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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:34:47 PM | This is simply to get some sort of insight on how successfull or otherwise the whole dating thing is working for Guys and Gals as a general overview.
Comment on anything your comfortable with.
How often do you go on a date ?
Have you ever been stood up ?
Have you ever stood up someone else ?
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ?
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ?
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date ? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:18:51 PM | I have not been out in years, so therefore i have not been stood up, have not stood anyone up, not gotten cold feet nor have had good or bad dates.
sad huh?? But that's life | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:03:04 PM | Oh Op you should know me by now
How often do you go on a date ? 0
Have you ever been stood up ? 0
Have you ever stood up someone else ? no but my car concked out...phew 
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ? YES
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ? good higher because I don't date so won't experience bad
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date ? Yes but not to be cruel
just not ready so it's not fair to pretend | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:31:42 PM | How often do you go on a date ? Have met all offers. Coffee classed as a date. if not O
Have you ever been stood up ? Yes. Was invited to his place for dinner and he didn't show up.
Have you ever stood up someone else ? No
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ? No
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ? Coffee was good.
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date ? No isn't that why we are here.
Good thread Coal | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:44:26 PM | How often do you go on a date ? 1-3 TIMES A WEEK, MAINLY ON WEEKENDS
Have you ever been stood up ? NO
Have you ever stood up someone else ? YES BUT HAVE GIVEN PLENTY OF NOTICE
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ? YES MANY TIMES
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ? 1 / 12
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date YES OFTEN | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 11:57:54 PM | How often do you go on a date ? maybe once a month (though had one today)
Have you ever been stood up ? yes
Have you ever stood up someone else ? no
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ? yes
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ? 50/50
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date ? yes
but i refuse to act as though my life is over - i have met some fantastic people and seen some great places and would not have done half of it if it had been for the fact that you need to take a chance and live outside your box every now and then!  | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:51:05 AM | A guy was going to come over to see me ..but ..when he saw the house i lived in .... he didnt bother..then he was back on the net... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 2:06:53 AM | And your point is what Rosebud,,,,straightas ? ? ? Did he tell you he didn't come in because of your house, maybe he got cold feet have you spoken to him, and' Having someone YOU don't know come to your HOUSE for a first date is just WRONG very dangerous thing to do for heavens sake girl be careful...... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 3:16:56 AM | | i guess that it is dangerous...but...as for the name changing... i am trying to find the right one.. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 3:41:07 AM | How often do you go on a date ?
Haven't this stint. Not ready at all. Last time I was single, went on a couple before I found somebody I thought was nice.
Have you ever been stood up ?
No. Who would stand me up? PMPL....
Have you ever stood up someone else ?
No. That's just rude.
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ?
Yes - this stint. Got nervous when he started asking what size clothes I wore...found that a little off-putting, and decided I wasn';t ready for that sort of scrutiny yet!
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ?
Mine have all been good in as much as I find it really easy to chat to people I don't know (in real life, not on msn). Good as in wanting to see someone again? Prolly only went on three....
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date ? For sure. I won't go on a 'date' with someone I am not attracted to...or who gives me that r'ed flag' feeling! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 3:43:13 AM | I date 2-3 times a week but these are mainly with guys who are already in my inner sanctum-- guys i know & trust & who ive been seeing for ages.
Ive never been stood up & nor have i stood anyone up.
Ive declined dates coz im quite happy with the men who are already in my life.
They made the cut.............................: )
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Posted: 5/17/2008 5:37:24 AM | How often do you go on a date ? Depends on the definition of a date. Date that involved female friends without sex and without expectation of sex? Last night. Date with the prospect of it turning into more? 7 years. Date that was nothing more than sex on both my part and hers? 5 months.
Have you ever been stood up? yes.
Have you ever stood up someone else ? Never have, never will.
Have you ever gotten cold feet and bailed out.....diplomaticly ? No
How would you best describe the ratio of good vs bad dates ? They are all good in some way, If you look for the good.
Do you sometimes decline the offer of a prospective date ? yes. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:06:57 PM | Personally, i haven't been on a date in something to the effect of 2 1/2 years.......so my answers would probably best described as N/A.
It definatley pays to be thick skinned in the world of dating......or lack there of......being able to laugh it off is a definate asset. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:50:42 PM | Hey CC. I actually went to a meeting today. One that I bailed on earlier in the week, for reasons best left to myself. It has left me with a feeling akin to that of finishing a job interview for a position I'm not sure I want. So I wouldn't say we exactly hit it off, but it was a good excuse to get out of the house.
