| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:53:07 PM | I dated a girl a few days ago after we messaged each other a few times on POF. When I met her, I was pleasantly surprised as she was much better looking than the pictures she posted (which is usually rare by experience). We went to a lounge to discuss, everything was going smoothly. She was very pleasant to talk with. She would listen and ask questions. Here is a part of the discussion I had with her that reveals something quite scary... I tried to keep it short for you guys and gals:
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Her: When did your previous relationship ended and how long it lasted?
Me: This december and it only lasted 6 months...
Her: Why 6 months only?
Me: My ex was a great person but I discovered over time she was suffering from schizophrenia. She always kept this as a huge secret to everyone. However, when you get to know her more, you discover suspicious things. She was unreliable, in her own world often, she would see things that did not exist (auras and ghosts), she would have trouble expressing her feelings, etc... Basically the relationship was not sustainable and I ended it in good terms.
Her: Do you believe in ghosts?
Me: I am not sure about that... How about you?
Her: It is because I see people that don't exist too... On top of that, some of these ghosts follow me around... I call them my spirit guides. I believe they are people who were not able to cross to the other side after their death... But I avoid communicating with the spirit guides or any of the ghosts I see because I am afraid of the consequence.
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This got me freaked out and at the same time I feel I insulted her when I talked a little bit about my ex LOL  . That is probably the reason she cut contact with me after that date. Anyways, my parents are both doctors and they do not believe anyone mentally sane see these things as they are hallucinations. This is the SECOND time I meet a woman like this...
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A) Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
B) Have you ever seen ghosts and dared to admit it on a first date :P?
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:15:08 PM | | Well... I believe it is just a coincidence... It does not have anything to do with me... Because I dated many more women on other websites (especially Facebook)... And they were normal regarding that matter... | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:46:32 PM | I tend to dump anyone who has psychotic behaviors, no dating psychos. It would have justr wasted my time and prevented me from meeting this wonderful young woman I met who now lives with me.
Lifes too short to waste time dating psychos. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:47:12 PM | | Yes, recently. Out of respect I will not go into any of her personal problems or red flags. Lets just say, i let us drift apart with out any attempt on my part to make contact after seeing the lies and obvious psychiatric issues. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:49:36 PM | Seriously... I think the second lady was pulling your leg. Although previously obscure thoughts on this are now seemingly mainstream; it's too much of a coincidence to think that two women in a matter of less than a year that you've met see ghosts and have the ability to communicate with beings on another plane.
Far more common, at least from my perspective, are people who lack social graces and miss the nuance of unspoken language.
To answer your questions...
A) No, to the best of my knowledge I've never dated anyone with psychotic behaviours.
B) No, I've never seen a ghost or experienced paranormal activity in any way, shape or form.
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:59:35 PM | I been thinking she might invented that to give me a sign she is not interested in me... But I checked her Facebook profile without adding her and she added an application called "my spirit guide"... Just this fact is the proof she was telling me the truth! Consequently, it is truly the second girl in a year that is like that... But the truth is I dated 27 girls last year... So up to that #, I did see all kinds of personalities... So 2 out of 27 is still less than 8%...
On my side I never seen ghosts either but I am still open minded to have a discussion about it. I will not shut down someone because of beliefs. I am actually very interested to listen to contrary opinions on any topics... As long as I am not forced by the other person to abide to the beliefs and that the discussion remains of good quality. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:34:20 PM |
But the truth is I dated 27 girls last year
Wow- I have nothing to offer except I have dreamt of dead people
and they talk to me and I play the number of the dead the next day in
the lottery and I always hit.
Really 27 girls- yeah with those numbers I would expect some abnormailites. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:42:28 PM | lol..
you actually keep track of how many women you date??
That may actually be a factor in the DSM
Also, if both your parents are doctors, then it would be an assumption that you grew up very "medical model".. meaning you are a very tangible person (like myself). You have to see to believe. I think it is sort of jumping the gun a little to diagnose your dates or attach stigma to someone just because it goes against your beliefs or values. Sounds very judgmental to me...
Personally, I don't believe in ghosts or paranormal entities however I wouldn't go to the extreme and label someone as being psycho or schizophrenic because they do. | |
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| I've seen it! I'm psycho
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:58:19 PM | I've seen things, which I don't know if were spirits, dead people or whatever people call. I never made any contact, because the good education tells that if you come to me, you are the one that makes the first contact. As I never go for them... LOL
Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and see shadows walking in the house. And had seen stuffs moving around, but not in my house. Usually in public places, in very unusual situations.
Am I in poor mental health condition??? Maybe! Specially because I don't believe in spirits! No future in crystal ball, no tarot, no people who "see my future", not even God. I was raised a catholic, and always had more doubt than faith. Tried different places to find God or just true faith, and haven't found it. The moment I noticed, that I didn't believe in God, my life changed. I stood up for my beliefs and finally found peace in my heart.
I don't think that seeing spirits makes me a different person. It could be just my imagination, and if the spirits are real, they must like me. Maybe one day, we will be friends. | |
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| I've seen it! I'm psycho
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:08:36 PM | I would've talked her into communicating with the ghosts/spirits and then ask her how my grandma is doing. 
