| Why Do So Many Women Require That I "Must Love God"?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:41:09 PM | Ive done several thread searches for this topic and havent found any, so if it is out there someplace please dont shoot me.
Ive noticed a lot of profiles lately that say right in the first couple lines something like "I put God first in my life and am looking for someone who's the same way". But then I look at that person's photos, which is usually what led me to click the profile in the first place, and theyre typically anything but Angelic in nature. Lots of cleavage and/or partying kind of photos, yet they make this big to-do about only being interested in someone who's super-religious.
So as a non-religious person my questions are these:
1) Whats up with the incresing number of females seeking "Godly" men lately?
2) Why are you looking for someone who's super religious but at the same time showing the world what a wildchild you are?
3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly?
Im not out to bash anyone's beliefs. Just trying to figure out whats up with the direct conflict of interests being posted in these profiles. Thanks. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:52:57 PM | | I wouldn't use the word "super-religious" but i take my faith seriously and i want someone that shares the same beliefs as i do. i want someone I can share my faith with, hold me accountable in it, and understands the workings of it. Not that i'm a perfect person or look down on a non believer.. in fact I am just as bad. but it's nice to be on the same page and I feel it makes us as a couple stronger. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:00:39 PM | My first comment is, I would like to find these large numbers of women that you refer to because I'm sure not finding them on here and thats the type of women I would be seeking.
So as a non-religious person my questions are these:
1) Whats up with the incresing number of females seeking "Godly" men lately?
2) Why are you looking for someone who's super religious but at the same time showing the world what a wildchild you are?
3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly?
Answers..
1. Where are they? I want to find a Godly woman.
2. Depends what you term as wild child, you would have to explain that more. I don't want a woman who is sexually dead for example, but I'm also not going to sleep with anyone before marriage so a inner wild side is nice to know, just kept under control until marriage for example.
3. It don't make me run, on the contrary it peeks my interest. I go out of my way to try and find the mentions of God in a woman’s profile, she could look great, have all the interests that I do, but if she don't serve Jesus then forget it.
4. Because a person has strong stand in their faith and is not the wishy washy "everyone can believe what they choose and in the end it's all good we all go to heaven types" will not get along with the wishy washy types and the wishy washy types will not get along with them. There will always be issues that will come up no matter what, it's like trying to mix water and oil. Thats why I will only date women who would put God as number one in their heart and they make it clear. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:02:17 PM | | All I can really say to that is: People believe that they want to. And if they have feelings strong enough for something that it is posted on their profile, you must respect it. Questioning why a woman has something religious on her profile is not going to be consistent with another woman with such. If religion bothers you, keep moving. If you're intrigued by the woman, and are not going to judge, or criticize their beliefs then what does it matter? It's the same as a sport, or type of music in the way that you must find compatibility. You're not going to get very clear answers in a forum. If you feel like walking away when a woman confesses her religious beliefs, that is up to you. But you're also closing yourself off of a lot of good-hearted viable women. Have an open-mind. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:09:37 PM | What we say and what we do are entirely different things.
I don't believe in God but I have heard that dating sites are extremely limited for Christians. There are sites online but they are heavily dominated by women and the number of eligible men is apparently quite thin. Just because women believe in God doesn't mean they are any less picky. Or should be. Although it does kind of make one wonder about the entire Biblical concept of seeing beyond material means and "worldly" enticements.
From what I've seen around me, Christian girls are just as hardcore about finding the best looking tall male they can find with a great job as non Christian girls. Since they can't find them on their religious dating sites, they come to other dating sites that are "less Christian"
The problem with most Christians and dating is the entire "Will they have sex before marriage?" issue. Some will and some won't. I won't go into whether the Bible or God thinks either is a good idea, but fundamentally most Christians I've met do their best to avoid or muddle the answer to that question because they know it's a true deal breaker for most people out there trying to date. It's deception of the worst kind - it's a non answer to maximize the appearance of being a "Christian" while being patently dishonest.
I respect people's right to believe what they want and live their life as they choose, but most Christians don't do themselves or anyone else any favors by how they behave in the dating world. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:10:17 PM | | I don't push religion on any one, but it is nice to have a man who loves and fears GOD. There are Hypocrites on this site too. Go to church and worship God on Sunday and then turn around and look totally sleezy the next day. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:25:08 PM |
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly? I'm not religious but I will say that if I click on a profile (which I seldom do) ... and I see any kind of religion listed ... I just pass it up. I have learned a long time ago that it simply doesn't work when one partner is religious and the other isn't.
OP ... I looked at your profile and you list "Christian-other" as your religious background.
** ... What seems to be the problem with being with a woman who loves God?
** ... How can someone be involved in a "Christian" religion (even if it's of the "other" type) and not want to be involved with some sort of God?
** ... Do you have a God but just don't love that God all that much?
I don't understand ... but then I'm not at all religious, so that could contribute to it.
I do not want to be with any man who would put a religion over his relationship and when I read, "I put God first in my life ... ", then I have to question how true that person would be to me in a relationship.
