| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:55:37 PM | So I sent a legitimate email to girl (legitimate meaning it had actual substance and wasn't rude) and a day or two later I got a reply back. The reply message was very short, too short to be considered concise really, and I'm curious if I should see meaning in that. Should I perceive her response as a courtesy response and now leave her alone, or should I spend the time to write another email to elicit a better response?
Thanks for your time :)
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:57:13 PM | I would say that she wrote you back so that is a good sign. It has been my experience if someone is not interested they just delete the email. I would not take her short respeonse too seriously or read too much into it. Maybe she is nervous, shy or had just a couple minutes to write to you. I would write her back and go from there.
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:57:53 PM | | Speaking from experience, whenever I fire off a short email it means I am being nice by responding to you but I am not interested. | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:03:42 PM |
Should I perceive her response as a courtesy response and now leave her alone, or should I spend the time to write another email to elicit a better response?
If you never ask, you'll never know. You don't know what she's thinking, and quite frankly, neither does anyone else. We could all hazard a guess, but only she really knows. Email her back, either she'll respond or she won't. | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:09:11 PM | | It all depends on what the reply said. If it was along the lines of "Thank you for your message. Have a nice day." then it was likely a blowoff. Otherwise, you can just assume at this point that she was busy or not great at composing lengthy emails. You will never know for sure unless you write back again. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:12:23 PM |
Speaking from experience, whenever I fire off a short email it means I am being nice by responding to you but I am not interested.
^^^^^^^^^^ Exactly....that would be my opinion on a reply to an email from anyone.....woman or man.
Or It could possibly be that you're the 999th email she is answering and her fingers have cramped up | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:31:32 PM | It all depends on what she said in the email. If she said thank you for you email, but didn't ask any questions about you, then she might not be interested. But if she asked some questions about you then she could very well be interested.
Usually If I'm not interested in someone, I tell them right off the bat that I don't see us having much in common or something along that lines. If she didn't say anything like that then I would try a second email. | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:06:03 PM | I think it would really depend on the content of her response - only you (and her) know what she said.... cant you guess from that if she wants to on carry on mailing you...
Though, I am dreadful at responding to mail. I tend to quickly compose a reply without thought of asking about their day, their life, their anything. After a while of not getting a response back to my response, I then wonder why. Just maybe she's the same.
I also wonder about your clarification there - 'legitimate meaning it had actual substance and wasn't rude' - do you mean you usually send mail of this nature? | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:14:15 PM |
I also wonder about your clarification there - 'legitimate meaning it had actual substance and wasn't rude' - do you mean you usually send mail of this nature?
Lol, no, I haven't sent any of that crap. I included that because I've seen on the forums women complaining of getting rude messages or messages that are three words long and didn't want to get lumped in that group.
Well she did end the message with she was off to work, and I imagine women in my age group get a significant amount of attention on here, so there's a chance there's a positive reason. Still though, very little "click" so I may just put that one on the back burner and keep fishing.
Thanks for the input.
Snu | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:47:51 PM | | wow...you over analyze life! she replied, then there's your ticket. are you going to create a thread about her next reply? when you're on a date with her, when she acts a certain way, are you going to post about it and ask what could it possibly mean? | |
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| Shy/short on time or just uninterested?
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:43:23 AM | I wouldn't neccessarily agree.
A short reply, unless explicitly telling you its not happening is basically them saying, "sorry, you're going to have to do better than that"
Be happy that you're being given a second chance - usually in this scenario you're coming across as needy/clingy and the woman wants you to 'man up' in some way. | |
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