I've been on this site for about 2 years now, basically as I'm advertised now and had about, umm a few dates. Say about 5. Can't really see the point in not being honest here:- I find very few people who I correspond with actually read this forum and who gives a shit anyway? I'll admit 2 of them were pretty much a few drinks and some wham bam thanks very much, nice to meet you see you next time, though it's a little unsettling when you encounter someone like that, because you know you're not suited , but you can't rule out having some fun with them either and get to know them a little better. But all said and done if it puts a smile on your face and nobody is injured, it's all good.
I think it really would be the perfect storm to encounter someone who has an equal level of attraction, or at least some interest that is reciprocated either way. What I mean is, it's either; I'm not into them, or they're not into me and in between is starting to seem like an impossible fluke. Love at first sight has happened to me only a few times in my life and believe me I'm greatful that I got to act on it and see it to fruition, but how about long term relationships with people we didn't really consider at first, but because they were in our social circle, we just got to know them and eventually grew fond of them? This is how most people eventually connect you would think...Internet dating doesn't offer the incidental meetings at friend's BBQs or work functions etc, in a warm and fuzzy environment. It always seems like a business meeting for me and it gives me the willys. It's fine if you can stand up to plenty of scrutinisation and inspection, without letting on that you're being just as judgemental. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:03:29 PM |
...but how about long term relationships with people we didn't really consider at first, but because they were in our social circle, we just got to know them and eventually grew fond of them? This is how most people eventually connect you would think...Internet dating doesn't offer the incidental meetings at friend's BBQs or work functions etc....
I have felt like you have just stated above for a while now SVV and I have had friends suggest that to me too. So I started giving people the benefit of the date and seeing them again for a 2nd and 3rd time but still no big attraction for me. It's also quite difficult to be "friends" with a guy that I have met as a potential romantic date because even though they suggest going out just as friends for dinner, movies, etc, sometimes it's just a bit unbalanced and awkward when both of you are not on the same goal plan.
It would be great to just meet somebody without a future agenda and yes get to know them and become fond of them and then fall in love with them. But usually for me, it has been love at first sight for the long term relationships I have had in my life (including one 18 year marriage) and 2 other 2year+ relationships. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:26:09 PM | | i would date more if i was given more respect.. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:28:23 PM | Do you ever say anything positive Roses or whatever your name is today .No one wants to date a Sad Sack .Do a self asteem class or something and get out there and mingle   | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:29:14 PM | | Oh and by the way Respect is earnt not given away | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:32:40 PM | DATE is the eldest known cultivated tree crop. Every time a date seed is being planted , a new variety of dates is originated, just as every time a child is born , a new kind of person is brought into this world. The only way to perpetuate a variety is to propagate its offshoots. A date palm produces at or near its base, 5 to 25 offshoots or suckers during the first 10 to 15 years of its life.
Date palms are dioecious. Female flowers produce the fruit and male flowers produce the pollen. .
Date is a fruit full of Vitamins and Minerals such as variety of B-Complex Vitamins, Thiamine , Riboflavin , Niacin, Vitamin B-6 and Pantothenic Acid , Phosphorous , Protein and Fiber. These Vitamins & Minerals have a variety of functions that help maintain a healthy body.
So there you go, if you want to be regular................EAT DATES!  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 12:08:37 AM | hhmm, dates,,,havent been on a 'proper' date as it would be called for a while. have had a meal with someone recently which was actually a spur of the moment type thingy,,,,was fairly Ok, then a beach date with the same guy but it seemed the more that I got to know him, the more I wasnt interested,, nice guy, easy to talk with but just no spark in it for me at all. Oh well, have made a friend (I hope) from the whole experience so all is not lost :)
so tosirwithlove,,,,,, are you saying that dating gives people the sh*ts? ROFL | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:23:02 AM | Pretty much relate to SirWithLove on 'dating' issue.
Only dates I've savoured in the last decade or so have been in my muesli or sticky puddin'.
Oh yeah, [silly grin]....except for that one guy.... but i'll not go there....
Dates just seem like soooo much commitment... certain time , certain place etc...a spontaneous head butting into another would suit me better... I can't even commit to replying email, let alone a set 'date'. 'DateChallenged'....'AppointmentPhobic'... too bloody comfortable with my own company to care mostly.... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:28:41 AM | | All BS aside, i'm beginning to think........the longer we're on our own, the more selfish we become. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 3:27:11 PM |
All BS aside, i'm beginning to think........the longer we're on our own, the more selfish we become.
No not so much selfish, but maybe comfortable and also a little out of tune....also maybe picky too.
Love is sometimes like employment the longer you don't work the harder it gets for you to want to get a job ...I suppose it becomes a fear.
If you truly love someone I am sure you won't be selfish. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:31:23 PM | | Goddess......i know what you're saying......for some it's a big plunge to step out of the comfort zone.....fear of the unknown. | |
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