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 ~~~HK~~~
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I read this today and thought I would like to share it. With all the ppl and dating going on here, Ontario parties and Ontario get togethers on POF I thought this was some good information. I've heard the expression several times from many ppl not just pof'ers. I know we kid lots but these are some good tips to check off when in doubt.


So have you seen these signs before?
& did you know them when you seen them?
what or how did you act / react to the psycho?
Do you see these signs before friends see them themselves?
Do you see these signs at Parties or get togethers here in Ontario?
Inquiring minds want to know..........................

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by Kelly JOnes



We've all got a teeny bit of psycho in us. But the line between going ga-ga for someone and becoming completely delusional about the boundaries of the relationship is a fine one.


If your newest fling's behavior is starting to give you a serious case of the heebie-jeebies and you wonder where the glowing personality went that you met on the first date, you may have hitched up with a psycho.


From bunny-boiling to phone-tapping, incessant emails to branding-style scratched initials in your back, there's a lot to be afraid of. Herewith, six signs your honey is half-baked.


Communication Overload

There's a difference between an eager beaver and a psychotic partner. An eager beaver calls you once and leaves all their phone numbers and email addresses so you can find them when you get the urge to reach out. A wacko calls all of your numbers and sends messages to all of your email addresses -- all day and every day. And the more time that passes between live interaction with a psycho, the more nutsy the notes and messages become. "Hey, it's me" morphs into "I've called 12 times...where are you?" and finally "Pick up the phone or I swear I'm gonna boil the bunny."


Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

The fibs seem harmless at first; they may even be confused or couched as miscommunications. But psycho partners lie incessantly in an attempt to control you. So what starts as lies about small things, like liver also being his favorite food (so that it looks like you two are so similar you must be soul mates) escalates into elaborate fabrications about him needing your emotional support because he's just discovered that he has an identical twin brother whose cancerous liver will self-implode without a transfusion of your lover's genetically matched blood. Beware the contradictions, the overabundance of justifying details, the well-timed dramas.


Stalk Talk

Don't be fooled by the cliché image of a trenchcoat-clad dude running from telephone pole to telephone pole as he follows his victim home from the bar. Stalking girlfriends and boyfriends come in all shapes and sizes (and outfits). And their techniques are many: from blatantly setting up tent and bonfire on your front stoop to see what time you get home, to "coincidentally" planting themselves in public places they know you'll frequent -- your neighborhood porn shop, your synchronized swimming class, the recycling room in the basement of your building. Don't discount the idea of your phone being tapped if it seems your lover knows secrets you've shared only with friends over the phone. If you're starting to get that creepy "being watched" feeling and have actually found yourself wondering how the witness protection program works, you've probably made allies with a lunatic.


Scarred Out Of Your Wits?

Some guys like it when a girl draws blood from his back with her French manicured nails. And some girls, when doing the doggy, like to be spanked till their buttocks burn pink. But if the recipient of said "passionate" punishment isn't the one getting off, this kind of thing falls under the category of branding. As in, "This is my man and I've created a hickey self-portrait on his neck to show you that he's taken."


Mine, Mine, Mine!

We've all felt moments of jealousy in our lives. And that's probably a good thing -- a little bit of envy keeps us on our toes. But there's jealousy, and then there's jealousy of the paranoid variety. Imagine this: you can't look at anyone of the opposite sex, let alone talk to them, without your partner freaking out. And that's just with strangers (read: I know you're cheating on me with your doorman because you always say "hello"). Classic psycho jealousy behavior also pertains to, god forbid, ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends -- even pals and family members. In other words, to a psycho, everyone is a threat.


Pay attention to ME

A psycho needs constant attention, and if that need isn't met, all hell breaks loose. Does your girlfriend fall to the ground in a pretend faint so that you have to stay home and take care of her rather than hit the pub with your friends on a BNO? Does your boyfriend hold your hand or perform other PDAs (public displays of affection) only when other males are around? You see, it's all about control and having power over you and the relationship. Psychos want to know everything (snooping is classic behavior and these dating duds seem to have eyes on the backs of their heads), and many may assume that you're in a committed relationship just because you made it through a first date.


