| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:35:07 PM | When someone calls you sweet, your first thought would be that that is a good thing. But I'm beginning to think that it's a bad thing. Every girl I ever met has called me sweet. 90% of the time it is just before they say they don't want to see me again. I find that kind of odd. Wouldn't it stand to reason that a good woman would want a guy that is sweet? You hear stories of girls staying with guys who abuse them, verbally mistreat them, drink or do drugs, or are in prison. And yet a guy comes a long who is "sweet" and treats them with respect and honesty and they get the old heave ho.
"Your a sweet guy but I just want to be friends." Friends that they never intend to call or see again. I've got those kinds of friends coming out of my ears. So what is it? What am I doing wrong? Should I try to be less sweet? I'm sincerely at the end of my rope with this. Is sweet just a fall back word that women use when they can't think of a genuine compliment? Can someone just fill me in on how this whole sweet thing works? I would really appreciate it!!  | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:51:53 PM | well this is just my opinion and how i feel. but if i say a guys to sweet or a sweetheart its usually because they are a really great guy and a great friend just not someone i'm attracted to. sometimes being to sweet can give a person a tooth ache KWIM?? i also know some women who often wonder if the sweetness in a guy is for another reason putting on a show to get somewhere else.
best advice is just be yourself and someone will appreciate you for it..... and if that doesnt work try toning it down a little lol good luck | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:38:37 AM | being called sweet from experience is the nice way of a girl telling you buzz off. If im honest you sound like one of the stereotypical "nice guys" who instead of actually having a spine you are in essence a doormat and use the nice guy line to try and get sympathy
If you want the girl of your dreams you also have to realise that you have to be the guy of their dreams, if youre not then move on and look for someone else. Plenty of fish in the sea, dont waste what time you have on this earth worrying about it | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:44:45 AM | Sweet is definitely a bad thing.
I find that kind of odd. Wouldn't it stand to reason that a good woman would want a guy that is sweet? You hear stories of girls staying with guys who abuse them, verbally mistreat them, drink or do drugs, or are in prison. And yet a guy comes a long who is "sweet" and treats them with respect and honesty and they get the old heave ho.
You are looking at two extremes. No one wants a controlling jerk, but with that being said, no one wants to be with someone who they can just walk all over. This is generally solved if you just be yourself when you are around women. Don't be a jerk, but you aren't there to kiss their ass either. | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:49:23 AM | just cause a woman doesnt choose u
n says ur sweet doesnt mean they r being abused or whateva
they just dint choose u
get it?
u can place the blame game or u can be PTIENT when the time comes for u to be with someone u will find her or she will find u
kathi | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:58:08 AM | its the same as me being called cute all the time
sheesh put a bow on me and parade me around will ya
OP just take the compliment and smile
one day you'll find the one you are willing to take the time to take the person's opinion from sweet to HOT!
in other words, use it to your advantage | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:10:36 AM | | Well ,I'm on the other side of that coin. I don't know how many times I've been told ,"your so sweet ","your too good for me ","u deserve someone better". Yuck, it is sickening. I'm me nothing more. Your just not meeting the right people that will appreciate u. | |
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| Too Sweet or Not Too Sweet
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:11:17 AM | I can see how being called sweet can be a bad thing, although it does vary with the person who is saying it, but I suppose more women say it in the "but I'm not really interested" way than as a genuine compliment.
I've been chatting with someone who uses that word a lot. Should I be concerned. Probably not because at the same time she's mentioned that she'd move up here if her work and/or dating situation didn't change down there. I'd of course look to do the same, but I have a few things I can't leave at the moment 
It is likely because I don't have the typical "nice guy doormat" attitude that a lot of "sweet" guys have. I actually think it's against my nature to be a doormat, as my last ex can attest to. Don't be a doormat, and sweet can be a good word  | |
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