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Posted: 11/16/2005 9:02:18 PM Awww i can help you....never ever give up..theres to much ppl hurting and if you give up its just like saying i might as well cry alone and never smile...theres alot of love out there a lot of hope it's just if you rush in and grab the first heart it might be a spoiled one love is time you can't fall in love ASAP...cause you don't know that person in a day it takes time you need to sit back and look at your heart is it ready..i mean really ready to try to love again.if you feel you need to go out and love right away it might be a badd thing how many say i love you right away then you end up waving buhbye to your EX..you see your heart needs to set the pace in what feels right 4 you..99% of guyz and girls think jumping into bed is how you keep that someone...but think of it as this way when you and your mate get to gether is it just a bed thing or friendship...listen to what i'm trying to say you Can't be happy just with sex you need to build a friendship as well and what better way to do that by saying hello take a walk and talk..learn more about thim/her learn what there real needs are...sure right now you feel its to long but maybe thats cause you really never felt the real friendship in the person you met..maybe cause you where hurt your thinking i don't just need a sex parter i need someone to wipe my tears when i'm sadd i need a friend to make me smile when life has my life in a down low....all mates need a friend cause whos going to be there when your the one hurting not a sex buddy there just a so called friend..start by saying HI i just want to talk and get to know you....if they say that sounds like fun then your rolling on happy thoughts for as long as it takes....i'll say its up to you and your heart its up to you and how you look at yourself.....be real to yourself and the world changes to your pace putting yourself down takes a long time to fine a mate....cause if you don't respect yourself how will the person your meeting respect you the way you want to be..just be real to yourself...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 18 (view)   Any luck with getting back with an ex? Posted: 11/16/2005 3:53:43 PM My Friend got back with his Ex they have 3 kids and got remerried..so you know what dreams can come true..if the hearts there to hold...that dream..i wish anyone who makes it back together the best...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 78 (view)   my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine.............. Posted: 11/16/2005 3:49:20 PM Keep your head up! Remember each day is a new one.........  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 17 (view)   is this bein a Whore? Posted: 11/16/2005 9:07:55 AM NOOOOOOO! Angel your not...why cause you set it stright with him.and your friends! Why should you stay at home and deal with the bullcrap thoughts that run in your head.as long as you don't lead him on and make him think you LOVE! him then no harm done! as for ppl calling you names just keep your head up as long as you feel good about yourself then thats all that madders.... as for being a mother i'm proud of you seeing your kids don't let anyone bring your hopes and heart down...and if they keep calling you the names tell them to let god judge you...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 45 (view)   Oh, you just want to be friends? Bull@#$&! Posted: 11/16/2005 7:44:38 AM Aaaawww poorr kitty-kat lookin for a friend nice pic...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 10 (view)   What Would You Classify As A Broken Heart? Posted: 11/15/2005 6:32:58 PM sounds like you put all men to shame....thats not true! when i was with my ex i never had eyes that thought of getting laid why the hell would i making love to the one you love is the best thing to share...my ex was the most happest angel in my life her smile her laugh and the way she Cuddled and kissed me i had eyes for her each sec it was my dream to see her we both hurt eachother by not listen to the other i'll never put blame on her for every thing it was the both of us sure she left and i had 50% of her going but it made me a better man i raise my son whos 4mounths now by myself and i won't change a thing as for me hurt HELL YAH DON'T WE ALL but we learn..i'm sure theres guys out there that think with there dingy i can't judge them and won't..cause whats go's around comes around...all you guys who want happness be there for her you picked her and a life time of hurt is not fun..sex lasts a nite love lasts forever. if it was me i'll give my heart to her before i even think with my dingy..cause dam the pain last a long time and theres a of tears later.just remember whats better one night..or a life time of love...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 24 (view)   People who can't let go of the past Posted: 11/15/2005 1:27:30 PM its you you need to step..up and sit down with him tell him listen i've moved on i'm happy with my new life you need to step into your life let him see how happy you are tell him i'm still a friend but you have to understand you left me i went through hell each tear i cryed you weren't there..now i over come my pain i have my moves in my life to never remember the times i hugged my pillow...just tell him its time to move on the more angery you get the move it feeds his happness..some ppl like to play headgames its a part of the OMFG what did i lose...just slowly talk to him even with out your new mate and tell him from your heart...its over we had some good times but the bad times out weight the good and i'm happy if your my friend then you would understand...keep your head up! it will past!  