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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:41:22 AM | I met a fella through this site,let me tell y'all he had all the right moves.He knew what to write,say,he was good let me tell you and in no time at all he had swept me off my feet at my age and right off this site I was very happy or so I thought. Come to find out in the end,he had more than one profile on here and was using the same slick words on all the women.Yeppers..he even wrote the same poems to them he wrote to me..that hurt,cause I thought for sure I was his only one and he was my only one.
My question to the men is..do you use the same smooth moves on every lady or is it that hard to come up with new ones with each new woman you meet? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:45:00 AM | stillalooking, you have to watch out for those things and report them to admin. having multiple profiles is a red flag and repeating the same words in those profiles draws another red flag. some people that are like that can be scammers.....just be careful. imo. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:01:18 AM | I never use smooth moves on anyone. You obviously got played, but learn from it. There are a lot of players and users out there but, we are not all like that. It sounds like you fell too fast to me. Better luck next time.  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:01:35 AM | Why bust your balls making up new stuff when the tried and true methods work? Every company lacky ,businessperson and politician knows this stuff.
Everything that anyone can every say to another human being is NOT original. Someone else has either said it or something very similar.
But...don't feel bad about it....at least the guys are trying. If this guy had different women on the line, he's a bit of a player. So what? Some are like that...certainly not all.
If ths is the kind of guy you want (who has all the right moves, etc...) you are probably setting yourself up for a fall. Dig deep down into yourself and find out what you truely want form a guy...then go looking for someone who wants to offer it. Otherwise, you are just kidding yourself. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:04:04 AM | | Cant say i have ever used "moves" on people in here when i was actively seeking, each person is different so you interract with each one differently. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:08:09 AM | Might be worth asking yourself how it was that you fell for something generic and insincere -- how strong is wishful thinking for you and how much do you allow yourself to believe what you want to. Words have a lot of emotional impact and you do need to be wary of being seduced by something that only has substance in your imagination.
And no, not all men are like this, of course they aren't! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:18:03 AM | Poems? You mean that crap really works??
Nah... I couldn't read a poem with a straight face if my life depended on it.
And I'm too scatterbrained to memorize lines...
Like lost leprechaun said....
I just be me, let the chips fall... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:37:27 AM | I have favorite lines, but I'll put them to use whenever I feel the situation is right, sometimes even when it isn't - and no, they aren't pickup lines.
I interact with everyone generally the same...as me. I wouldn't be using the same poem on two women at the same time. Everyone is different, and since there is so much material available I could find something that would suit just that one person, whereas it wouldn't be as fitting for the next. I like to call it putting in some effort every now and then. I will also note, I'm not big on the whole poem thing, although sometimes song lyrics will strike a chord with one's personality or my feelings for someone.
Sorry to hear you got played...the majority of mature adults aren't like this from my knowledge. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:47:07 AM | Since I am constantly evolving and upping my game, my moves are constantly getting better and more creative. Whether they are smooth??? I have no idea what the heck that means! Maybe if I was effeminate, I might understand that phrase. I know what I want when I see it and the hunter in me takes over. Whatever I have at my disposal in my arsenal of love and attraction, I put to use. It's a mating ritual, different species and different animals have their unique looks and moves. Sometimes they are repeated and sometimes not, it's all about what works when and with whom.
The higher the intellectual demand the more interesting and challenging. If poetry is what it takes, the mind can be inspired to hop into the ring and churn it out. I did that with the last person I dated, it just flowed effortlessly, I am now thinking of doing an open mic night and possibly try to publish. Even my sister, who is quite literary, was impressed. Now THAT is smooth!
One doesn't need any pick-up lines, everyone is equipped with what is needed to attract the opposite of the species, they just have to take the first step. It's quite straight forward. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:50:01 AM | | Come on girls. You have to be more protective of yourself than to fall for the old sweet talk routine. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:51:49 AM | Sorry you got involved with a "player." But there is hope not "all" men are this way. But as a "good" guy I dislike guys like this because they give us a bad name  
Best of luck to everyone  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:56:25 AM |
I dislike guys like this because they give us a bad name
I actually don't totally mind guys like that. I feel bad for those they involve in their evil ploys, but it gives a woman a reason to doubt my good nature lol. Which makes it harder to prove myself true to who I say I am, but it's good. Keeps me in touch with who I really am, by being forced to prove it all the time  <-- It's funny because it's true. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:02:39 AM | Actually you are very correct.
