A prime example of the type of thread that gets closed/deleted because it has been beaten to death. In other words, they are repeatedly posted and have an obvious bottom line answer, or an answer that sheds no conclusive answer.
Utilizing a simple automated thread search (instructions below) with key search words like "read, deleted, unread" etc., will yield the following threads already posted in the forums:
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0057 Another repeat of the Read-Deleted rant.. (Page: 1, 2, 3 )
0016 Deleted without being read!
0010 Do you read the mail? (locked--another 'read/deleted')
0467 Don't waste time messaging people who have over 50 favorites!!! /deleted rant)
0004 Emails that go unanswered???? (locked-read/deleted)
0001 girls who look good dont have the balls to even respond (locked--read/deleted)
0012 How nice is it to email someone, and then when they respond thats it?
0001 messages (locked--read/deleted)
0005 No Reply, Just "Read Deleted"
0001 Read but NOT Deleted... What Does This Mean? [CLOSED]
0001 Read Deleted [CLOSED - Redundant]
0037 Read Deleted Etiquette ? (Page: 1, 2 )
0004 Read Deleted messages [CLOSED - Redundant]
0023 read messages not deleted, but no reply either?
0018 There are too many picky women on this forum ! (locked-read/deleted)
0030 try again if read but not deleted? (Page: 1, 2 )
0006 unread - deleted?!!
0001 unread deleted - ignorant people (locked--redundant)
0038 Unread Deleted [CLOSED] (Page: 1, 2 )
0002 Unread deleted.... [CLOSED - Redundant]
0037 'Unread Deleted': what are the reasons? (social study) (locked-redundant)
0102 Whats your take on "read deleted" messages? (Page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 )
0004 ~Your Beef: Battle of the Sexes, Read/Unread/Delete, Favs Lists,
0006 Deleting send unread messages
0003 Deleting unread mail
0009 MAIL - help [Can You Cancel a Sent Unread Email]
0018 Mail - Unread - Unaccepted
0005 messages read/unread?
0015 The Unread Auto Reply
0006 unread - deleted?!!
0007 Unread and Deleted
0051 unread deleted - explain the logic please... (locked - redundant) (Page: 1, 2, 3 )
0001 unread deleted - ignorant people (locked--redundant)
0038 Unread Deleted [CLOSED] (Page: 1, 2 )
0001 unread deleted vs read deleted (locked--redundant)
0127 Unread Deleted!! (locked--painfully redundant) (Page: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 )
0013 Unread Deleted... (locked - tired, old topic)
0002 Unread deleted.... [CLOSED - Redundant]
0037 'Unread Deleted': what are the reasons? (social study) (locked-redundant)
0046 Unread email - for an entire month? (Page: 1, 2 )
0013 unread....deleted
1275 TOTAL Replies to just a small cross section of this subject
Unread/Deleted or Read/Deleted = Move On , they're more than likely, if not 99% Not Interested
Nice guy threads run a close second - double whammy !
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RE "Reply Stats"
To date, no reasoned argument to support the idea that not replying % is an
assessment of the person not replying/as opposed to it being an assessment
of the senders with low replies.
A: Their profile doesn't create interest, creeps out the recipient, is too sparse to
make any kind of impression at all, etc.
and/or
B: They don't read the profiles and understand them before sending first contact
and/or
C: Inappropriate/obtuse/boring/monosyllabic/etc - first contact message
and/or
D: Polite "no thanks" is met with either hostility, or: "Oh she was nice to me and
replied, I'm going to send her another*
and/or
E - Z: The myriad and many reasons that the receiver of the first contact is NOT
INTERESTED.
(the "not interested" part is pretty obvious)
Some women get 20 or 30 (AND MUCH MORE) messages a day, and there's only
time to:
- Check the profile, THEN read the mail if they aren't repulsed for what ever reason
after checking the bio and pics and reply to the ones that interest them. Keep in
mind, an almost as common complaint as "no reply" is from women complaining
about huge amounts of BS in their inboxes.
There's the other fact that a lot of guys get replies to most of their first contacts,
probably by using a well thought out first contact message that takes into
consideration; their ability to understand the intended recipient, yet another
variable backed up by the popularity of the done to death topic "Do guys even read
our profiles?"
A well written profile can even eliminate the need to be the one initiating contact
(Always a good approach).
*Often, I'll even advise female users who ALWAYS reply - and their rejections,
however polite - are often met with abuse or "didn't get the message"...?
Don't reply if you aren't interested, and "block sender" if they creep you out.
Further, I have never seen a female member start a thread about:
"Wow, the guys here send great messages"
Not one in all the years I've been here.
On the bright side, the points a -z above are all things that first contact senders have
control over.
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