a large city, they usually keep their guard up. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 5:27:01 AM | | In some places, many men interpret a friendly smile as "I desperately want you to follow me around and harass me for the next hour because I want you to take me to the back seat of your car and do me hard." | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:37:01 AM | I have to concur with some of the posters and say it's a wall to keep you from approaching her. Some guys interpret a smile or a "good morning" as "Approachable" and will therefore approach. So they put up the "I don't see you" blank stare to avoid having to reject someone.
If you're actually looking to meet women, then your best bet is to become one of the guys the girls don't give the blank stare to. Lose weight, tone up, get a good job, become financially secure and make some female friends to get you out and about. Good luck to you! :) | |
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