| The moment you knew it was over...
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:04:54 AM | I don't know about you lot, but for me there was a single clincher when some of my relationships ended - or ended before they even began - and some were pretty trivial, others very valid.
With my one & only husband it was that he blew his entire tax rebate on a self pitying night out, spent it on champagne, women and god knows what else.. while I was pregnant.
The last big love affair I had and who I was engaged to, ended because he went back home for the first time in 12 years, allegedly to his brothers wedding (which was aslo true) but conveniently forgot to tell me - ooops, that he accidentally got married at the same time too!! sheisster.. actually, did me a favour...
was there a clinching moment that heralded the end of your marriage or relationship?
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:17:38 AM | Mine is a definite 'over before it's even begun' story.
I met a guy through plenty of fish and we did get on great. Regardless of it not being the way I would normally handle things, he did spend the night on our first evening of meeting.
When he left, I went to work and then out for some dinner with some friends of mine. I didn't notice that I had a message from him on my phone thanking me for a lovely evening the night before.
I also had a second message by the time the evening came saying that 'I didn't seem the type and I had obviously found the message and that he pretty much had a lucky escape if I was the kind that would go through people's phones'.
After calling him immediately as I was confused, he said he had arranged with a friend that he would text him asking how his evening was and then he would reply saying I was nice but nothing special. The plan was that whilst he was in the shower it was a test to see if I would snoop and if I didn't contact him after then that was his answer!
But in my eyes - I was the one who had the lucky escape - I had not gone through his phone and had simply not replied due to being busy (and it had only been about 6/7 hours since he had left my house) - so there's no way I would want to be with someone who would 'test' me and therefore never saw him again! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:19:08 AM | I think I already mentioned this in another thread.
Today is the annivesary of my divorce.
I kind of knew my marriage was in trouble when she moved in with another bloke.
Still could have been worse - she could have stayed......
I miss the way she had friends round, when I was on nights and the way she used to draw money out of the bank 'to pay bills' - and imagine my joy months later when baliffs were aknocking.
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:23:22 AM | sammie - he obviously had issues. you definitely had a lucky escape.
I was going to buy a house with gf I sold my flat deposited the money and then she buggered off after clearing out the accounts, i also found out that she had run the credit cards to the limits and i had to foot the bill for them as well. but she didn't take the playstation so i count myself lucky. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:34:09 AM | I think the attempt to blind me in one eye, her affair with the builder, and 6 years of mental single beds may have been indicative!
I tried to soldier on for the sake of my kids, but even that backfired in the end.
Am I glad she's out of my life? ...Is the Pope a Catholic?!!
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:45:05 AM | The clinching moment for me was the day i caught my fiance on the phone to my so called best mate,arranging a discreet meet!!.Normally i would have just beat him over the head with a frying pan but since it was also the day i returned home from hospital with our newborn daughter i really couldnt be @rsed and just decided to politely ask him to leave! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:46:15 AM | The fact that he wouldnt commit after 7 years together,we had a son together and he only used to stay at weekends.He went home to mummy and daddy every night.He didnt want to get married,he cancelled it.He didnt want more chilren either.
So i decided i had,had enough and tried to chuck him out one day when he turned round and said i dont care ive been having an affair with your best friend anyway for a year.I was going to leave you at christmas.He then married her after a few weeks and had a child the next year. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:17:38 AM | I was with a girl for 8 months, she had children from a previous relationship and didn't want anymore kids. We were going through a rocky patch when she announced that she thought she was pregnant. Great I thought, it might sort the relationship out. Anyway I got a Pregnancy test from work, but she kept delaying taking the test. All of a sudden she had a 'period'? Now I know that she had had an abortion before, as a result of her previous relationship because she didn't want anymore kids.
I will probably never know if she was ever pregnant with my child but her coming 'on' sealed the end of our relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:18:13 AM | I lived with my ex over 4 years, we split up for 3 monts, we sent the odd keep in touch e mail while he was in the States on a working holiday, he returned to the UK declared undying love and begged for a new start, couldnt get me out of his head apparently......
6 Weeks later I found an e mail he'd sent to another woman referring to their divorce!
They met and married in 3 months, (him - couldnt handle the rejection, her - thought he was "the one") she knew nothing about me at all, and having decided he made a big big mistake, he came back to guess what...make me his wife!! Lucky me!!
She thought he was just visiting his parents, while he was worming his way back into my life, my home, my family, and my bank account!! Luckily I had more experience of his shinanigans..... needless to say, he legged it back to the States under protest and the wife took him in, she was "the one" who he's given everything up for after all! (really, us girls have got alot of explaining to do sometimes!!)
