| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:17:36 PM | | I've yet to meet anyone from the internet, but just in case i ever do, i would like to hear the good,and bad, of other peoples experiences. Where you nervous? Was it a case of, she or he looks nothing like they described? Whatever the case may be, if its interesting, tell everyone about it? | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:28:51 PM | Here we go then the first date and the last:
The first date was funny, chatted and got along well on here, so met this guy in a pub with cameras covering the car park, we walk into the empty bar, and it is like he waves to someone, but there is no one there, then he waved at the bar man. About then minutes into the date, he is nodding and waving with both arms, (I am thinking wtf) he is making no mention of this weird behaviour, the barmen, are laughing their heads off. Well needless to say I decided it must be 'tourrets of the nervous system' and it ended shortly after.
The last meeting/date, went real well, he was better looking than his picture, and we got on well, met for coffee, then met for a drink, and then invited to his place, today was invited to a BBQ at his house with guests, but unfortunately I was unwell and couldn't go, but we spoke on the phone twice and text goodnight - so watch this space.
Good and bad but worth it for the experience of meeting new people and making new friends. Good luck | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:53:37 PM | First meeting...Not even a date, was interesting. We met up in a local place just to chet chat to see if a date was possible...which was good choice in this situation.
He showed up not having much to say, I was the one asking all the question to hear one word answers - Yikes! Not off to a good start...After about 15mins of me doing all the work the meeting was over. Haven't spoken to him since...You may get some people who are chatter boxes online but, not so much in person.
Word of advice come with a few question on hand...make it sound like you were a little excited or even nervous to meet - it's okay to say that. Sometimes it really helps break the ice. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:09:14 PM | Don't fret about it...just go with the intention of having fun...to make a possible new friend. Focus on having fun and what happens happens. You can't predict chemistry, interaction...the moment. Keep it light, be someone you'd like to go out with again.
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:19:31 PM | The first one was a disaster. She kept scratching herself. She saw me looking at her a little weird, and then she said ( Do not worry about me scratching myself, i think my dog has fleas)  Let us just say that i did not ask her out again.  My last one went great. Or so i thought. We did lunch. We both recognized each other. We were both on time. Food was good. I thought everything was moving smoothly. No awkwardness. At least none that i detected. And she accepted a 2nd date with me, this time as my co-pilot. I thought great ! This is what dating is all about, eh ? 2 days later i call her. She tells me i looked better in person than my pictures were. But that she changed her mind and did not want to see me again. Nor did she want to fly with me. She did not feel any chemistry with me. I guess i will just have to keep fishing.  | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:29:56 PM | | ok..well..i was hopeful..i actually met a younger guy who was funny..charming..took things slow...we talked and emailed one another almost every nite for over 2months or so..we finally went out to a movie..he was a gentleman..opened the doors for me..bought dinner..wonderful. walked me to the door...called and text the next day and told me he had a great time...as well i did. 1 wk later..he stop calling...stopped texting...i left him alone...finally...after 1wk goes by i emailed him instant msg...he writes back "u..eww..bye" ...never heard from him again...im like WTF....so the point is..the first time meeting great...but the guy..ended up being an ass! | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:40:59 PM | A little awkward in the beginning since it was her, her friend and myself haha...
Fast forward past the part where I also have dinner with the two of them and drop her friend off, I'd say it picked up a bit and it was easier to make conversation when your not the odd one out.
It ended with a late night stroll through the park. Overall not a bad experience. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:57:22 PM | | Im always nervous as the people ive met from here are the ones I had things for. First meetings seemed to go reasonably well however. The last person I met off here I was way too nervous though, as I really like her, so I probably came off a bit lame to her! haha | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:41:45 PM | I met one guy looked very familar in his pictures.Flash forward met him at a resturant had dinner he had several drinks.I never did ask his last name I know dumb thing to do.Anyhow got home after he asked me out again felt something wasnt right so I started a google on his first name I knew his last name sounded like a first name also.Bingo lets just say he was convicted of murder and was a politician also was wearing an ankle monitor as he was still on probation after being released from jail.Fun and to think I found all this out on my own.Also notified pof as hes on here but they did nothing.I guess enough said. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:10:44 PM | Well....I finally had my first date with a guy. And it was really, really nice and pleasant. We both felt comfortable with each other...and made each other laugh. We had a second date too. However, it just wasn't meant to be.....and that's okay too. It was a mutual thing that we didn't feel we should continue seeing each other. I hope he meets his special lady one day.... | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:24:24 PM | I just met the first one tonight after being here for only a few days.
