| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:08:17 AM | Just wondering if is possible to find a man on here who says he wont cheat that really MEANS he wont cheat (or is definitely a ONE woman man)....had 3 relationships from online dating & everyone of these men ended up back on the on line dating looking for someone else behind my back!!!! Where do I go wrong?? And how do I find a genuinely faithful partner? Been hurt badly this time-fell for him big time (lived with him 18mths only to find the texts on his mobile-he'd been looking for someone else on here and planned meeting them this weekend (whilst we still together!).....
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:32:19 AM | | The answer is yes, but women will generally avoid them, as they do in real life. If all you go for is the "Brad Pitt" or whoever look-alike then that's what you'll get. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:40:10 AM | | You didn't so anything wrong at all. Some men are just selfish and want too damn much (their cake and eat it too). I, too, wonder where all the non cheating men are, men who say they won't cheat and uphold that. I too have been cheated on a few times in the past. Got handed the typical cheating guy line "oh I made a mistake by cheating" which I don't buy. A guy cheats and knows he is and wants to or else he wouldn't do it. The ones that cheated on me were promptly dumped and I never looked back and I'll do the same for sure in the future if cheated on. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 4:49:25 AM | | Well to me once youd ecide ots to be a1 on 1 relationship exclusive for the 2 of you then thats it then All i wnat to do then is mkae my partner happy and keep her satisfied and content. But i assure you its not just Men who cheat ove been on the toehr side of the deal the same as you it hurts and leaves you confused wondering whats wrong with yourself. And its not you its them there the ones with the problem its just a shame we are the ones who get hurt. Granted im sure there are alot more men Who cheat but I just wanted to make sure everyone was aware its not a male exclusive good luck the next time you find some one. Tom | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:04:43 AM | i think the world of relationship would be a better place if everyone cheated on one another...'you cheat on me, i will cheat on you" kind of thing.
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:09:49 AM | Here's the honest and hard truth.....there are people of both sexes who are monogamous by nature and polygamous by nature.
Not all are the marrying/serious relationship type, and never will be.
A lot of folks just want their freedom and play the field. Some find marriages way to constricting. For others it's the ideal. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:19:36 AM |
Just wondering if is possible to find a man on here who says he wont cheat that really MEANS he wont cheat (or is definitely a ONE woman man)
I still like to believe that lots of genuine people are out there, men and women...
had 3 relationships from online dating & everyone of these men ended up back on the on line dating looking for someone else behind my back!!!!
What I noticed is that lots of people here became some sort of POF citizens and after reading the forums to me it seems even after finding someone they succumbed to the addiction factor to get in touch with people so easily on a site like this.
Maybe I am wrong, I am just wondering if you had better chances with someone who doesn't have a LTR with POF or any other dating site...
Where do I go wrong?? And how do I find a genuinely faithful partner?
If you get this questions answered let me know... | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:25:13 AM |
The answer is yes, but women will generally avoid them, as they do in real life. If all you go for is the "Brad Pitt" or whoever look-alike then that's what you'll get.
Oh my God that's not true...
I don't even like Brad Pit, he is player anyway Not many players will let you know they are players ….. you'll find out later......and once you've been with a player who obviously played innocent and harmless how on earth will you trust the next????...even if they swear they are not players...mostly time will tell and majority of people are scared to commit to the person and time, incase they maybe hurt again. And waste their time.
Even if Mr Bean isn't player I would go out with him provided he has the qualities... | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:50:12 AM | Seems sooner or later most of the men come back here (and some women as well) looking for dates as they are dating you 'seriously'... It's happening to me right now...
But I'm sure there are men and women here like you and me looking for honesty and sincerity... Just wide open eyes the next time and maybe you would find someone that shares and want a relationship based in honesty  | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:31:45 AM | The way this one works is that the women who go for the men with the smooth moves don't know the smooth moves are for getting laid regardless of anything else. Men who are good at getting you are good at getting other women, too. The men you overlook have no game because they are not players. They are clueless when it comes to women. They just want to meet a good woman who will be happily ever after together. They sit there clueless while women get played by the men who make a sport of sex, who know how to get your pants off by saying what you want to hear. It may be counter intuitive but when you think about it, doesn't it make sense, that the best mates won't be the most attractive at first, or say the right thing, or seem like a really great catch?
You would have to be looking for signs of the man's character and personality, not his sex appeal and his ability to incite your lust. Loyalty is a male trait. It's not hard to find if you know what to look for. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:43:05 AM | | We're around...perhaps you need to take a little more time getting to know the guys before mentally committing yourself? | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:50:44 AM | I doubt they exist to be honest but I have no other choice but keep trying online since I don't go out that much. I have had relationships as well and exactly like they all were going behind my back and it feels so hurtful.
Where is a decent man with some standards??? If you find one ask if he's got a single brother... Thanks!
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:05:10 AM | Listen to all the bull crap...I respect the womans opinions and thoughts, "ok"...Its silly that you cant find a guy that doesnt play around...Why is that?..Is it the choice of men your choosing or is it you?...
I know plenty of men that think woman cant be trusted either...I believe there are plenty of men and woman with good ideals that dont play around...Do ya think they will be on an internet dating site?..Maybe...
If two people are emotionally HEALTHY and in a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP , "Do they play"...NOPE...