Ive had a couple of e mails since but I dont even open them...delete! delete! delete!
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:21:37 AM | Blimey reading through these posts i'm glad I've never married........ I had a 6 year living together relationship, which ended when he came home one night and said I don't love you anymore, so we seperated and I bought his half of the house, seems I got away with a lot less grief than you guys.
Kath... I can't imagine coming home with a newborn baby and having that happen, what a snake he must have been, just goes to show what doesn't kill you makes you stronger .........
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:25:26 AM | hell.. I've had it easy compared to a lot of people then, and I'm sorry for all your bad events -
I dated a little brickie after my ex went off and got hitched behind my back.. thought I'd play it safe.. took us 4 weeks to get round to the business.... and that's when I realised why... chippolata... I walked out after 7 weeks... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:30:25 AM | I dated a little brickie after my ex went off and got hitched behind my back.. thought I'd play it safe.. took us 4 weeks to get round to the business.... and that's when I realised why... chippolata... I walked out after 7 weeks...
Women so fickle.....Perhaps his organ had never played in a Cathedral before!
Four weeks? blimey thats a lifetime in todays world - I start eyeing her friends up after four hours now. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:31:38 AM | The moment you knew it was over...
When I found out my ex had started replacing my viagra tablets with bromide ones.
Messages this short cant be posted.
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:33:29 AM | It looks like I have had it easy too compared to some of the posts on here. My marraige broke up when he had an affair then left me for the other woman. I had just had a miscarraige when he started seeing her so wasnt a great time for me but was a long time ago now and he probably did me a favour. For a while he came back and forwards between us and then I suppose I just had a defining moment where i thought 'what the hell am I doing, im worth more than this' I showed him the door and havent looked back since.
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:55:22 AM |
Kath... I can't imagine coming home with a newborn baby and having that happen, what a snake he must have been, just goes to show what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I have to admit that i was not very amused at the time,but hey sh1t happens !the irony is the fool moved in with her immediately only to find her in bed with her best mate(female) a few weeks later!!  | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:20:34 PM | | well this what happened tome We had been in town shopping and we got home my wife and i. I had started to go to sleep wife went upstairs then i heard a big bump i ran up stairs There on the floor was my love of my life dead I tried everything i knew i got the ambulance i knew she had gone before it arrived for 17 years we was together so thats why i am here looking again but so far nothing has come my way | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:38:05 PM | Rasputing, that's awful, am so sorry to hear how that happened. I do hope you find what you are looking for....
OT - I knew when - after turning up at his flat unexpected, sharing a chinese meal and a dalliance on the sofa - he took a call on his mobile and proceeded to make arrangements to meet someone else later that night.... while I was sat on the sofa with him.... almost un-freaking-believable. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:42:19 PM | | I knew it was over with my sons father when my son was 5 days old and i was taken back into hospital in an ambulance as i needed a blood patch where the epidural had punctured my spinal column, altho i needed to be stretchered out of my house he suggested i take our son with me and he stayed home and went to the pub for a roast lunch. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 12:52:53 PM | Sweety!
That has to be one of the worst " The moment you knew it was over" have you been strong enough not to take him back?
Your best friend............better off without her!
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:22:10 PM | Oh don't give her sypathy..best friend?
Any proper woman would have joined in and made it a 'mangy trowt' (sorry Kath111- but i couldn't resist! ) | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:34:56 PM | | I was with a woman I met on the net for 3 1/2 years. I'd moved to Scotland to be with her, then we moved back down south a year later. I spent every penny I had and got into a lot of debt doing up our house (about £20,000). Then, while I was out with her son playing football in the street he called me Dave. I knew she'd met a bloke called Dave down the pub, so I asked if he'd been round. "NOOOOOOO" was the answer. A few nights later I got my dad to look after the kids as she was going out with her mates and I was going out with mine. I texted her asking where she was as I could have sworn I saw her walk past the pub I was in with a bloke. She said she was in Milton Keynes....... I was in Leighton Buzzard. So I walked outside and lo-and-behold.... she was there kissing Dave! I left via the back exit of the pub, packed up and left that night as she walked through the door telling me how much she loved me for not being a suspicious so and so..... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:50:07 PM | When my grandson aged just two climbed up on my lap and said " i love you nanny"
I've never been able to pick him up n cuddle him. i was recovering from a spinal operation to put me back together after my ex beat me almost to death.
I knew exactly at that point i had to divorce... or i would never see my grandkids grow up.
I didnt want my daughter to have to show them photos and say "this was your nanny"
I knew my ex's temper would eventually kill me. | |
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