** ...If I fell ill and needed that person, would they be able to give up "Church night" to stay home and help me ... or would their so-called "God" come first?
** ...What if their so-called God told them to dump me in my time of need ... would they abandon me? | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:41:12 PM | | Oh boy. I hope this doesn't turn into another religious bashing thread. I love God, I dont love God, I dont believe in God, I'm a christian, I'm an atheist blah blah blah . Bottom line, if a woman loves God and she wants someone in her life who does, why question it? If someone doesn't love God and you do, why question it. I am a christian but not a religion pusher by any means. I can be friends with and date anyone but ultimately I also want a christian woman in my life. If something is important to someone, just respect their wishes no matter what side their on. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 3:50:51 PM | Religious beliefs are an absolutely huge compatibility issue, so its best to get that out of the way ASAP. To each their own, and if my viewpoint toeing the line with theirs is a prerequisite to date, well, I'm just grateful its right there in their profile so as to not waste my time or theirs. Being non-religious myself, I do tend to pass on by any profile that specifically mentions any gods or Jesus or any of that, since I know there is no possibility we would be compatible. I think it was Bill Maher who said that, "God is an imaginary friend for adults.", and I'd have to agree.
Its funny, the ones that are always talking about being open-minded about their religious beliefs and how it affects me and any potential relationship, tend to be not nearly as open-minded about my religious beliefs, ie. that I'm an atheist, and have been since I first reached the age of reason. Usually they just start checking my head for 6's.  | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 3:53:17 PM | 3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?
Yup, that's me. Next!
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly?
I consider myself a de facto atheist, which means that while I don't entirely discount the existence of a deity or deities, I don't think or believe that (s)he or they exists.
I'm also an anti-theist. And more than my atheism, this is what makes me a (very) poor match for anyone who follows or adheres to the tenets of a particular religion. I don't hate god(s)...how can I hate something I don't believe exists and is man-made?
But...I do hate what religions have done to humanity throughout the ages.
Hmm...and since this isn't the Religious Forum, I won't get into it more than I have to. Suffice to say that the older I get, the less tolerant I've become for what I see as a hindrance to reach our full potential as human beings.
Personally, I try to live my life based on the tenets of secular humanism. So...it's not just the people of faith who want to be
equally yoked. I know for a fact that I could never be romantically involved with someone who believed that we as human
beings are not responsible for our own fate and destiny. But that's me and to each their own.
JMO
"It ain't the parts of the Bible that I can't understand that bother me, it is the parts that I do understand."
~Mark Twain~
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:01:18 PM | | I strongly believe in my faith. I do not wish to be unequally yoked with a non-Christian. It is important to me as I get my values and strength from my belief system. I don't wish to be in relationship that questions my religion or picks at my belief system. Religion is a non mutable requirement in my preferences. I agree with the gentleman that stated he wants someone that shares his belief system. Not that I'm looking to hold someone accountable but rather wish find someone that holds themself accountable within Christianity. I am not so stringent that they have to believe exactly like I do but Christian is a must have. Mind, Spirit, Soul, Strength & Body. Like mindedness if you will. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:03:44 PM | I've seen my fair share of some christians in wolves clothing to say there a christ like example but yet, them the same ones that turn behind your back and do the total oppose they're suppose to do and stab ya.
I don't pressure religion on anyone, it's there preference on weather or not they want God in there life and I'm not going to question it, but I would prefer to have a relationship with someone that is a believer in God tho.
Like I said I've seen many people disguised as sheeps in wolves clothing and trust me they're no better than a non believer, put your money on that. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:05:04 PM | | I think for some of them it's a shortcut way of saying don't be on drugs or a pervert or something. Of course that doesn't really guarantee anything. But you are right. Someone may believe in God but can they say they really love an abstract concept? | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 4:10:41 PM | I'm with you in wondering why "godly" people look so well, unwholesome! I certainly wouldn't want that.
I am a conservative Christian myself, although I don't like organized religion and don't go to church. I am escaping an abusive marriage with a non-Christian liberal. I thought the religious differences wouldn't matter, turns out they did. Among many other topics, he regularly berated me because he didn't agree with my beliefs.
Duh, it hit me that if I want to find like-minded people who don't hate me for my beliefs, I should look for people with the same beliefs. I'm not going to be super religious, but from now on, I will only consider fellow Christians who hopefully, aren't church sheep either. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 4:21:04 PM | I think it has to do just with the fact that we live in a nation founded by religious fanatics...
Look at the politics in the US. THAT's the new religion, actually.... right wing.
In fact, "fundamental" religious sects (wackos) and right wing zealots go together like "big" and "fat".
I went through my "religious period", already... two pastors, one after another, bailed out on retarded sons they left behind.... one of them was actually a bigamist whose first wife hunted him down and found him at the church he was pastoring, so he had to leave...the pastor before that had his own little secret society among the congregation who he talked into contrubuting to the purchase of land back in Missouri where he said they could all stay in the "final days"...and then HE flew the coop... to be hunted down and discovered on the land he purchased... and wasn't going to tell anyone where he was... and when they found him he had them forcibly evicted by the police... because the property was purchased in HIS name...