Edit: Doctors cannot diagnose the UNEXPLAINABLE! | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:08:36 PM | | Perhaps she had a TRUE GIFT of "sight".I've traveled to a plane before where I've had a conversation with someone whom I love dearly in life.many other people on the planet have had experiences like seeing spirits,so,why not?It's cool. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:21:52 PM | Other people are going to believe things that you don't. I'm not christian, but you don't see me walking around, calling the uber orthodox folks 'psychotic'.
Also, I really don't think you're knowledgeable regarding these psychological terms that you use.
The fact is, some people believe they can see auras. Some people believe they can see ghosts. Some people believe in spirit guides and some people believe in the Spaghetti Monster. It doesn't make them mentally ill. If they're not harming anyone, then what's the big?
If you get queasy around 'mystical' types (the most handy descriptive word in my brain right now), then make sure to put that in your profile, eh? | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:23:03 PM | | You are making too big a deal out of this date. we live in a culture where people believe in a big invisible man who can read their minds and control their lives. Ask your Dr. parents about that one .And I believe if someone is open to recieving , they may recieve and perceive what others cannot . I have seen much worse things . | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:28:43 PM | Reading about your experience was interesting. It is quite unlikely that she cut contact with you because what you thought. I really believe the young lady decided within herself, call it a gut feeling perhaps, that you were not likely to enter her world and have a tendency to gather up the "feelings" one may have with time about spirit guides.
Many doctors , esp. psychiatric specialists, questions the validity of delirious behavior patterns vs. hallucinations. True neuro complex tests can determine what part of the complex brain is NOT working, and what parts are intact.
May I suggest a wonderful book recently out again entitled : "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Brian Weiss, MD . You may expand your "thinking" beyond today with pleasure. By the way the biograhy of Dr. Weiss is most impressive.
By the way people with documented and diagnosed mental needs, can be placed on the appropriate medications and become a part of society proudly with work and family needs. There are exceptions, of course. But today's psychiatrist truely do a magnificant job to help those who have quiet "friends" within. We can only be compassionate to those who have to carry the load of this diagnosis. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:38:47 PM | I see PoF people.
Every weekend and sometimes during the week.
I did once come across a teenager who lived in shared accommodation and her friends told me she had a sexual relationship with her thick wooly cardigan. And she went out of her way to describe this to me too. Now that freaked me out - and I stayed well away from the cardigan. This lady used to deliberately leave the latch off the door to the shared toilet and people would walk in on her and she wouldn't be the slightest concerned.
That was nearly 30 years ago and I still remember it. The next time I lived in shared accommodation was just after my divorce 14 years ago - I kept an eye out for that bl**dy cardigan, I can tell you. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:40:34 PM | Oh, and I also came across a guy I nicknamed 'The Toilet Troll'. He used to rush into the loo after someone had used it and then go knocking on doors and threatening people if they hadn't flushed properly.
I got the knock once. He didn't knock again. Here endeth the story of the Toilet Troll. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:54:33 PM | And here I thought the subject was about crazy people
OP, there are a lot of people who believe in ghosts, that doesn't make them crazy.
Unusual perhaps, but, psychotic. Not a chance. You're only thinking she's psychotic because a previous gf happened to see ghosts and auras, and she turned out to have issues.
The mind is a powerful muscle and not all parts of it have been fully explained.
You're also assuming the reason she cut contact with you. If you were noticeably freaked out by her revelation, that could be all the reason she felt it wouldn't have gone any further.
A) Define Psychotic behaviors. My last ex displayed plenty of irrationalities, but was not diagnosed with any condition.
B) I have not seen ghosts, but I'm open to the idea that they could be out there, nor would I label someone who did bring it up. I've not been on a date where I or the other person has acknowledged something like this. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:33:14 PM | Seeing spirits isn't pschotic 'behavior'... seeing spirits and saying they told you to kill someone is psychotic. When your ex wasn't able to talk about her feelings that was a personality disorder of some sorts yes, but I am not sure her seeing dead people was psychotic.
Do you KNOW the definition of psychotic? It means SEVERE mental disorder. There are plenty of people out there, who happen to tuned into the spiritual side of life who lead very realistic lives. These people often tend to be much kinder to others, because they have a better sensitivity to people. Unless this affects you in a way where you wake up with someone nut standing over you with a knife, or someone putting rat poison in your food because she said the voice told her to, then you aren't dating a psychotic. | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:34:56 PM | I forgot to add something...
Maybe the last one cut contact because no one wants to reveal something about themselves and watch someone appear visibly shaken by it! It tends to KILL the mood... | |
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| Have you ever dated someone with psychotic behaviours?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:56:47 PM | Some people just like to talk about the 'spirit world'. I don't though, it seems to weird and people begin to think like you, that if you talk about things out of the norm that you are crazy. I used to like my boyfriend to read my Tarot cards.
But no I cannot really recall that I dated anyone who was psychotic. However, I am not an expert at diagnosing who is psychotic and who isn't. | |
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