He told me he's not into writing much, so after 2 messages I agreed to meet with him. We met at a local pub and he told me he was in the middle of a family issue (stepson getting out of jail, drug addict) so despite the red flag I humoured him for this. Less than an hour later, his cell phone was going off, it was the stepson and did I mind if he took me home so he could deal with this? Sure, whatever.
We get back to my place and Loser announces he's got at least an hour before druggie stepson calls him again - can he come up to my apartment? Against my better judgement I agree. As soon as we get upstairs, Loser is grabbing me looking for passionate kisses and more - despite my having told him at the pub that I'm not into casual sex or sex with people I don't know well. I turned him down firmly but politely, then he said he will go to meet the stepson but really wants to see me again tonight, he will call me in an hour.
Three hours later, no call. I call his cell and get a brusque "I'm waiting to meet my stepson at a subway station and I'll call you tomorrow" then he hangs up on me. As far as I'm concerned, the goose is cooked here, and I have no interest in dealing with Mr. Horny Loser and his farked-up lifestyle, bullshite and relatives. He can call me tomorrow and the next day until he's blue in the face, but will be told to fark off each time.
Thus my first POF experience. Not at all surprising - considering the 10 years plus that I've already wasted on similar experiences on other dating websites. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:53:11 PM | I haven't had many first meetings from PoF. Most seem to die on MSN.
One meeting was at the airport when I went to visit her for a week. I left alone a week later. First couple days there were good, but then it started to slide gradually downhill from there. That's the problem with online+long distance. You get worked up about meeting and then it doesn't always pan out.
In almost every meeting that I recall (and I've been doing this for about 10 years  ), I have not once been nervous. Don't know why. In most initial meetings, each person I've met has looked somewhat better than their pictures, but that tends to be normal. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:57:33 PM | I've only met one guy from POF and it didn't go very well. It turned out all he wanted was sex. He sure was a good player. He made me think he was this sweet single dad. He looked like the boy next door. I was so pleased with his looks and his personality. We talked about continuing to date each other. The day after our date I emailed him to thank him for the nice evening. He didn't reply. I never heard from him again. What a jerk!!
Now I'm reluctant to try it again. I have filtered out all the guys who just want intimacy and nothing else. I am really picky now about who I talk to and will be even more picky when and if I decide to meet another guy from POF.  | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:00:45 PM | Let's see, so far have met 3 different guys from here. All of them completely different first meetings.
First one: chatted for a couple of days, wanted to met me for coffee. I say yes. I even drive to met him. Was awkward and strange and we didn't have much to talk about, and then he said the magic words "So do you want to go back to my place?" I laughed, said no thank you and left. Haven't heard from him since.
Second one: Met for dinner at my favorite place since I know everyone that works there. There were some major sparks. Had a great meal and a lot of fun. Made plans to see each other again. Went on a couple of dates, but it has now ended between us because he was into playing mind games.
Third one: This one was an amazing date, we sat and talked for 4 hours. Did not want the date to end. We are now seeing each other one on one. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:03:51 PM | | Well, one stood me up- glad I made it clear that I would be calling before I made the across state lines to go see her trip. Then she had the audacity to try getting angry with me because I was angry that she stood me up in such a way. I walked away from her trying to yell at me online cuz I personally thought she needed to get her brain together or something. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:07:33 PM | | The first woman I ever went out with from POF absolutely would not look me in the eye for more than a nanosecond at a time during the entire duration of our first date. It's not like we didn't talk or anything as the conversation was easy-going but she just could not look at me. It was really creepy. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:00:29 PM | I've met two in person several months ago but have not dated anyone:
First met for lunch and chatted for about 4 hours. Nice guy - still chat. Funny guy - chears me up when I'm really down. Dependable, honest, nice guy but I didn't have any "chemistry" with him - just really appreciate his sense of humor and outlook on life. He looked a lot like his picture.
Second met for coffee and chatted for about 6 hours. Everything went really well. This one perplexed me though because he kept asking 'when do I get to see you again' and I kept telling him to relax. He was so friggin' eager....
