| Can you guys help me??
Posted: 5/19/2008 2:07:24 PM | | Can someone help me with a profile review? What am I doing wrong? I get getting labeled as a "sweet" girl. I have come to find out this is not really a good thing. Please help!............................................................... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 2:20:51 PM | A bit overly romantic profile is why that happens to you. You seem to be more in need of a partner than in want of one, which is likely why people call you that.
You need to display a bit more of your own person and not just an extension of the relationship. Just look at the nearly submissive attitude you have in "First Date". | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 2:46:16 PM | Geez... another sweet girl review!
Take it off your headline, think of something a tad daring instead.
I like the 2nd picture better for main. This one shows a bit of mischief in the eyes. The others are all too similar. Try to get several different types posted, full on body shots, maybe doing something outside. Wear a baseball cap, something that takes away from the *sweet girl* image. Be creative and have fun with it.
You list that you're looking for long~term but by being separated, you are still married. I'd change that to dating.
You really need to go back in and edit the interest section. These show up in search criteria so it is essential to fill that out properly. Make sure each one is separated with a comma.
The about me section as noted by my fellow reviewer, Yevgeny, needs to be *unsweetened*. You sound too easy to get along with. Take a good look inside yourself and figure out what you really want. It sounds sappy and romantic as it is. JMO.
You should be able to express what you're seeking in better phrases. Hon, we all want that prince charming, but everyone has their faults. Simply describe what kind of person you are, what are your best qualities and personality traits as a person. Also define the *type* of man you seek. Not what you'd like him to do in the relationship, you haven't gotten that far yet. Put that into 2 or 3 paragraphs, and it should work nicely.
You copped out on the first date! This is where it's all up to you, you come up with a plan, a date scenario he wants to go on.
Best wishes | |
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| Can you guys help me??
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:32:04 PM | NCGirl,
I don't know how anyone can help you with your request since it sounds like you are exactly what people think you are: a sweet girl. You seem to be reserved in your behavior, you list a specific religious affiliation, and you married when you were 18. Maybe you want to be a different person, but give us an idea of how you WANT others to perceive you.
In other words, do you want to seem like a bad girl? An adventurous lady? Or maybe tell us about how you see yourself and we can help you to expose that part of you that now appears to be tucked away. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:37:34 PM | | OP, I took the liberty of checking your other messages, namely the thread you posted with same question in "Ask a guy". Listen to what the people in the other thread told you. You are a female equivalent of stereotypical "nice guy". While the character traits specific to that personality are less of a problem for women than for men, it is still a problem. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:37:50 PM | | I am a sweet girl I guess. I want to make it not seem like a bad thing. Give me a little edge I guess? Deep down I am a sweet southern girl. Being sweet doesn't mean that it takes 3-6months to wine and dine me to have an adult relationship like others think. I can have values and morals and have a great sex life. I think I come off too much like a girl scout. At least thats what I have recently been told! So can you help me? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:53:21 PM | | What's wrong with being a sweet girl? I've said that many times to woman in an endearing way. Don't buy the stereotype that all men in their 20's are looking for a chase, many of us are looking for a girl that complements us and you just haven't found that one yet--It doesn't mean he's not out there. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:58:29 PM | Edge, personality, being your own person. It is not about being a bad girl or goody-two-shoes. It is about being your own complete and self-contained person. It is about wanting someone in your life but not needing him. It is about not being a piece of clay, ready to mold yourself into shape corresponding to your mate. It is about having your own life, own goals, own dreams. It is about knowing your own worth, having confidence, spirit, all of your own.
You might very well be that - but you need to show it. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 5:47:45 PM | | There are many different levels of the trait commonly known as nice. When people think of nice guys the assumed stereotypical pushover comes to mind. I'm a nice guy but I am far from a pushover. You decide which end of that spectrum you will fall. And if people want to place you in a position based on their assumptions it's your duty to stand up for yourself and correct them with your words or actions. Stake your claim to your nice girl persona! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:27:26 PM | I like your profile ...but from some of the things I have read....you wont get a lot of responses if you are just classed as separated....and looking for long term
you might want to change it to dating......until the ugly( In some cases its a beautiful word ...I know ) word divorced can be used......
I like your attitude...and I like how you like the simple things in life....
I my self am on a similar page as you.........
I was going to MSG you but I cant ( I am in the wrong country ) I really don't post in the forums much...I like to send my advice to the person asking and not display it for all to see.
BBE | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:54:03 PM | | There is nothing 'wrong' with you! Save yourself a lot of headache and heartbreak, by just being yourself. Somewhere, someone is looking for exactly what/who you are. I'm constantly being told, "you're 'too nice'," and I'll tell you, I'd rather be me, than pretend to be someone else. Some people, for unknown reasons to me, I think want someone who 'shows their back' to them, blows them off, doesn't find time for them, etc, etc, etc. There aren't very many 'nice' people in this world, as it seems you are, so stay strong, stand tall, and be proud of who you are. Your character is the most important part of you, and those that don't want that, you don't really want, do you? I feel your pain, I really do! Be strong, and don't change a thing! | |
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