| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:59:15 PM | If there was more romance (more flowers, suprise dates, whatever), with your past or current boyfriend would the sex be better?
Are men getting a return on their investment by doing these things? I am guessing the sex would be the same. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:05:48 PM | "...a RETURN on their INVESTMENT"? I guess if that's the way you view doing nice things for the woman you're seeing then no, I can't guarantee you your "money's worth" in noticeably improved sex. So why bother, right?
Ugh, I feel soiled. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:06:04 PM | How stupid to even say that. You do those things because you want show your affection for someone and not to get sex.
Return on investment. WTF???????? | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:07:45 PM | If there was more kissing, touching & foreplay - there would have been more sex. And guess what? Those are free! 
Romance is great but not if its not sincerely given or felt. If it only feels like a man is doing it to 'score'-it lost its meaning and he won't even get to first base . For most women, there has to be a great emotional connection first and then the physical will follow.
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:21:05 PM | Ok.... Romance is not gifts.......romance is the art of seduction, attention, passion, and feeling......
And it is certainly NOT an investment, remember the saying "if mammas happy, everbodies happy" , there ya go.. A women who is happy, will go to the ends of the earth for her man......
If a man knows how to seduce me with his words and his charm , show me how into me he is, kiss me passionately and seductively....the sex would be unstoppable.... | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:23:43 PM | There is more to romance then just bringing flowers. You can actually over-do the flowers. My husband did .
Romance is talking to your SO, but listening to what she wants to talk about too, not just about work or business, talking about the relationship you two have, cuddling by a fire, cuddling while watching a movie,etc.
If you work on the relationship, the sex will be better. If you honestly love your SO and honestly care how she feels the sex will better. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:41:32 PM | Legalized prostitution is just what you made romance sound like. Here is my complaint - time for rant now cause you just sadly hit on my pet peeve.
WHY is it that flowers, chocolate, dinner and crap like that is considered an investment - BUT you still want your woman dressed in sexy lingerie and all sexed up for you - guess what that stuff isn't free and is a WHOLE lot more then some damn flowers and I bet you never had to stand in a certain way to keep a flower from crawling into the crack of your ass.
Keep your damn investments and use the funds to buy a clue - ROMANCE IS ROMANCE it shouldn't be a chore or an obligation but a desire to do it because you want to as well. Romance is to feel good and loved and secure - to let your guard down and just show someone how you feel - it is not about the expense - and if you make it that - you just made it prostitution and can keep it | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:47:43 PM | Wow ... are you kidding me , you make it sound like you are paying a hooker .
Flowers gets you................................xx
Chocolates get you .............................XXX
Diamaonds get you .............................XXXX
OMG you know being loving and considerate and making a woman feel loved and special cost nothing and you know what I will give XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.
That is so sad a way to look at your love life . | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:01:08 PM | Romance is a phone call in the middle of the day to say "How's your day going..."
Romance is a paper airplane note left on a pillow...
Romance is a kiss while she's sleeping as you leave for work....
Romance is picking wildflowers....
Romance is bringing dinner home instead of cooking...
Romance is picking up her favorite magazine when you out shopping....
Romance is telling her a secret from your past...
Romance is listening to her crazy childhood stories...
Romance is taking a walk in a park....
Romance is a cupcake....
Romance is.... I think you get the point... | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:16:26 PM |
Romance is a cupcake....
A cupcake eh?
Wah-ell...I baked a 2 1/2 x 1 1/2 foot cake the other day which means...
...Dammit...I should be in bed with someone right now
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:31:56 PM |
If there was more kissing, touching & foreplay - there would have been more sex. And guess what? Those are free! What is this "foreplay" of which you speak?
Don't let them eat cake Kyn, let them eat... oh, never mind *sigh* | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:40:16 PM | The cupcake is an inside joke... And no... It will never leave The Danger Zone...
Sorta like the "Tuesday" thing... I got secrets I don't tell.... | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:48:26 PM | "Romance is a phone call in the middle of the day to say "How's your day going..."
Romance is a paper airplane note left on a pillow...
Romance is a kiss while she's sleeping as you leave for work....
Romance is picking wildflowers....
Romance is bringing dinner home instead of cooking...
