| The Perfect Love Letter
Posted: 5/16/2008 12:17:59 PM | What was the perfect love letter you received or sent? I am always sending them myself when in Love, and I am interested in what you would say was the most memorable or special one for you?
It is fascinating because with internet this artform may be developed and we do not have the luxury of seeing the handwriting, the signature, feeling the weight or quality of the paper, or its texture, sometimes the scent... or perfume.
Do people even get love letters? Are we now in the synthetic world of virtual reality where texts and emails take the place of such memorabilia...
Our grandparents may have a shoebox of love letters with blue ribbons or shoelaces tying the inksoaked parchments...
What will we leave as a legacy behind?
Sometimes we get lazy and use a pre-written card, and just add our names... I only buy blank cards, and write my own 'love' message... even the words Happy Birthday are always in blank cards, as for me I feel I prefer the words to be my own...
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:22:58 PM | Well, I'm not going to share my actual letters, as they are deeply personal things between myself and a woman I loved.
But I can say that yes, I do hand write letters still. That personal touch means a lot to me.
And I don't think there's the "perfect" love letter... but some are far better than others.
They should always come straight from the heart.
Anyone can sign a card, or find some romantic poem written by another... but that doesn't show the love you feel. That's the easy way out.
It should be your words, said your way. That's what truly matters.
Letting the person know that you love them, fully and without fear. That they mean everything in the world to you. That they bring you joy like no other. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:37:19 PM |
What will we leave as a legacy behind?
The password to our email accounts. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 1:52:39 PM | | Adam - Why couldn't you be my age? Oh lord! BTW, I love your birds. I used to have 200 exotic birds in my house. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:18:00 PM | Letters are great imo because you can take the time to reflect back on things and put some time and real thought into what you want to say and how to say it. Letters to me are better because anyone can just blurt out an "I love you". It takes a little more meaning when you can go into the details on why. I'd recommend to anyone who hasn't done one to do it to see the reaction they'd get from the person they love.
That's my preference though, of course I think way too much sometimes. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:29:21 PM | Sending love letters? Do you use carrier pigeons for added effect?
I think it would be sweet to receive one. Unfortunately I never have. Assuming it by someone I had shared feelings for. Don't send them to people whom might not feel the same. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:39:12 PM | If I wrote a Letter on a Shoe Box and gave it to you would it be any diffrent if I sent you the same feelings in an email?
My idea is that no matter what form we send something in it is the Thought of Communication vs how it got there. I want to communicate that I have feelings and feel this way for some one vs how it got it to them.
Some of the Most touching letters I have ever gotten where in Email form and if I truly felt touched by them and wanted a hard copy I would print them off. But it still dosent make up for the words that those people sent to me.
I'm pretty sure that We all will hae a legacy and POF is proof of it. That when our Parents Dated and Grandparents Dated they used the Current Means at the time. Our Legacy will be Online Dating, how we were able to communicate to the Mass amount of people out there. How many people do you know meet over the Internet? I know people that meet over Video Games from the Internet.
Alot of it shows how people feel safer via the Internet when apporching some one. That becuase Im behind a computer and not face to face with some I can think thoughts and take my time trying to word it correctly. That will a click I can move away from the encounter.
Im 100% postive that we will leave behind a HUGE legacy with the Online Dating Sites.
As for those special times Birthdays and Holidays and just over all no matter what the format is in its the Sending of the Thought that counts vs how some one did it. To each there own. I respect your ability to write out a Card or Letter where some other people do not have this Talent.
Will | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:51:19 PM | | I've never gotten a love letter sadly enough. I made one a few times in the past but never got past the nerve to give it to the women I wrote them for heh. My friend read one of mine meant for this woman who liked me for awhile who I also had a crush on (this was back in highschool) he said that letter would of made her mine in a second...never got the balls to give it to her ah well *shrugs* | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:15:33 PM | A Love Letter is such a beautiful romantic idea... Ronald Reagan wrote Love Letters to Nancy all the time, so did the Last Czar and Czarina of Russia. I think it would on par with flowers for no reason... no better.
~Charmed~ | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:02:59 PM | | I suppose by now every one I sent has been thrown away or burned or made into a paper mache voodoo doll of me to stick pins into. I like to think that what is left behind is really carried along, in some part of her heart where at the time it settled in for good. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:14:57 PM | Letter writing is a lost art like this one from the Civil War.
"I have, I know, but few and small claims upon Divine Providence, but something whispers to me—perhaps it is the wafted prayer of my little Edgar, that I shall return to my loved ones unharmed. If I do not my dear Sarah, never forget how much I love you, and when my last breath escapes me on the battle field, it will whisper your name. Forgive my many faults and the many pains I have caused you. How thoughtless and foolish I have often times been! How gladly would I wash out with my tears every little spot upon your happiness . . .
But, O Sarah! If the dead can come back to this earth and flit unseen around those they loved, I shall always be near you; in the gladdest days and in the darkest nights . . . always, always, and if there be a soft breeze upon your cheek, it shall be my breath, as the cool air fans your throbbing temple, it shall be my spirit passing by. Sarah do not mourn me dead; think I am gone and wait for thee, for we shall meet again . . ."
