| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:56:40 PM | k im not sure if this thread has been done before but i dont remember seeing it so ill give it a shot.
im pretty sure this idea has been on lots of people's mind on this site.of course some of us on here can receive tones of messages but does it get to your head? do u realise that quantity doesnt mean quality and are u more interested in quality messages than quantity?lots of messages.
personaly i rather just get 1 message from someone compare to 30 messages that i dont care for.
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:10:53 AM | I think all of us would love to get the message from "the one" straight of the cuff, but unfortunately that doesn't happen. We are all going to get lots of messages from people we feel no connection with, and only a couple from those we feel we could start something with. I think i'm one of the lucky ones, my partner and i met on this site after about a year of both of us being on internet dating sites.
For the "balanced" person, i don't think it would get to your head. You have to have some common sense when it comes to this medium of meeting people. You are going to get a lot of attention & messages from people you may not feel attracted to for whatever reason. In real life you would go to a club and have access to 200 single women/men and there is no way you would presume to automatically find the woman/man of your dreams that night. You have to think that way about intenet dating sites too. I think on this kind of meduim quantity might one day get you quality. I only know one person who met her man on her 2nd meet on an internet site. I met a lot of people before i found "my" man. You gotta keep sifting through until you find him/her. And believe me appearances on profiles and sweet talking messages can be very deceptive. | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:47:16 AM | I pretty much interested only in quality so I mostly keep the profile hidden and just email the men that I'm interested in. Every once in a while I'll unhide the profile but I'll take the picture down as that keeps the quality high. It's been a great experience so far as I've been meeting lots of good men and so far not one bad apple amongst them.  | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:59:54 AM | profiles, emails (and i find the forum postings mostly!) are just clues into the essence of the person who writes them.....
so, like you say about messages, i would rather meet 1 person i really connect with than meet 30 i don't. (course what one wishes and what reality is do not always match and the journey to find a quality connection might mean saying hello to the many to find the one.)  | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:16:00 AM | Quality as opposed to quantity, hmmm,,,,,,,,,,, I was just asking a friend this same question the other day. Oh Wait!!! We were talking about it from another popular angle. Sorry, wrong thread. I should be in one of the sex forums.
BTW- She never got around to answering the topic of our discussion, guess she was kinda busy.
L8TR
BBTW-She was a POFer too. | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:21:43 AM | [ WISH I got more quality... all I'm gettin' in quantity =( ]
Sorry to hear that, as I have gotten some real quality matches on here - and a couple that are definitely not so great.
I have had the quantity of matches, at various times too. However, what one person considers a lot, another may think is next to nothing! - it is all relative. What one puts forth, one usually gets in return.
My concern for you metalvixxn is that your profile name is getting you just what you appear to be asking for. Perhaps if you portray yourself a bit less "available" you will find that you are getting matches you feel worthwhile...and not just booty calls; unless that is truly what you are looking for. And it does seem that way... | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:25:53 AM | | Every message I send is the purest of quality, only if it's just to laugh at goofy jokes, or share compliments with eachother. Even the ones I'm not really interested in for romance, can be alot of fun. And the ones I piss off, even better!!!! The ones I get like hey baby...or you're hot...I just write back thanx, and come back when you have more literary skills . After all, we DO write here. You'd think peeps would be a lil better at it. | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:50:11 AM | My concern for you metalvixxn is that your profile name is getting you just what you appear to be asking for. Perhaps if you portray yourself a bit less "available" you will find that you are getting matches you feel worthwhile...and not just booty calls; unless that is truly what you are looking for. And it does seem that way...
Um, MaineBrightEyes4U,
Where do you get off? MetalVixxn made a comment relevant to this thread. Furthermore, she is not the original poster, nor did she ask for your input as to why she isn't getting quality matches. Also, it is highly presumptuous of you to ascertain the reason for such, especially when this is not profile review. I took a gander at her profile and your statement about her seeming to be looking for a booty call was totally out of line.
Her moniker seems to reflect the type of music she likes. Her profile does not have the sexual overtones you self-righteously attribute to one who only wants sex, which--I would like to point out--could still mean that she isn't getting quality matches. I.e., if she were looking for a booty call (other relationship) and all her contacts were looking for 'friends' or 'hanging out' or 'dating' that would mean that her matches were not quality compared to what she was seeking. Again, quite presumptuous on your part!
I would hazard a guess MetalVixxn, like many other women on PoF, gets a lot of emails because her pictures along with her profile show she is attractive/desirable by the majority standard, which means her volume is going to be higher than say....um, YOURS. Jealous?
OP,
As far as quantity v. quality. Yeah, some people get a lot of emails. It doesn't make it any more pleasant to have to wade through a mountain of emails to find the one who might make your heart skip a beat. That's what's called looking for the perverbial needle in a haystack and it sucks at times. LOL. | |
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| do u make the difference between quantity and quality on sites like theses?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:59:51 AM | I've always had a thing for Superman, but *LoisLane*, you are my new hero! You're spot on girl!
I was a bit shocked at MaineBrightEyes4U's opinion of my profile. Geeze, even just the way I was analyzed for no reason was a bit freaky, lol!
Lois Lane actually covered all that I would have to say in response to the nonsense, but just for the record... I get maybe one booty call email out of every 30. So that's about 2 a day.  | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:15:39 AM | I exchanged a few dozen emails with some people and nothing was 'there' just words; with my bf, we only exchanged a few emails and had I think 1 Im conversation before we spoke on the phone and we met a few days later. Our emails, IM and phone calls were quality; their might not have been very many in the beginning, but, not a day goes by where we don't call or text eachother, sometimes 15mins after we part ways.
For me, I seek quality as far as people [friends, partners] go, not quantity. I would rather have a few close friends, than a horde of 'so so' friends. I would rather get 1 text message from my bf sayign he is thinking about me, than 20 or 30 from a few people I don't talk to very much. | |
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