Caveat aka Beware / Caution

Of course we jest. In real life, stalking, obsessive phone calling and other possessive behavior is not cool. And at all not funny. If you suspect you are being stalked or are otherwise being harassed by a former or current partner, don't hesitate to call or visit your local police. And if you are facing an emergency, dial 911.


I will add in this context the articule does say he or she but either can be used and this is just a personality type after all. So no Men vs Woman here......it's equality all the way for these issues we deal with daily in this game called LIFE.
 Mayor
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 2
6 Signs You May Be Dating a Psycho
Posted: 2/20/2007 2:15:28 PM
lol great another label to add to my list
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
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Posted: 2/20/2007 2:20:02 PM
I have met and heard of a few of those - therapy time for sure - get them drugs in ya !!!!!!
Makes me wonder how they get that way!!!! This is not gender specific either - I've had a couple of psychos after me in my day!!! Not fun!!!
 .Lisa
Joined: 1/13/2007
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6 Signs You May Be Dating a Psycho
Posted: 2/20/2007 2:36:14 PM
nice very very nice lol
 VainH
Joined: 3/7/2006
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Posted: 2/20/2007 3:33:15 PM
Yeah, where was this advice 7 years ago? I had to get off a train once seconds before it was about to leave because, conveniently, she'd forgotten the keys to her apartment at my place. Plus she hurt her ankle, was complaining about me spending time with my sisters while they were visiting, and god forbid I should go home with them to visit the rest of my family.

The feigning amnesia was probably a good tipoff as well.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
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6 Signs You May Be Dating a Psycho
Posted: 2/20/2007 4:14:44 PM

An eager beaver calls you once and leaves all their phone numbers and email addresses so you can find them when you get the urge to reach out


and touch someone?


So what starts as lies about small things, like liver also being his favorite food


^^^ That's not fair!!! I like liver!!! Albeit... I like to put it in my pants and hump parking meters - but that's not the point.... leave liver alone!!!


"coincidentally" planting themselves in public places they know you'll frequent -- your neighborhood porn shop, your synchronized swimming class


Whew!! I do it the other way... I go to swim class... then the porn shop. I also stop at the grocers for some liver.

So far, so good... I'm not psycho. **continues reading**


Some guys like it when a girl draws blood from his back with her French manicured nails


OOOOh, Noooo you don't!!! That's sacred ground!!!!^^^^^^^^
Just because you are too cheap to get a french manicure... doesn't mean I'm the one that's nuts!!!!!!


And some girls, when doing the doggy, like to be spanked till their buttocks burn pink. But if the recipient of said "passionate" punishment isn't the one getting off, this kind of thing falls under the category of branding


Bullshit!!!
*** sings "Rawhide!!!!***


Imagine this: you can't look at anyone of the opposite sex, let alone talk to them, without your partner freaking out


I'd really fvck her up and look at those of the same sex and pass them condoms... then wink.


Does your girlfriend fall to the ground in a pretend faint


Yes... but only when she gets between me and the parking meter.


If you suspect you are being stalked or are otherwise being harassed by a former or current partner, don't hesitate to call or visit your local police


Yeah... right! And ruin a perfectly good erection?
NOT!**borat voice**
 Soul_Mates
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Posted: 2/20/2007 4:27:25 PM
Nussbaum's List of Red Flags:

1. s/he pushes too far, too fast, planning your future together right away.
2. s/he hates his mother and is nasty to her.
3. s/he wants your undivided attention.
4. s/he must always be in charge.
5. s/he always has to win.
6. s/he breaks promises all the time.
7. s/he can't take criticism and always justifies his actions.
8. s/he blames someone else for anything that goes wrong.
9. s/he's jealous of your close friends, family members, and all other wo/men.
10. s/he always asks you where you went and whom you saw.
11. s/he has extreme highs and lows that are unpredictable.
12. s/he has a mean temper.
13. s/he often says you don't know what you're talking about.
14. s/he makes you feel like you're not good enough.
15. s/he withdraws his love or approval as punishment.
16. s/he pushes you to do things that make you feel uneasy, like taking the day off from work or even breaking the law.

