| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:55:03 PM | Hey fellow women (and men if you have anything to add)
I wanted to ask - how do you 'get by' or cope when you're single, no sexual partners, when you are feeling...well...sexual or aroused? It's been about a year for me, I've gotten through a bad divorce, trying to bounce back, not sure about myself right now...but urges happen.
Dry spells, how to get by? Thanks!!! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:03:37 PM | There is a kind of sex you can have with a man in between relationships. It's called saying yes.
Other than that you should not indulge in anything sexual. Doing so puts you at risk of developing a dependence on vibratory implements, which once you develop the habit is hard to break even if you start a relationship again. Much is at stake. I know you'll choose wisely. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:05:45 PM | !!! My goodness !!!
I've been implementing my battery operated friend a lot over this year. Sheesh.
What the heck am I going to do? | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:06:31 PM | | I have been single (Not in a relationship) for 2 years, but I have had a few play dates in the last 2 years when the urge really takes over....But for the most part I try not to do that often and when I do I play it safe....Otherwise, my drawer is stocked with batteries and toys....The only time I look to play is when I am so bored of my toys and myself lol.....Oh that and I have online friends that I can turn on my cam for and make it more interesting, but still playing alone, just fulfilling the exhibitionist in me. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:10:10 PM | How do I get by? I have sex with myself! Over and over and over and over and over again!
And when that isn't cutting it, I find a man who is really hot and have sex with him.
Works every time ;) | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:14:45 PM | Um...okay...forgive my next question if it comes off as silly or naive...
...how do you 'find a hot man' to take care of needs? I'm really sexual, but shy and still unsure of myself (haven't met anyone, but I guess you can't meet men while keeping to yourself I suppose).
How do you go about finding a non-crazy man to 'scratch the itch'? Are you ever scared/nervous? Thanks for your responses! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:18:15 PM | | Find one who rides a motorcycle. That is important. Beyond that, well, wearing a T-shirt that says "I swallow!" will get some conversations started. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:20:39 PM | Well, can't guarantee they aren't crazy  but meet them off of here and a couple other sites you can post ads on....I suggest meeting in person before you decide on a guaranteed night of sex or whether it's going to be you going home to your toys again.....Take it from there, try to be safe and have fun...It's all about balance....and make sure he is aware that you only want sex, if that is all....
Good luck | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:29:09 PM | Well I am sure you already own several toys to help out in between those *times.*
I know that everyone at some point wants the human touch so to speak.... basically you just need to find yourself someone you can trust to be taking care of those bigger urges. I am sure you will find the perfect person to take care of your needs. Just remember to communicate the boundaries and go into it with the mindset that nothing more would ever happen.
Good luck :) | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:34:15 PM | I wish I had a person to 'lean on' during lean times...lol. I guess my confidence is shot, and I don't have the smarts, experience, etc...do go out *where* and meet a man to simply play with.
I will have to stop thinking of myself as a swamp thing, and get what I need. It's hard to out think fears isn't it? Many thanks all! I'd love more tips/ideas! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:42:11 PM | I'm out of this thread, but it occurred to me that when men come online looking to get laid, women tell them to buy a hooker if all they want is sex.
I AM NOT A SEX OBJECT!
^^^Oops, didn't mean to tease you with that.
Go get 'em, Tiger. You're hot. You'll score. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:54:09 PM | | Pers... you have sensed it all ready. If you want to attract men you must believe in yourself.If you feel you are sexy and attractive you will be to men..you will send out a vibe. Confidence is the greatest sex appeal! I see youre quite young and obviously a bad relationship has done this to you, spend some time at the gym and the spa..go shopping, take a self esteem course, have a "im wonderful " party and invite all your friends to come over and tell you wonderful things about yourself..just dont sit alone in your room all night and waste time! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:33:22 PM | As a guy I've had that happen once between marraige and last LTR. Met a lady, she was all into numbers and such like birthdays and all. Said we weren't compatible as a couple but said hadn't had sex in a long time and just wanted that. So that night and one other and went our own ways (too bad, it was good sex  ) | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:55:07 PM | | Well, I personally have a little battery operated friend lol. If there is a time that doesnt work out, then I do have a good friend that I have fun with once in awhile. Just find yourself a clean, fun, sexy guy and have at it lol. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:58:58 PM | | Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and fall into the dark abyss of self-abuse. If that doesn't work, look me up and we'll talk about it over a martini. And I make the driest martinis in existence. The secret is simple. You fill a glass with five fingers of gin and then look at a picture of the guy who invented vermouth while you drink it. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:56:18 PM |
...how do you 'find a hot man' to take care of needs? I'm really sexual, but shy and still unsure of myself (haven't met anyone, but I guess you can't meet men while keeping to yourself I suppose).
Try looking at it this way.. the night would be all about you. You want to have sex, so go get sex. Believe me.. it would be a rare guy indeed who would look at you, critique you, point out your flaws, and then have sex with you. The guy will just be sooo incredibly stoked that you will be treating him as a sexual object. In these kinds of situations, you can be who you want to be, take what you want, do whatever you want, and just let yourself go. Cuz really, you never need to talk to the guy again if you don't want to! Just let lose and have fun!
