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 warmandred
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I was just wondering why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates? I have dated and have to say 1 out of every 2 men - FALL IN LOVE - OR SAY THEY DO - please advise. Thanks

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 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 11:13:18 AM
Well, for some, it could be because they're more experienced, and are more aware of what it is they're looking for in a partner.
 bbtj
Joined: 5/10/2006
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 12:36:22 PM
I've had women tell me that also, after a couple of dates. So, it's not just the men. Personally, I think that some people are afraid of growing old by themselves.
 nightfly
Joined: 7/20/2004
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 1:05:29 PM
Doesn't happen to me anymore, but when I was younger, I had to like someone so very much in order to get up the courage to ask her out that if she did go out with me, I already knew so much more about her than she did about me, that falling for her wasn't very much of a leap. I'm guessing that lots of guys who have been burned in marriage, get a bit tentative when thinking about dating someone, and go through that same scenario.
 Commonsens
Joined: 8/12/2006
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 1:23:54 PM
am not there yet (mid 40) but out of a stretch: ill say maybe they do reconize quality when they see it!
 Swiftone
Joined: 10/30/2005
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 1:54:26 PM

I was just wondering why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates? I have dated and have to say 1 out of every 2 men - FALL IN LOVE - OR SAY THEY DO - please advise.


Well, checked out your profile and you are 42 (I think) athletic, which probably means you have a pretty nice looking body. You probably have a bit on the ball. That's a pretty rare combination for women over 40 (or men for that matter).

And, besides that, you'll find men and women of all ages who are insecure and desperate falling in love that quickly.

Stop dating weinies.
 cuddlesnk
Joined: 8/22/2006
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 2:44:22 PM
I am guessing that these folks are in love with the thought of being in love rather than truly feeling that strong emotion.

I have had that happen to me a few times and I was like...you don't know me...or anything about me. You don't love me and they swore that they did, but they were delusional! LOL
 Jarbarian
Joined: 2/9/2006
Msg: 8
Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 3:36:57 PM
I'm sure not all men over 40 do it, so it's best not to generalize. Let's focus on the guys you have been dating that HAVE been doing it. How many? All of them? 1 or 2? more than 5?

What I am getting at here is it may be the TYPE of guy you are attracting or are attracted to....

I am quite sure not all men over 40 are like that. I'll be 40 in three years -- I BETTER not be like that ;)
 BLACKACES
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 9
Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 4:02:15 PM
it's because men in there mid forties are easy to please!

we're experienced and can size up a quality lady real quick plus we're able to over look

numerous character flaws if it provides us with a warm hole and a hot meal.
 NefariusX
Joined: 6/6/2005
Msg: 10
Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 5:17:02 PM
Well Lady I'm in my Mid 40's so I'll help you along the way.......the guys that are telling you they Love you so fast is becuase they are lonely!!!! and they know time is running out just like for some women in thier 40's....you on the other hand have been married for a long time got out and want to enjoy your Singles scene. We have to take you're word for it you are "Attractive" but the last time a woman posted a thread just like this she wasn't much to look at and she got Marriage offers every other day. So My guess is you're fishing in the Shallow waters. These are my opinions but what do I know.
 billybobjimbo
Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 11
Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 10/31/2006 5:56:50 PM
Well my age is really 44 so I'm in my mid 40's and I would say I'm not sure if I'll ever be "in love" again..... But I fall in lust all the time

Bagage is what makes us who we are... makes some fall in love easy. Makes some scared to death.
 Mr_GentleMan
Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 12
why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:17:16 PM
It's called "infatuation", I have to admit it that I like someone after a few dates but,
then reality sets in and I have to come back off of my cloud.

Men in their 40s or 50s who don't have women hovering around them all of the time
enjoy the attention of a woman. and having more than 2 dates with the same woman
is quite rare.

so, they feel that the woman is quite special and men can love many things about them.

btw, there are 9 types of love and Infatuation is one of them.
 NightsSky
Joined: 10/2/2006
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why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:42:01 PM
Some people like saying they "I Love you" to get sex and whatnot.

It's just lies, lies and more lies.

Deep true love takes a long time.



 Mominatrix
Joined: 7/5/2006
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why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 10/31/2006 8:11:18 PM
My question is... Where are the men in their mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
 Sh0t
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 15
why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 10/31/2006 8:55:24 PM
here on PoF of course.
 Nos800id
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why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 10/31/2006 11:26:10 PM
Maybe they got it all figured out by then???????

Sorry I'm only 27 so I don't know the answer to this one. Ask me again in 20 years or so.
 musicalswede
Joined: 9/8/2006
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why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:57:09 PM
I'm thinking you are attracting or are attracted to a certain "type" of man and therefore can expect the same type of reaction from most of them. I might be taking a leap here, but perhaps you were finding that the rate of "men who fall in love too fast" was a large percentage for you even in your 30's and their 30's... Maybe you enjoy being in "control" over the relationship and therefore seek out the weaker men? It's much easier if they fall first then if it were the other way around. Just ideas to think about.

I would like to know where the guys are that are in their mid 40's that dont run in the other direction when they feel something! lol. maybe we need to trade types you and me
 prof48
Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 18
why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:25:50 PM
Since your making this assertion based upon self experience you might consider revising the question in a way that clarifies the potential answers. Try this "Why do men in their mid 40's who I date fall in love with me after only a few dates?" When placed in that form it raises the possibility that your question has more to do about you and the type of men you date.
 StormReaver
Joined: 10/16/2006
Msg: 19
why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:34:56 PM
They are probably experiencing a physiological response to your presence that is commonly mistaken for love.

Or they think you're hot, and want a good banging.
 athletic2222
Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 20
why do men in there mid 40's fall in love after only a few dates?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:38:36 PM
Stop dating people from the:
Mental ward,
AA,
NA,
Income assistance,
The homeless,


People who have their lives together will not be professing their love for you on date 2.

I love you.
 SoTexMan
Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 21
Men in THEIR mid 40's
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:50:35 PM
Hey, all:


...1 out of every 2 men - FALL IN LOVE - OR SAY THEY DO...


ON THE OTHER HAND, the other half DON'T?!? Is this the 'glass half full or or half empty'?

Some one else could have just as easily asked "Why DON'T MEN..."?

And who sets the rules on number of dates and by which gender??

I am sorry but this is a silly vacuous pointless thread.

David


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 HeavyThumb
Joined: 5/10/2006
Msg: 22
Men in THEIR mid 40's
Posted: 11/3/2006 8:03:35 PM
I've got to agree with SoTexMan on this one.
 warmandred
Joined: 7/8/2006
Msg: 23
Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:19:33 AM
You know that does make me think - thanks
 warmandred
Joined: 7/8/2006
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:20:18 AM
Love the way you think - smiles
 warmandred
Joined: 7/8/2006
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Men in there mid 40's
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:21:07 AM
Got ya on the weinie comment - to funny - smiles
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