It's amazing.
I believe in God... but my experience is that when people try to persuade me how much they love God... I keep them at arm's length...
Go figure.... | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:26:50 PM | Religion and beliefs are a big thing for people. Some people would like someone with the same beliefs/religion for the simple fact that they will be following the same basic principles and won't have disagreements or disputes about such things.
Why worry about what someone else wants? If you're worried about Christians wanting a Christian partner and you aren't, then clearly you aren't a match for them. Move on like you would anyone else. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:33:59 PM |
1) Whats up with the incresing number of females seeking "Godly" men lately?
They are not really looking for a guy of faith, merely certain bible thumpers (yes, that's my word for them), have a mentality of do as I say, not as I do.
2) Why are you looking for someone who's super religious but at the same time showing the world what a wildchild you are?
Certain women are hypocrites.
3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?
Yip, faith/religion is a personal matter.
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly?
Birds of a feather, flock together. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:41:48 PM | some people truly believe in what they do. i don't mind religious people (men or women), as long as don't try to force it on me. i believe in a higher power and will let go at that. i had an ex that became a fanatic(notice i said ex). if i see one, that says religious i asked her a little more about it. i have no problem with then going to church if they want to. i just dont. i have been called a hypocrite because of this. i agree with a couple of other folks on one thing. i have seen too many that a holier than thou on Sunday, but you better watch your wallet during the week. also dont believe in "sent me your money and i will make you well". i wont even argue religion with some people and i love to argue. they are so die hard and will not listen to reason. so if you have a problem with religious women, move on, there are more fish in the sea. just my two cents.
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:49:04 PM | 1) Whats up with the incresing number of females seeking "Godly" men lately?
I see it in men as well. Not as frequently but I see men seeking a "God fearing" woman.
2) Why are you looking for someone who's super religious but at the same time showing the world what a wildchild you are?
No idea
3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?
I move on if I see something religious in a mans profile because I can pretty much garuntee that we won't have a lot in common
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly?
I think this is because most very religious people I know seem to think their religion has a lock on morals and values. They don't believe the rest of us can be decent human beings. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2008 4:58:29 PM | I pass them by just as I do anyone that states that they are very happy with George Bush and the ultra conservative movement........
If you put up your belief in a deity right at the start, or your political views, you have set the trap for only those that believe the way you do, and I do not want to go down that path right at the beginning. I believe most will know my self worth and foundation of humanity by getting to know me, and not by insisting that I fit in their universe immediately or else.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to religion and politics, so it is better to evolve with each other over time, as one gets to know the other much better and why they just my feel and believe as they do.
Just my liberal opinion........ ......   | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:44:47 PM | Please note that I am not bashing any group here, Just my own observations.
"2) Why are you looking for someone who's super religious but at the same time showing the world what a wildchild you are?"
Many religions do not have a prohibition on how you dress, or on partying. I know Christians who party while wearing low cut blouses, and still have a deep spiritual connection to God. Women know that most men, even religious ones, want a women who is good looking and has fun. Here on POF since it is not religion specific women tend to be a bit more open in their photos. Now if you go look over on the Amish Dating sites you will see they tend to be quite a bit more conservative in the way they dress.
"3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?"
I would move on, since if it is in her profile that GENERALLY means they want someone who also believes as they do. I am Agnostic (Not sure if there is a God, or of his/her nature) however I am quite respectful of most religions, and have dated women of various religions (Christian, Mormon, Pagan, Buddhist). Two of them were firm believers in their faith, yet we had no issues over it because we understood each others positions.
"4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone they’re dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly? "
A number of reasons.
1) "Common interest" What most on POF seek, well aside from all those seeking a one night stand. ('').
2) It will tend to help avoid fights.
3) Avoid (' ') BIG ('') fights on how to raise kids.
4) Have their loved one in the afterlife ('') instead of seperated. ('')
5) Someone to help them follow their religion and not tempt them to the wrong path.
I'm sure there are many more reasons. Hope this helps.
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:58:44 PM | Man I love Christian women, because I am a sexy Christian man.
Just because we believe in God and aspire to be the best that we can be, doesn't mean that we're not as horny as hell as anybody else.
It's just at a different level.
Hey, we are all sinners and that's how we were made.
Sex is great, all kinds and it's a blessing from God. But He made it for a loving purpose. Anybody can screw like a barnyard animal, but as humans, created by God, we are held to a higher standard.
What do I mean by that?
Think about it. I'm a fisherman. Fish spawn (for you illiterates, that's sex, just one time a year.) Same with all animals, they all have their specific mating times.
However, God let us people, men and women, at the top of the chain, wanting sex, 24/7/365. Me, anyway! And, some aggressive women I've met here!
He made us in His image, so He's a sexy guy too!!!
I know I'll catch a lot of crap for this post, but I don't care. I have also learned what "Turn the other cheek" means.
For you athieists, you probably don't know what that means, but even I, see a sexual connotation from the Bible.
Turn the other cheek baby, I want to see it all!
Life is for the living!
Regards,Bob | |
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