| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:29:52 AM | | So I met this guy and we e-mailed eachother for a while and decided we were clicking. first of all his pictures made him appear younger than he was, like 10 yrs. Well here we are having a snack and a beer, getting along pretty well. Then he wanted to go play pool and I thought that sounded like a good idea. While playing pool another guy came over to me and felt the need to tell me that he didn't like the guy I was with and to be careful because he could tell that he was a controlling ass. I was a little stunned but just carried on with the evening. Then later on in the evening some random girl ran her hands through my dates hair and his reaction to her was to yell at her. Ok I get it it is his personal space and he is with someone leave him alone, the man is 47 and acted like a child. He didn't just yell, he came and sat next to me and continued to carry on, started to say stuff like he couldn't believe that fat bitc# was even thinking he would be interested in her. He just wouldn't shut up so I finally looked at him and told him that I used to weigh 200lbs and that he was being very rude. During the evening he pissed a couple of other people off briefly not completely, like it was a misunderstanding. Now he has contacted me again and really I had a decent time with him in the begining of the evening but just those few things left a bad taste in my mouth with him. Could have been the drinks, Red flags? or Not? am I being too hard on the guy? Not looking for a drinking man, I like a man who can stay in control. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:34:09 AM | | Think of it this way - your out on a first date - it is safe to say you are on your BEST behavior. . . so this is the BEST this guy can do? uh, red flag indeed. If you want to give it another shot, feel free. But alcohol or no alcohol - seems the guy has issues he can't keep in check - even when trying to 'impress'. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:54:25 AM | | Alcohol causes you to lose your inhibitions, so if you really want to see what a person is all about, get them drunk. Your true personality comes out. I think you have seen this guy’s true personality. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:55:28 AM | Yes it is an excellent point...please don't see him again!!! Your way to good for that. And congradulations on your physical transformation...your gorgeous!!!! | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:00:27 AM | I'm never on my best behavior when I'm on a date, my personality doesn't change just because I'm out with someone, what you see is what you get. I have read many posts on here from people stating how nice the person was at first, only to show their real self 1-2 months down the road or as in your case right away.
It's like applying for a job, everyone is on their best behavior, then management realises they hired a real slob/lazy person after the fact. As for the drinking, who knows maybe he had a real bad day, oh ya guys can't use that excuse....lol. I stay away from people who have a tendency to drink too much for my liking.
How is this an attention seeking/troll post! for those that want to delete this. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:13:42 AM | Good 4 U extraordinary! I like a person to just go ahead and be who they are right away. Forget this best behavior crap. Torpedoes be damned! I want to see the real person, not have to go through a whole detecetive novel to find out the truth.
And if I was w/ THAT pool playin anger management case, he'd have that stick somewhere it don't really fit. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:34:39 AM | you have to learn to exit dates without making enemies, if you don't learn how to do this you will create stalkers and problems for yourself. you ego was hurt and he wasn't acting like you hoped. it was up to you to excuse yourself and get out of there, not fix him.
if you dont want to drink, stay out of pool halls and go to one of them uptight churches to find your man. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:02:24 AM | Wow -- Sorry you experienced this with him being ON his best behavior BUT it is a good thing that his true colors came shining through while you were out with him. This just has red flag written all over it and he is not worth your time. What stood out the most was the fact that he was throwing words around like "Fat B!tch" which only tells me that he has some deep rooted issues which will be prevalent later on should you two remain to date, personally, I'd kick him to the curb and be done with it.
There's plenty of other guys out there who CAN control himself and doesn't have all these deep rooted issues like your date did. If I were in your shoes, I would just leave things in a neutral state, if he presses for a second date, just tell him straight up how he made you feel on the first date but be ready for a backlash since his ego will be bruised of sorts. Or you could just say that you'd like to be friends and wish him luck on his endeavors. Leave it short, sweet and simple and avoid the dramatics.
Good luck! :) | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:19:38 AM | Hi OP
Fom your story, it sounds like this man has some serious issues amongst which sits Disrespect.
Was the girl random, I wonder, or did she know him? Sounds very strange that someone would just walk up and run their fingers through a complete strangers hair!!!
You were warned by another man that your date gave him bad vibes, that man clearly picked up some strong signals, if he felt the compunction to warn you.
For me, there is more than one Red Flag going on regarding this man..... I would stay clear of this character, he does not seem to have any particularly irresistable qualities as you did not seem to mention one.
There are plenty of guys who are Respectful, I would go find me one who is mature, leopards rarely change their spots.
As to a second date, I am sure there are a variety of reasons you could use to let him down gently. It really does not pay to tell him in a forthright way as he may react badly and give you a hard time. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:45:48 AM | | Yeah I guess I already know there will be no second date. As for him, being on his best behavior or not I see ppl everyday and realize most act more comfortable when they feel comfortable. Alcohol just excenuated his own insecurities. As for the girl who ran her hands through his hair. Well ya know, something tells me maybe she just wasn't just a random girl. but he did act like he didn't even know her. Either way, still no need of that. And just to let ppl know this wasn't a pool room type of bar it is actually a very nice restruant which randomley has a pool table stuck in the middle of the floor. So would never go on a date in a pool room, not my personality. Anyway thanks for your replys its good to get other feedbacks. | |
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| so your out on a date and the drink is alchole
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:52:51 AM | to artactive...At least you noticed the red flags...Thats good...I dont have much patience for folks that have to indulge in too much alcohol...Once in a great while maybe, but not on a first date...
My behavior is always the same...Alcohol turns some into a Jekyll and Hyde personality, too bad...I like maintaining control of myself anyhow...
I have to agree with leagueof (whatever) men...His profile name is too long...Sorry | |
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