Romance is picking up her favorite magazine when you out shopping....
Romance is telling her a secret from your past...
Romance is listening to her crazy childhood stories...
Romance is taking a walk in a park....
Romance is a cupcake....
Romance is.... I think you get the point..."
Danger Zone...
Ummm two questions...
Are you still single...
and...
Why aren't you in Florida? lol | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:00:07 AM | Romance is a cupcake....
I love cupcakes...... 
Are men getting a return on their investment by doing these things? I am guessing the sex would be the same.
Yeah buddy, the sex is gonna be the same..... *dear gawd.... wtf?
If you want good sex, you give more of yourself dood.... This isn't Accounting class....
"return on ... investment"..... 
Try giving time, energy, laughter, an ear, a shoulder, a hand....
Give things that she can't go out and buy herself... give her YOU and you'll get a better
"return on your investment"!
Edit: OP is a currency/stock trader. Now I understand.... that's his "lingo"..... oh well, too late. No sex for the OP. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:09:54 AM |
...Dammit...I should be in bed with someone right now
Ieeee...
Don't let them eat cake Kyn, let them eat... oh, never mind *sigh*
Yieee Yieee
Naughty, naughty, naughty... | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:39:51 AM | Let's give the OP a break, shall we? He's a stock trader, so "return on investment" is a phrase he hears and uses often, so is probably just the first thing that came to mind when trying to get his point across. But aside from that, "investment" does not always mean $$$. Here's another definition:
6. a devoting, using, or giving of time, talent, emotional energy, etc., as for a purpose or to achieve something
Who hasn't done that?
OP, to answer your question, my opinion is you reap what you sow. "Investing" in a relationship, whether that "investment" is in flowers, energy, time, or (apparently) cupcakes, is going to get you a better "return" than would contributing nothing. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:46:43 AM | I agree with OhioLady!
Yes romance is all part of the fore play... sex is much better when both parties feel appreciated and loved.
~Charmed~ | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:06:57 AM | I used to love the show ''queer eye for the straight guy'' and Carson was so funny. One of my favorite lines was.
"I'm bisexual. Buy me something and I'll get sexual.''
I sort of adopted it as a joke because I love to shop, love getting new clothes, shoes, lingerie, etc. I love when men shop with me. Of course I can buy my own stuff, but it's nice when a man wants to buy you things. I'm not used to that. I used to work in a retail store and envied the women who came in with men who would just buy them whatever they wanted. I don't know if they were getting more sex but they didn't seem to mind.
I think giving gifts should be sincere and not meant to get sex. All the things you mentioned are nice, but again what is the motive? If it is just to get sex, and the woman is obliging, then you'll eventually become the man complaining you've got a golddigger. I'm sure many women do this sort of thing, but most women would prefer to have a normal loving relationship with a few surprises now and again. Frankly, I'd rather hear compliments myself. I'd love to hear how beautiful I look and how I make him feel. That gets me going more than anything. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:13:55 AM | As always, Jim states this absolutely perfectly...
A return on your investment? That makes me rethink all the things guys have done for me in the past, and one is doing now. xD
On a superficial level to answer your question:
I think the sex would be the exact same. Why should it change at all? If she/you are bad in the sack....a bit of romance and flowers aren't going to magically change this. Of course, if that's all your after, you probably shouldn't be bothering with the romance and surprises. Those are reserved for guys that honestly want to woo a woman....not for guys that want to toss them in the bed, have their way, and decide if they're happy or not.. | |
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| Would the sex be better with more romance?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:45:03 AM |
What is this "foreplay" of which you speak?
Well Mominatrix, it sounds like the 'foreplay' should be cupcakes
I guess I was referring to more of the intimate touching -when sex is not expected. Say the two of you are cooking dinner in your kitchen (and the kids are gone). You can get quite romantic/intimate just with touches/kisses and caressing. Slipping parts of the cloths off. etc. It kind of gets the girl thinking "Well if I'm this turned on now, how am I going to wait till after dinner to do him?" Or when you're watching a game together and kissing to celebrate a run scored turns into touching etc but you put it off till after the game. It only makes it better. There were times when I may not have been in the mood at first, but after a dinner or game as described, I was more than ready to tear his cloths off by the end of the night. But that's just me.
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