You cant change my mind on that belief at all...Throw all the studies at me...I dont care | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:24:09 AM | | there are problems in both sides of a relationship if your not in fully ,then you choose a mate thats not in fully a 50% =50% -===50-50 relationship doesnt work only when both are 100% involved does it work or you find someone who loves you more than you love them then you cheat ! | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:25:05 AM | | Yes there are! We do exist. Some of us still believe in the concepts of honesty and faithfulness "till death do us part". Myself, I like to be able to look at myself in the mirror each morning and be proud of who I am. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:34:20 AM | I've met several that just werent for me..... then i met what i really thought was THE ONE and no he doesnt look like brad pitt ... when i first met him or even saw his pics i didnt think he was very attractive ,well... not like the type i usually am attracted to.... but then he and i talked and he made me laugh... and then we met and the good feeling continued... he made me feel so good... told me that he loved me.... then i went online just on a hunch ... and there he was in all his glory .....still looking... it broke my heart ....is the the way the game is played and i didnt read the rules??? is this a common occurance???
are you guys seriously looking or just bored and playing online... i would like to know...... i would hate to think he used me for a parachute ( just in case he didnt meet someone better)  | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:38:54 AM | I agree with racer. Start your search by looking in the mirror. You get what you put out there. If in the back of your mind you are always thinking that men can't be trusted then you attract men who can't be trusted. It always starts with you, your attitude and how you approach a situation. for instance if you walk into a restaurant and in the back of your mind you are thinking to yourself that you are going to get terrible service guess what? You will. You will because the aura you are exuding is one that says "hey I already believe I'm going to get crappy service here so don't even bother trying to change my mind" Where as if you were to walk in and think "Today I'm going to get the best service I ever had" Then you will. You will because the vibes you are sending off are saying that you have an expectation that you know they can live up to and thus they will try. Usually if a guy cheats or lies or does whatever it's because you are saying even subconciously that you already expect as much from them so even if they don't cheat you subtily treat them as if they already have, so they will. Hey if you're going to punish them for a crime they didn't commit then they might as well commit the crime.
JMO
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:44:40 AM | Just so the brush gets cleaned from all that tar that women keep dirtying it with
I have never cheated on a girlfriend in my life nor will I ever. However I do know women that have cheated on their husbands without a second thought!!
Now please banish the continuel thought that all men cheat. Women are worse as far as i'm concerned.
Be Safe!! | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:45:07 AM | badkitty718, "I met a few woman online too that met me for a first date, where attracted to me and still went right back to the local internet dating site...Did it mean anything , "Nah"...
IT WAS A FIRST DATE..THAT WAS ALL...INTERNET DATING KEEP OPTIONS OPEN...SOME EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM THE FIRST ENCOUNTER...
I also found out that these woman were lookin jus to see if I was on site because they wanted to talk to me...
MAYBE WE ALL READ SOMETHING OUT OF NOTHING...
THEY ARE LOYAL AND GOOD PEOPLE IN THE WORLD...
Ive had woman say "Your on site all the time, thats unappealing to most woman"...
Maybe, "I spend most of my time on the forums anyhow"...Ive got enough to do without spending all my time searching on a dating site... | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:51:19 AM | Welcome to our world Mezz. Well this happens to many women / as well as men ,in here. I am sure , the men/women have good intention but then some where along the line they forget . Their true colors show and back they are sneaking on POF to find someone else. I don't know if we are allowed to give the name of the profile men/women who cheat ?
Would be nice so others could stay far away from them..... Yes women /men message your man /women too knowing they are dating. Then again why would they message or call on the cell if he /she didn't give them the cell number! I am sure there are honest men/women just hard to find. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:00:35 AM | I just want to say that YOU DID NOT GO WRONG--HE DID!! I don't honestly know if non-cheating men are living on this planet--but I've heard 56% of married men don't cheat, seems too good to be true. Maybe they are just locked into closets around your neighborhood???  | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:03:41 AM | | I met someone who I thought was the ONE and he was off and on POF whenever he got online. He wasn't as serious as I thought he was . He wasn't a God's gift to women, he even had most of his teeth missing in his upper part of his mouth , but I thought that can be fix. His wonderful personality , caring, his appearance to be honest serious sincerity won me . He was on line and to a some women on his cell /online . Behind my back He can really play the part by saying he is 60 yrs old . But don't believe anything he says. By the way even on his profile his age is a lied. If you see him with teeth on his profile it's an old picture yes men lied so much, to have their way . As well as women . | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:04:04 AM | | Mr. Internet hit the nail right on the head on this one. Players are smooth. They know all the right things to say. The more they play the game and "win" (get laid) the better they get at it and the more confident they become that they can get any girl they want (cuz they do!) and there's the catch 22 in my opinion. Most profiles I read on here are looking for a guy with confidence, and well success breeds confidence right? The more confident a guy is in himself, the better the odds that he's a player. The guys who don't play don't get that many girls and are a little shy and a little unsure of themselves at first; which unfortunately turns a lot of girls off. But there's that catch 22 again: the guys who don't have that much confidence (and therefore turn a lot of girls off) are the ones that are loyal to the bone and will never cheat on you. Next time give the shy guy a chance, you may have a much better chance of finding what you're looking for that way. | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:05:21 AM |
but I've heard 56% of married men don't cheat, seems too good to be true
can't help... if so, this still sounds pretty odd, giving me a hard time to consider it as normal | |
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| Genuine NON-Cheatin Man
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:10:10 AM | "there are! We do exist. Some of us still believe in the concepts of honesty and faithfulness "till death do us part". Myself, I like to be able to look at myself in the mirror each morning and be proud of who I am."
Let's see, you're separated and on here looking for a woman friend, why don't you just pick one of the men in your neighborhood, and not have to worry about being tempted? | |
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