| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:16:40 AM | | Women sometimes complain that their man doesn't always satisfy her and leaves her high and dry in bed. One resean for this and this is my opinion is that most men do most of the work in bed. I'm no man-whore but I have been around the bloce a few times, maybe several times and I can count on one hand how many women really worked in bed, you remember those women because the sex was great. So, who really does most of the work in bed? | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:25:16 AM | | I guess it all depends on the person/relationship. With my relationship I can't say that I work harder or that my bf works harder...it's different kinds of work...what he does to get me off is different than what I do to get him off. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:27:09 AM | This all depends on the individual - male or female or BOTH..lol... If you have one who just likes to receive and just lays there..need I say more?! hahaha | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:28:08 AM | Most of the women I've slept with have been more submissive than dominant in bed and want me to 'take control'.
While this in itself doesnt bother me much sometimes I feel like women take it as an excuse to just lay back and enjoy the ride, and therefore in most of my experiences I have done the bulk of the 'work' in bed.
I'm happy to indulge most fantasies but regardless of the power-structure of our sex I'd love the woman to sweat as much as I am! | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:30:54 AM | | Well I for one love an equal relationship - give and take all the same! To me it's all about pleasing your partner and if your partner feels the same - then no one is working harder than the other! You are both happy that you have done your work well! | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 12:58:25 PM | Maybe work does make sex sound like a chore but I'm sure it is to some. Perhaps active is a better word, and it does matter who is more active in bed. If a man is more active then his female partner of course she'l be wanting again a few minutes later and the man will stil be in a bitof a recovery stage before he's ready again, if in fact he can go again. Now, I realize not all men are the same, some are like the energizer rabbit and some need to be energized. I bring this up because a lot of my female friends who are married or dating are always joking around about how they only get it once a night, I usually respond with well get busy and don't just lay there or something to that effect which is almost always followed by a look confusion or insult.
I don't mean to insult anyone but not only in my experience but in many of my male friends as well, men seem to be more active during sex then the woman. Some of my male friends are happy with their partner's activeness during sex. Just like women, we talk about and sometimes even complain to each other about the lack of good sex but for some odd reason we hardly ever talk to our partner about what's missing.
I would just like to find someone as active as me during sex, I think we all would unless some prefer to just lat there and get the chore over with. So ladies, please pick up the pace and become more active, what is here to loose. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:14:20 PM | "So ladies, please pick up the pace and become more active, what is here to loose."
Wow. Slightly offended. I don't think you should be using the term "Ladies" for this one.
I don't know how many people you've spoken with on this subject that leads you to be able to stereotype.
It's obviously up to the individual couple, and obviously the individual person. I know alot of lazy guys as well, who make the women do all the work! Sometimes it can depend on who wants it. Of course if my bf is passing out, but I am wanting to get some, I'm probably going to do more of the work. Vice versa. If it's just totally consentual/even we both share in the "work" as you call it. Getting active usually leads to better sex for yourself not only your partner. After a hard days work I'll let him relax vice versa but on weekends there is no excuse! | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:17:44 PM | Well OP If your going to put it in the terms of active...then it would be me, as I like the top after the foreplay.......Yes.........call it a control issue if you wish lol But I've never had a complaint  | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:32:43 PM | Men definately work "harder" in a cardio-workout sense, in my experience at least. Also in my experience, I work "harder" in matters of flexibility and using muscles and strength to achieve and maintain certain positions.
think it kind of balances out, in the long run. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 2:05:00 PM | | This is a loaded question OP, and a useless one at that. You are not going to get those deadfcuk's floating around on this site, and I would wager that they are in the majority here, coughing up their dirty laundry on a dating site to say that they do no work or they put in less of an effort than their other. All you are libel to get out of this is a bunch of people saying they do more than their spouse, or women do as much or more than men because they do, and vice versa. It's clear that some women don't carry their share of the load, and there are some men who do this also. It sucks but it makes you realize who is worthy of your affection really easily if that's part of your criteria. People complain that sexual compatibility has nothing to do with a relationship but in my eyes the topic of this thread has EVERYTHING to do with sexual compatibility and it's impact on a relationship. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:41:41 PM | Hm, well, let's look at it this way: is it easier to throw a ring around a bottle, or throw a football through a tire?
