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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:05:00 AM | | Hmmm....I met this guy online. Had great conversations. We've had a few nice dates. The thing is...He has never answers the phone when I call him first when at work or at home...Married or something? I told him I want to see where he lives. Am I paranoid? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:08:38 AM |
I told him I want to see where he lives. Am I paranoid?
Maybe he still lives with his parents? 
Paranoid, yes. Is the situation a little weird, yea I'd be kinda worried too. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:12:24 AM | haha this is what women do to guys all the time.. never thought guys do this to women...
traditionally if a guy doesnt pursue you actively ( chance) he isnt interested or he is playing games with you. Women do the same thing to guys, if a women likes a guy they will call him, if a guy likes the women the guy will call her.
Its great if its a mutual thing, where each party calls each other to keep open communication.. it looks like if you have repeatedly called this individual and he doesn't answer I would start with a *67 then his number ( basically makes your number private) if he still doesn't answer
a) because he is married or has something to hide
b) he is not in town or out of town for whatever reason
if its not B
he is as you expected and probably a snake. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:14:47 AM | it depends how long you have been seeing him. if someone wanted to know where i lived after just a few dates, id feel a little wierd.. i dont think your paranoid, i say you wait a little longer before insisting you see his home...
just read the post above me.
haha this is what women do to guys all the time.. never thought guys do this to women...
women do NOT do this ALL the time!! and of course guys do it too!! ive heard more about guys doing it than women actually..
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:23:45 AM | The thing is...He has never answers the phone when I call him first when at work or at home...Married or something? I told him I want to see where he lives. Am I paranoid?
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A lot of people never answer the phone. My ex wife never did nor does, it makes it hard to contact my son. So when I had a recent GF for a couple years, and her phone would ring while I was there, I wasn't surprised she didn't answer either. Luckily she would answer the phone if it was me, and I don't think she had call waiting.
If the guy is a fun date, and you two are having a good time, don't sweat this. But don't quit your job, sell your house, move and expect much else until you are confident the relationship is solid. Go do a forum search for how many people (men and women you knuckleheads) have done this. They are a hoot! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:57:53 AM | Lots of people do this. It may be that he is trying to avoid someone else who calls him and is a nuisance (an ex, his mother, a random crazy person) or that he simply regards the phone as intrusive. He may unplug it when he's not making a call. Alternatively, there may be a fault on the line as there was with my phone which would sound to the caller as if it was ringing but wouldn't make a sound at my end.
You've only had a few dates with this guy so just take your time: there is an awful lot that you don't know about him at this stage. The reason why he doesn't answer the phone is just one small thing. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:12:34 AM | Okay dont listen to nutcase, hense the name nutcase.
haha this is what women do to guys all the time.. never thought guys do this to women...
Okay the only reason i dont pick up the phone right away is because i am nervous. but anyways, He may very well be married, if his name is louie, and he lives in Chicago, or works there and owns his own business, he is married, his wife will find out, get ur number, and they will both bug the hell out of you, it sounds like lou, But dont *67 ur number, in my experience doing that guys find it very stalker ish, so you might turn him off! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:54:22 AM | my friend doesn't answer his phone...I call....let it ring a few times....hang up, he calls back...
it's just his thing...maybe it's HIS as well...
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:55:03 AM | A good number of reasons.
He may not have you in caller id.
He may do as I do if I do not recognize the number, or wait till they/you leave a message and call back. Many times due to business I am on the phone, or with a client and cannot answer due to courtesy.
Then there's the theory that you may be his "on the side" woman. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:47:37 AM | I'd just wait and see if he shows you where he lives. I'll admit to sometimes being bad about answering the phone with women I've met online ... for some of the reasons listed above, don't have your number in caller ID yet and am trying to avoid other nuisance calls with a similar number; I actually like the person and am nervous about answering; etc. Honestly, if you were calling me a lot at work I probably would not answer, I only take personal calls during work for short-term scheduling/planning, not chit-chat.
... now if he doesn't want to you to see where he lives ... then I'd start to wonder. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:40:00 AM | HIs phone could be disconnected or broken too
Heres how it goes, you meet in person after a few brief conversations
to determine compatibility, you meet in a public place for 20-30 minute coffee or a drink. you go back home and think about if you would want to know him better and if you do, a few more conversations to determine compatibility, then a second meet for a actual date. At that time, you can get enough info to run background checks on him
to assure identity and if he is legit or a criminal...
after about 4-5 dates, maybe he will invite you over.
If not, take your cue and get away from him, he has something to hide. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:44:34 AM | | tell him you want to see the deed to his house too, to make sure its his while your at it ! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:53:19 AM | | no if he were married his wife would asnwer phone and if he were married he would not have gave you his home phone. maybe he feels that the relationshoip isnt gonna work. You really simply need to ask him why. Only he knows | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:11:10 AM | | he never answers his phone...I think its high time you took his hint. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:19:22 AM | | Does he call you back, after he doesn't answer??? I have a girlfriend that does that. I call her and dont even leave a message, she sees that it was me, and calls me back. Always give the benefit of the doubt, at first. You dont know what he might be doing or for what reasons. Ask him. If something bothers you, ask. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:55:50 AM | | There could be a good reason this guy doesnt want you to see his home...Maybe hes not ready...Possibly a bad experience with a woman ...Lives with mama...Lives with a wife...Who knows, "Ask him"...Possibly you will get an answer..Good luck | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:02:28 AM | | I would "ask him" about it. Best way to find out :) | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:13:12 AM | Red flag, telephone calls, get ready for a little battle. I would tell him I want to visit him at home, if reply is not satisfactory, that is a big glowing waving red flag. If the man is not willing to be as open as I have been with him I know something is up. Find out before you take it seriously or too far. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:17:47 AM |
Red flag, telephone calls Incorrect. I'm not married to my cell phone. Perhaps this guy isn't married to his cell phone.
How many dates have you gone on? One? Perhaps too soon to see where someone lives.
I would tell him I want to visit him at home, if reply is not satisfactory, that is a big glowing waving red flag. Incorrect. Guys experience stalkers just like women. Maybe this is a concern and a red flag for him.
Why not have a frank discussion with him? We're just guessing here. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:30:18 AM | Personally...I don't even get why you think he's married if he gave you his home phone number and *isn't* answering. I mean...I could see if he was picking up quick on the first ring and whispering..and telling you to only call at odd hours...or he could only call you. I think after "a few" dates...telling him you want to see his house because you are worried he is married might be a little too much worry for not enough reason. And with his work...depending on his job...he may be in and out of the office and simply not there to just pick up the call right away.
I know...I often screen calls at home...or if I am in the middle of something..wait and call the person right back...and I'm certainly not married. If you are getting along well with the guy..try not to just jump and assume the worst. Good luck. =) | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:30:59 AM | Ok.,,,Thanks for all your feedback...I didn't get all the info to you out there...
He calls me...everyday but not last week-end,
He says he's really interested in me...
When he calls and I don't pick up,,,
I return his call...
He never answers...
even if I phone him back immediately...
I rarely initiate a phone call...
I know herwon't answer.....
Is he a controll freek???
Is he hiding something(me??)
Trying to keep track of his women???
There are othere fish in the pond...
Does this one seem a little too fishy? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:34:01 AM | OK...I forgot...(Sorry Guys.._)
It's his CELL PHONE
He has never given a home phone number to me... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:37:46 AM | I think you just answered yourself. If he wont give you his home number, I would have to say that there definately is something wrong. Confront him about it and see what he says.  | |
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