I used to be like you, afraid of what guys will think since I feel I am not all that appealing to look at. But meh, those nights where I let lose are the best. I deliberately find the hottest guy I can, and invite him over for some hot sex. I haven't had a bad experience yet! | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:04:34 PM | | Well OP I'm sure that now you have done this post you'll have less trouble finding a man too lean on lol | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:05:53 PM | "Hey fellow women (and men if you have anything to add)
I wanted to ask - how do you 'get by' or cope when you're single, no sexual partners, when you are feeling...well...sexual or aroused? It's been about a year for me, I've gotten through a bad divorce, trying to bounce back, not sure about myself right now...but urges happen.
Dry spells, how to get by? Thanks!!!"
Are you serious? I mean REALLY?
Invest in a Battery Operated Boyfirend dear... they work wonders! lol
Two words for you... Cyber Skin... hhahaha | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:17:04 PM | | How to get by? Good question... first for me would be not to read things like this. It has been 8 years since my last break with a man and I generally keep myself extremely busy to even be able to give into the urges. But how I cope with them coming up, there are so many things that I do to get through. I am not one that sleeps around in between, which can explain why I am single still . But with my values I am not that kind of girl.. I suppose that is somehting that makes a difference in how to get by also. What values are more important. Sex was really important when I am with someone I love but as for when I do not have someone I kind of put it in the back burner and let it simmer fo rthe next person I learn to love. thinking more about it, I focus elsewhere, that's how I cope. Not sure if it helps someone who has just recently broke with someone but that is how I got through the past years. And how to bounce back will depend on how much you are willing to give up the effects this brake up will make on you. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:20:40 PM | blah blah blah.... BORING!
I mean really... the girl is just asking how to get by... meaning how to get her special spot tickled... lol Not the meaning of life.... some people are way too damn serious... hunny YOU NEED TO GET ****ED INTO A COMA... you'll feel bettter  | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:24:12 PM | | Eh I haven't had sex in 11 months and counting. Not really missing it. I use my hand occasionally, but mostly if I get bored not so much turned on. I have little sex drive so I don't get very turned on, and can do a long time without. No urges to jump some guys bones yet. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:30:20 AM | Hmm....now,lets see.......
A lightbulb just went off in my head & this List is what ive come up with....
1. Any of your male friends wouldnt knock it back......
2. Most guys in a Bar will be looking to get laid......
3. Ditto -- most guys at a Singles nite will be looking for same.
4. Ditto for guys on telephone chat(sex)-lines.
5. Then,you have guys on Dating sites,particularly Adult sites.......
6. Oh,and if all those fail,there's always cyber sex,phone sex,pornsites..............
Your vibe could be your safest option............
Get out there,girl!
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:44:05 AM | oh dear.. here I go opening my mouth but hey.. what's new! 
How do you cope when no man is in your life?
I find this is a time to really get to know you and find your inner self and see just what you want in life. Why do you need to find a man to satisfy you?
Phone sex, porn sites, all that dull stuff isn't going to do anything but remind you that you don't have a man.
Ladies.. YOU ARE SITTING ON A GOLD MINE!!!! Not just any man gets it!!!!!
Protect it! Nourish it! Protect it!
When you do finally get the man that wins the honor then he best know how important he is because you've brought him close to your heart.
As far as sexual satisfaction for yourself.
#1. forgot batteries! Nothing is worse than to get the dildo out and the batteries are dead! Talk about ticked off!
#2. use your fingers, touching, getting acquainted with what really pleasures you.
You have to know before you can tell him what makes you happy!
#3. Go electric! It never dies! Wanda (omg am I saying this) is my best friend. She is a vibrator that has sexual attachments with it. Hitachi HV-250R Magic Wand is my favorite friend that nobody touches.
#4. Ladies... Satisfy yourself long before you are near a man then you can enjoy his company without needing him to crumble your gold mine having not earned it.
Now is all that clear? Cause I'm sure I'm gonna die after I hit "post". | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:26:04 AM | I masterbate  since I don't do 1 nite stands or friends with benefits. I only have sex or make love when in a serious committed relationship. | |
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| Ladies, how do you cope?
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:56:05 AM | It has been eight months since my baby walked out the door and I haven't had sex with anyone but me since. I know this is a record for me. I haven't been this long without since I first became sexually active. At times it drives me crazy but not as crazy as lame sex with someone I don't really know. The sex with my ex was so incredible that I think that was the glue that held us together through some very tough times. Frankly, I am terrified that I will never have a lover that I am that compatible with again. Destined to a life with lukewarm after you've had a steady 25 year diet of ohmygod we're hot is just damned depressing. He(the ex) says the same thing.
On the other hand, we loved each other deeply and passionately. The sex never waned, even till the last day we were together. The odds of finding that kind of love again? I guess anythings possible but I doubt I'm ready for it yet. Not by a long shot.
I am seriously considering hiring a pro. I want mad skills to match my own. Anything less would just be, well, less.javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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