We talked on the phone for a few days and eventually set up a date. He mentioned me going to 'the cabin' with him a few times (I declined) Then had brain farts about his days with his kids...retracted 2nd cabin offer. He asked if he was too tired to drive if he could crash on my couch - I explained my reasons and said 'no' and offered to reserve a room for him at a local hotel & did - I emailed the confirmation information. The next day he cancelled & sent me a lovely 'it's not you , it's me' email, he couldn't give me what I needed and also just broke up with his GF about a month earlier and realized how deeply it hurt him and he wasn't ready to date. He looked better than his picture. I personally think he was looking for a POA - regardless of what he told me his reasons were , and I wouldn't 'go there' . I received a $25.00 cancellation fee for the hotel room... off topic: should I have sent him the bill? (lol) Oh, wait I can't - I don't chat with him anymore & don't know where he lives (dang) | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:23:29 PM | I arrived early, gleaming with breath mint over spray, and tipped the restaurant hostess generously to seat us at the edge of the dance floor. The music was a mix of blues and polka, which I could not have known portended soon to be revealed considerations. By the time she got there my member was rigid with anticipation. I remained seated as she was shown to our table. She blanched, fighting back a spasm. Thinking quickly, I slammed my palm flat down on the table top and guffawed. "How the hell are you, Babs?" I shouted. Her face froze in fear as one hand ferreted her clutch purse for pepper spray. Luckily the waitress, no doubt having seen blind dates untold times, stepped in with the day's specials. My date relaxed. I eyed her bosom. She threw caution to the wind and sat down across the table from me. The date had begun.
Later when I woke up in the darkness of her bedroom the futility of romance washed over me as a phantom of abject trepidation. Desperate to grasp the last best hope of redemption I carefully reached my hand to hold her slumbering breast. A sense on finality and surrender filled my mind. Life had brought me to contentment at long last. The morning would be a new day. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:23:39 PM | | I've mostly met people from other places, but I've met ONE guy from here and... it went well, but never got a call back. He said I was cool and all but who really knows. He was too shrimpy for me... but a decent guy. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:44:34 PM | I met just one girl off PoF. Everything was going well until we started discussing about LOTR , and to my dismay I am not an LOTR geek She frowned when I said I did not watch 'The Two Towers' ...no kiddin! Rest of the date went pretty well (except that she hated White Sox as she was a Cubs fan ). | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:05:06 AM | Well, I met with a girl only a couple years older than me at a local bowling alley, something simple so we wouldn't be nervous. We bowled a few games, and I lost, and we played some pool, and I lost those too. I opened doors, payed for all her things as well as my own, and she laughed quite a lot, as I was trying to make her do. And it seemed to go great. We hugged at the end and went our seperate ways.
Well, we were supposed to hook up again, but she said she was unsure if we could meet, so I went ahead and went to our meeting spot the next day and waited an hour, but no show. I've tried to call her and text her a couple of times, but she's not responded once. It kinda hurt, as her profile seemed to be JUST what I was looking for...
EDIT: So there's not confusion, the second meeting was to take place a week after the first. | |
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| How did your first time meeting up w/ someone from POF go?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:41:17 AM | Hey D!
I refused to do the internet thing at first. Newly divorced still kinda in shock ! Well I met a guy at Home Depot. YES I SAID HOME DEPOT and the one in Gainsville, Tx of all places ! We were both looking for doors...LOL
I took it very slow...wouldn't even go out with him the first 3 weeks. We talked on the phone every day...then I said ok to dinner and we started dating. Well on week # 5 he whispered in my ear...sweetie I won't be able to spend as much time with you for awhile. Oh why? My family is arriving tomorrow from...timbuck 2. My wife and 2 children ! Whoa, what a wake up call....I, very politely showed him the door and told him to loose my number
Thing is dating him made me feel good. I sure didn't want to do the cold calling (ha, ha) thing again so I signed up on a couple of internet sites ! I tried the pay sites first thinking they would be safer. Well my VERY FIRST DATE was with a guy that didn't have a picture posted. He turned out to be a sex freak and he showed his true personality within 5 minutes. Canceled that date immediately but it took me 3 hrs to get him out of my house! This one went down as my worst date ever !
POF people have been a blast ! I've met and dated a number of guys from this site. I was really nervous on the first one so I set it up as a lunch date...well actually I cheated and set up 3 meet and greets on the same day. I know ! Does that make me a bad girl?
Since then, I've been stood up by 3...found out later they were married.. Had 3 dates on others and it fizzled out...still dating a couple of others right now. Thing is they've been friends meeting friends. One date I said yes to a meeting against my better judgement. I knew he was too young for me and whoa, he treated me like his mom. It was still a nice date just a disappointment that his opinion of me in person was not the same as on the phone on on e-mail. That's what you will find. Sometimes it just doesn't work. So at the least you meet an interesting person and if they are weird you'll have a funny story to pass along.
I've been lucky and it may be because of the method I use before meeting them. It's great to get to know each other as much as possible before meeting. I've found it takes a few days of talking through e-mail then on the phone before you know if you're a match for each other...sometimes weeks. I won't accept a meeting date until I feel comfortable with the person. I always let someone know where I'll be and the person's name. Guys should do that too....better safe than sorry.
So, decide on a couple of must haves, make yourself some guidelines and start meeting people. You know there are the POF parties, right? You can meet people there first and then go out on a date.
Happy POFing !
....just my opinion for what it's worth !
Bev
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