Best of luck | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 11:41:22 AM | I think if anyone is 'perfect' then it's a 'scam' and they're just playing you. That's just me though. Those are the only people I can think of that know just what to say and do all the right things.
I never try to use the same thing on anyone unless you want to consider the fact I'm always 'being myself' so I guess that's doing something. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:18:40 PM | | I hadn't dated in almost twenty years,so all this was really new to me.I was a believer.My eyes are wide open now.And thanks for all this input,I sure appreciate every answer here.Can't help it,I like a man who has a way with words..silly me..thanks y'all. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:32:14 PM | | I have yet to put the moves on a woman. but why would I use the same thing on different women. If I was going to do that.... I would perfect my game and change it up. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:39:24 PM | A friend of mine is also on here and she met a man like that. It was a shame too because he was the only one she felt she really clicked with.
He re does his profile all the time and tells women that he has stalkers when they question him on stuff. and I can't tell you how many times he's supposedly almost died.
I know I can't give out names on here and I won't but to the ladies of Cali if you would like to verify that its not someone your seeing I can help you out. The only reason I offer to do this is because he was becoming very threatening with my friend.
"Might be worth asking yourself how it was that you fell for something generic and insincere --"
Not always easy to tell, I saw my friend and this guy together and he seemed to be truthful. I will admit that I didn't actually like him for some reason when I net him, but he did seem to be honest with her. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:15:56 PM | Ohmigod, Eric V., your reply had me laughing!! Not at anyone...but how your"worded" your response. Poetry isn't crap! It can be quite lovely! Really!
Personally, I love writing poems...and have done so for a few guys...but I would NEVER write the same poem for different guys...
And Poster, remember: if something looks too good to be true, chances are it is.
You are taking it well | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:33:16 PM | A lady of your life experience should be able to pick out a smooth criminal.  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:50:32 PM | The question seems a little vague. Some behavior inherent to who I am as a person women find to be "smooth moves," where it's just me being myself.
Are you just asking which particular guy uses adopted behavior for ulterior motives and which guy screens women finding a more suitable match that will better understand internally motivated behavior?
Your question is insulting as it implies that all men use external means (smooth moves) to meet women rather than attract, or search for, women just being our self as well as implying that some are too lazy to come up with new methods of "tricking" (smooth moves) women to meet us. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:19:44 PM | I tried to be unique with everyone, but honestly, after the first 30 or so contacts, it is fairly hard to be special. Everything breaks down to the same pattern, if it never achieved anything, do not do it, if it did then do it again.
The key is to not get too caught up in using what works on multiple people at the same time because that is morally unethical. I do not see it as 'tricking' or 'smooth' or 'bad' to apply what works to a single individual. That is called 'dating' and is 'normal'. Not applying what works is why some people are still here single after several years. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:28:11 PM |
Poetry isn't crap! It can be quite lovely! Really!
Hey Sue!! The closest I get to feeling poetic is after drinking Baccardi 151. Next time I down some shots or make one of my patented banana daquiris I'll try to write you a poem... or at least a limerick... can't promise it won't be crappy though.
Smooth move:
I know a guy that used to take women to his lake cabin and they'd play in the hot tub on the deck overlooking the lake. In the wee hours when the sun was rising in the east and the moon setting in the west... He'd stand up and proclaim... arms outstretched to the east and west.... "I give you.... the sun.... and the moon!"
He's settled down now... a chick with smoother moves nabbed him.. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:13:47 PM | Hey, Erik V., you tell a good story though...about your friend...that was a great story...your ending was excellent(cause us chicks are smarter )
Okay..it's a deal...next time you are" intoxicated" with loving thoughts and the "spirits" are acting all muse-like, I would love a poem from you.
"Tis a lovely thing when the heart starts talking." | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:24:21 PM | | I use the same lines, compliments, touch of affections on every girl........the older i get the more things I've acquired in my arsenal that have been battle tested and proven. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:26:19 PM | I'll answer your question but first I want to know some information. Did he get some? If so, what was the poem?
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