I think men do more of the work, usually, but I think it's harder for me to be on top than for HIM to be on top. Plus, I'm much bendier--I'd like to see HIM in some of these positions. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:50:30 PM | | I generally think that more sexual positions lend themselves to the man doing the physical activity than the woman, although it depends on the personalities and physical attributes of both. A well matched couple will both contribute equally towards mutual satisfaction, in different ways. Where possible, I enjoy doing more physically, just my preference! I can't deny that a woman who is good on top is a simply awesome alternative though! | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:53:22 PM | | For the most part a man does more but a woman who gets on top probably does more than a man ever could. It takes them so much hip and leg strength to continuously stay in that position. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:57:51 PM | I completely agree with Leanne that it should be an equal give and take.
However, I have had partners in the past who, after enjoying how much passion and *work* I brought to the table (or bed, stairs, back porch, whatever.... hehehe) would start to lack in their side of the *work*.
Also, I have found that since I orgasm very easily and quickly, that some partners don't think they have to work as hard. They would get me off (or more than likely I got off because it was something I was doing) and then they would continue to just lay back and enjoy the ride..... which is not a terrible thing, but not every single time.
This is exactly the same of what cktoronto said..... just the roles are reversed.
Like other posters have said, it depends on the two involved.  | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:03:32 PM | | Aprilrain: So you're saying that that your bf can be lazy during sex except on weekends? What happened to it's up to the individual? No matter how gently or considerate a person broaches a topic some no doubt will be ofended, that's not my intent but I realize it's going to happen. I agree, getting more active does lead to better sex for both involved, I'm just saying that it seems that most men are do more in bed. Think about when was the last time you rode your bf till he begged you to stop, then think about how often you do it, now think about he did the same, I would bet it's more often, maybe I'm wrong but I bet I'm right. Bottom line we have to honest and stop being offended. If someone told me that I was lazy in bed andit was true, sure I'd probably deny it then get offended. Because a woman likes to take charge and is more aggressive during sex, it doesn't make less of a lady. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:06:39 PM | Re the Opost
In terms of actual "manual labor", the male always works harder and more during the sexual act.
And when one counts that in addition to being a hard worker, his penis has to be willing and ready and inspired and creative and enduring, well then there should be no question.
But who is complaining? This "work" is the most fun "work" in der world! lol lol lol | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:07:25 PM | Dawn114,
yes I agree with you 100%, and feel bad that I didn't even think of that. So you're maybe 2 in 10 women who do. I wish there were more women who shared your appreciation for flexibility and stamina. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:19:23 PM | Damn, I like the different views and respect all your thoughts and comment on the subject. As I read, it would seem the majority keep saying it depends on the individual and even the couple. That does not address the issue: That I and most men I have talked to feel the man does most of the work during sex, not always but most of the time. As for using the word work, I don't mean like in a job or chores, I mean work as in activity and participation. Some women say they work harder because they can get into all these positions and hold for sometime, perhaps you do but you are in the minority. Again, speaking from personal experience the vast majority of women in my age group and a few years tounger can't even get in any position.
Now I'm not gumby damn it, but am always willing to try something new. I could give examples but I don't think it would be appropriate. | |
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| Who works harder in bed, men or women?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:33:55 PM | OP Normally I wouldn't touch this thread with a ten foot pole, but today, I'll bite.
When you've given a 15 minute bj and stood on your head to satisfy a guy, we'll talk. Until then anything I say will be held against me by every three minute man. I really don't think a man could possibly understand what it's like for a woman or vise versa.
I go to extra great lengths to satisfy my man, but it's between he and i...not him, me, and everyone reading this thread.
Best wishes ~
Edited to add: It's not work, it's a labor of love. One that both should enjoy. | |
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