(though I edited this to make it gender neutral)

And some from *previous* personal experience:

- they don't trust you
- they accuse you of cheating
- according to them every single ex they ever had is the most evil person in the universe and they've never had one relationship that they consider "good" even if they aren't friends with any exes
- they don't seem to have much of a life outside of your relationship
- they are rude to people for no apparent reason
- they go out of their way to read or look at personal things of yours (diaries, emails, snail mail et cetera) without your permission
- they get rougher and rougher with you in bed without permission or apology
 Rox_
Joined: 2/3/2007
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Posted: 2/20/2007 9:24:01 PM
I went out with a guy once.. and really needed on 1 true sign.. We meet at a Starbucks located in a Chapters store.. It's all good.. he's not a great conversationalist but hey nerves.. but the kicker was.. walking around the store.. he sees the "self Help" section and says oh I need to go over there and see if I can find a book, I have a few issues I should deal with... Hmmm can you say run not walk to the nearest exit. Thankfully and without planning I got a phone call that required me to be somewhere right then.. Whew....
 greeneyedlady57
Joined: 11/5/2005
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Posted: 2/21/2007 8:03:27 AM
Good One "HK", Where were you about 10 yrs ago, i could have used this little tibit
of imfo???

Thanks for taking the time, it must have taken you to write it; Now I can print it

and put it on my wall.

Oh the fond memories Good for you!



Your friend GEL57
 Danteslnferno
Joined: 12/12/2005
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Posted: 2/21/2007 8:15:05 AM
Meh, BEING a Psycho myself, I would finid dating one to be interesting. hahahahaha. Imagine, trying to be at the same public places she says she goes to, and she doing the same thing with you. you'd never see one another hahahahaha.

Boiling bunnies is a bad thing? What about Hossenpheifer??? what if i wont some Hossenpheifer??? GET ME MY HOSSENPHEIFER!!!!

Pffffft lying isn't bad. I'd rather lie than tell the woman I am dating that I slept with ehr best friend the night before, I mean c'mon!!!!

BTW, THIS IS A HUMEROUS THREAD!!!! Don't TAKE IT SERIOUSLY ... sheesh.
 Darkash
Joined: 12/21/2006
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Posted: 2/21/2007 8:21:53 AM
1-your dating me

2-your dating me

3-your dating me

4-Your dating me

5-your dating me

6-your dating me


that should just about cover it ..............................UH HUH ................
 justme1975
Joined: 11/13/2006
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Posted: 2/21/2007 8:25:59 AM

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

The fibs seem harmless at first; they may even be confused or couched as miscommunications. But psycho partners lie incessantly in an attempt to control you. So what starts as lies about small things, like liver also being his favorite food (so that it looks like you two are so similar you must be soul mates) escalates into elaborate fabrications about him needing your emotional support because he's just discovered that he has an identical twin brother whose cancerous liver will self-implode without a transfusion of your lover's genetically matched blood. Beware the contradictions, the overabundance of justifying details, the well-timed dramas.


ummm yep DEFINITLY been with one of these.....How about telling me his daughter had been sexually assaulted to gain my sympathy????? think that counts as PSYCHO!
6 Signs You May Be Dating a Psycho
Posted: 2/22/2007 8:30:28 AM

he sees the "self Help" section and says oh I need to go over there and see if I can find a book, I have a few issues I should deal with


It was just a leaky faucet and an uneven shelf.....

thats very judgmental no? I thought women wanted men who were seeking self improvment.. and had a sence of humor....

At least he didn't hit the magazine rack and start looking at "Amature Labotmy Monthly"
 Lady_hpm
Joined: 5/16/2006
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Posted: 2/22/2007 9:16:28 AM

I know you're cheating on me with your doorman because you always say "hello"



now thats funny
 Alva-Musicman
Joined: 5/15/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 2/22/2007 9:37:59 AM
the best one i`ve heard was i`m so mad i could shoot you..I said ok i put my coat on and shoes and said lets see if you have the jam.Calling someone bluff after a statement like that.Needless to say shes didn`t follow me.
 Maxhal
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 16
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Posted: 2/22/2007 6:07:53 PM
Cute test, off the internet, I got the right answer , can you?