Sullivan Ballou was killed a week later at the first Battle of Bull Run, July 21, 1861.
http://www.pbs.org/civilwar/war/ballou_letter.html | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:46:41 PM | What I've started to do in last little while is write a poem for the person and out it in a Picutre frame. Seems to be greatly apprecieated.
Tim
=)x | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:54:30 PM | Obviously not the opinion of a guy here, but I had to add my take on this.
The best love letter I ever received was written to me when I was in my early 20's. He and I were attempting a long distance relationship, and to keep things personal we sent letters back and forth sometimes. The letter was a detailed account of how he wanted to drive out to see me and how we would spend our time together. It was filled with humor (which was one of the things I loved the most about him) and ended very romantic.
The reason that was the best love letter and so much better to me than all the others that were more conventional was because he did infuse his humor into it. He knew that his humor was something about him that I loved and it made the letter seem more personal. It really felt like a part of him and every time I read it, I felt like he was close to me. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 11:29:23 AM | | I've written deep, long, love letters. Expressing how I feel the best I could. Both happy, and sad things. Things that I couldn't say to their face, or things that were better expressed written. I don't know if the person still has my letters. I however, thrown out all the love letters I ever got one day. And I don't regret it, I didn't like the idea of "holding on". I never want to read letters from exs or remember memories about them, sometimes it only makes you sad. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 12:10:01 PM | | I have written plenty of letters/poems to some of the special women in my life throughout the years and I have found that they really appreciated the effort I made. Sometimes it was the hand-written card that I wrote that got more of a response than the gift that went with it. I think that a lot of the time it is the little things that matter the most for both men and women. I know I feel special when someone takes the time to do something like this for me, so why not reciprocate? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:22:41 PM | original poster,
one of the things i like best about being in a good relationship is having an opportunity to express our deepest feelings, especially in poems or letters. for this reason i am generally drawn to articulate people. the best letters i have gotten were from a young lady who majored in english literature during her time at university. she had studied poetry extensively and was quite an accomplished poet herself. i still have her writings tucked away somewhere as a reminder of what i can inspire in another human being.
i think the best parts of a good love letter reveal someone's appreciation of a tiny moment that others would overlook, and seeing that someone noticed that about you can be very affirming; it feels wonderful. as such, i always make a point of noticing and commenting on the little things i like about someone else. i think such compliments carry the most weight. great topic; thanks for posting. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:38:47 PM | I love this quote. For some reason it reminds me of the thread about kissing, which turned into a thread about what a good kiss was. That if you do it right, at the end of it you are stunned and dazed and not quite sure what happened, just that it was good :)
"To write a good love letter, you ought to begin without knowing what you mean to say and to finish without knowing what you have written." -- Jean-Jacques Rousseau
Jules | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:41:44 PM | | It sounds like Rousseau would also say about aphorisms that to write one, begin without having anything to say and end without having said it. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:45:39 PM | | perfect love letter is the one that doesn't ask for a response. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 10:20:33 PM | The best love letter I received was also in my early 20's in the middle of a long distance relationship. She scented it with her perfume, filled it with dried rose petals, a couple of cute pictures, and the words "I love you" written in 5 different languages. It was so sweet and genuine....I loved it!  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 11:02:25 PM | I have written many personal letters to someone I once loved and I will say this....he also did the same for me and it was amazing :-) Once he came to my house while I was at work, put a note on my outside door that said "Sweet Girl" I was so touched.....yes he could have emailed me that same letter, but it was his writing on that paper and the smell of his cologne and the thought that he drove over an hour to drop it off....that is so different then just typing an email to someone...what if your computer randomly crashes and the letter gets lost in cyber world....what if you accidently delete it by pressing the wrong button...I dissagree that it doesn't matter how you do, but what you have to say means the same....I like to have these letters that I can cherish years later in my hand and not wonder where they went to online :-) Just my thoughts!
Debbie | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 11:47:27 PM | The most memorable love letter I ever got...was an email...and all it said was...I LOVE YOU...written over and over again filling the entire page  | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 9:36:41 AM | | when i was 15 i sent my crush a letter that was everything that she needed to hear ( it talked about my feelings for her but i am not going to talk about that here ) but she had just lost here grand dad and her parents broke up due to another woman and by & low she was feeling vary depressed and missed school alot because she didn't want to see the people that she knew for fear of pity or someone elses feelings ( now let me say right now i had only taked with her for about a week through the course of the school year ) but my letter said that even though i had never met her grand dad or seen her family in happy times ! that she was loved by all of them and that if she ever needed to talk to someone i would be more then willing to skip class with her just to hide away and talk ! about two months later just as she was packing to move to the states she pulled me aside and thanked me for being a good friend and then gave me a peck on the cheek and left !!!! and now 10 years later she has moved back to town and she went through the whole phone book , old friends , and so on to find me and we hit it off again !! and btw she still has that letter !!! - it didn't work out between us but were still talking once and awhile !! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 9:56:55 AM | I used to write letters once in a while.. Agreed it's not the most technologically advanced way of communicating, but I feel that a hand-written piece of paper, as opposed to reading off a screen, can be more effective in communicating feelings..
Atleast, receiving one feels nice.. | |
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