Psycho Test

A woman, while at the funeral of her own mother, met this guy whom she
did not know. She thought this guy was amazing, so much her dream guy
she believed him to be just that! She fell in love with him right there,
but never asked for his number and could not find him. A few days later
she killed her sister.



Question: What is her motive in killing her sister?

(Give this some thought before you answer). SCROLL DOWN.























Answer:
She was hoping that the guy would appear at the funeral again.

If you answered this correctly, you think like a psychopath. This was a
test by a famous American Psychologist used to test if one has the same
mentality as a killer. Many arrested serial killers took part in the test and
answered the question correctly.

If you didn't answer the question correctly good for you. If you got
the answer correct, please let me know so I can take you off my email
list unless that will tick you off, then I'll just be extra nice to you
from now on.
 tailpipe
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Posted: 2/23/2007 8:13:45 AM
awww come on i love stalkers they r so much fun to take to the gay bars and let my friends have thier way with lmfao they r so easy to manipulate when they r stalking me they usually give up after the first mauling though lmfao wimps wait does that make me psycho too? neverrrrrrrrr muaaahahahahahaha
 snookyookems
Joined: 11/2/2006
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Posted: 2/23/2007 1:24:43 PM
Yeah, not a fan of this behaviour!! Also, this could be a sign your significant other is cheating - it's kind of their form of a guilty conscience. Had that happen before. Problem is we don't often realize this. I had my ex making me feel like I was the one in the wrong for not calling if I was late, talking to someone who I had not "formally" introduced him to - hugging another guy in his presence etc. Although all innocent (and I'm not a flirt), it was taken the wrong way and I just shut down. Having an overly jealous person in the relationship usually means they were cheated on in the past or they are currently cheating on YOU!
 Fayla
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Posted: 2/23/2007 2:24:59 PM
WOW
Isnt this the truth!
Had one like this, now I find it hard to trust anyone!
It messed me up a lot and I am still recovering, so please be careful everyone!
Don't settle with someone just because it's someone. Trust me, you would rather be alone then deal with this sh**! These type of people really try to wear you down and try to make you feel worthless.
But you arent worthless... so drop them and feel better about who you are!
 leftturnclyde
Joined: 2/7/2007
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Posted: 2/23/2007 4:11:26 PM
anyone named Charles (Manson), Richard (Kuklinski ), Terrance Trent (Darby), Bill (Gates), according to who?, any Dr. named Phil, and Lorena! eyeoverdosedonoprah.com
 Who would date me
Joined: 4/9/2007
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:18:54 AM
Where was this site 10 years ago when I was last dating.

As I read this the first thought in my mind "Oh Sh*t I married a psycho."

Something else to consider, was there a history of it in the family? I learned after marriage there was an institutionalized grandmother and later that my wife's mother has been completely ostracized from the family since her parent's divorced in the 1970's. Hmm, I am thinking x linked disorder here.
 regularguy52
Joined: 1/14/2007
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Posted: 4/13/2007 12:06:27 PM
Very relevent and revealing posts, now I'm reeeaalllly scared!!
 Weekend Drummer Dave
Joined: 2/20/2007
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Posted: 4/13/2007 1:31:50 PM
Reading this is scarey scarey scarey. I was with one for 4 years who would have had the answer in less than a heartbeat. I still can't get her to go away. I can't believe how almost everything in this forum applies to her. Reading all this is the best therapy yet!
 SseccuS
Joined: 10/19/2005
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Posted: 4/14/2007 9:01:30 AM
Your too funny Dave....I was thinking the same about you....I guess you havent told all the innocent naive people on here how I caught you cheating on me, lying to me on a daily basis and how you screwed me over for thousands of dollars, inflicted emotional and physcial abuse and hurt me and my kids not to mention that now I have to have a Restraining Order on you because its YOU WHO WONT GO AWAY! I guess it takes one to know one. See you in court!
 .Lisa
Joined: 1/13/2007
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Posted: 4/14/2007 2:23:06 PM
i love being a Psycho , hear me roar
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