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 30 (view)   Oh, you just want to be friends? Bull@#$&! Posted: 11/15/2005 1:15:07 PM WHY NOT...come on thats what start on to be a good thing maybe there looking to see who you are inside out you should no haven a gf/bf don't mean sex its has a lot to do with being there friend what if they want to see if your the friend who can take it.....hey its better to have a friend then no friend at all..try it next time she says i want to just be friends say to her i couldn't ask for a better friend..this way you both get to know more about eachouther and learn more you never no what that friendship can bring you a lot of us have jumpped into a heart and got tossed like crap Why cause she wasn't the right friend or you weren't the right friend....we need to listen to what are hearts say not what we think they say...friends is a start try it and the more you talk and go out then in time y'll no what you both want...try it.  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 8 (view)   What Would You Classify As A Broken Heart? Posted: 11/15/2005 1:00:54 PM You should be upfront first a heart can't think it feels and if your with him for a week it feels and grows its best to never get into something unless you come out front with what you want..me i don't think with my pants if i date it takes a long time to just jump into bed i wouldn't want to be hurt our hurt that person i'm dating...cause i'm not happy dam if sex is what ppl think make you happy try getting to know that person cause guys think they can win you over in bed then you have girls who think the same way.theres a lot to learn in this world call love you need to ask and listen most of all you need to think about your mate the outcome as for being hurt i bet he feels a lil-hurt..i would Class a broking heart when you spend time with him/her for a week yah i would you gave him a week of you and you shared moments that.only you and he can feel.love is a funny thing you can go to a bar and pick someone to get laid tell them to go home thank you..then they no it was a one night stand but to pull someone by the heart for a week..will end up in a broking heart...next time just take it slow theres other ways to see if he's yur mate try talking cuddleing,holding or just walks...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 26 (view)   ? Posted: 11/15/2005 10:26:40 AM there you go he hit it just perfect...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 29 (view)   Sad and broken Posted: 11/15/2005 10:20:26 AM ok now i'm stepping in love is felt by everyone we all feel the hurt the saddness age girl or guy we feel hurt...we can't point fingers at a guy or girl you have to blame ourself how may of you got GREEDY..now by saying that i mean have you ever seen your mate hurting and never took the time to deal with it i mean really deal with it go for a coffee sit down and say hey whats wrong..i'm here for you and i want you to no that i love you.not to many do that,if we just act like there just dust then they will blow away..you have to be more then there mates you have to be there best friend...you have to stop think and listen something i think a lot of need to do..its funny you know it took my ex to say goodbye for me to look back on the past and say your right i never was there as a friend..sure you say she ran off with this guy..but did you give her life..meaning did you let her breath they need to know they can be there for us as well... guys 99% act tuff but you know we all still hold mommys careing in us just show it to them.they want to hold you and cuddle you.don't be ashame to cry the key word is FRIENDS..never put them down be there for them tell them you love them tell them there pretty...don't be just a mate be best friends too ladys same for you its a guy he maybe acting as tuff as ever saying go get lost.but where all wimps inside we cry we feel pain and we need room to breath to..truth is think with your heart cause a heart never lies think love in the head then your in for a lot of pain your head tends to forget what the hell you where talking about . same guys you have to real to your mate like you want them to you a girl hurts stop and think about it before you say something that will hurt you later in life each pain you put him/her through adds up and adds up then the next thing you no your watching your door slam shut then your in your room thing badd names to them when in the past you could have been there more...i know y'll all say i was there i gave then everything did you give them what they needit or what your mind thought..think about it next time you have time think about the lil-fights the look on her/his face when you pushed them aside its just my point it takes to to love and 2 to hurt it we can't do the blame game on anyone next time your on a date...be real to your date tell her/him who you are and how you feel stop saying oh i like that too cause you have just started out your life with a lie..think about it...till then God_bless..later-dayz  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 16 (view)   Any luck with getting back with an ex? Posted: 11/15/2005 9:52:57 AM nope as to want to get back with her i'll say no..cold yes but if they can hurt you once i bet the sec times eazy...maybe its cause i learned what love really is maybe its something we all need to think about.before we drop or heart n soul into it...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 24 (view)   Fight or let go? Posted: 11/15/2005 9:49:16 AM i disagree sorry but if you fight..it will do more harm then anything.a girl needs room to breath if your all over them like a web it makes them jump away and look for that room just step back be there to wipe her tears..show her your heart not whats in your pants but in your heart..never think of what to say to her feel what should be said..the heart beats one way your mind tends to forget and makes up lies...beleive in your heart and thats where the caring comes from...  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 76 (view)   my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine.............. Posted: 11/15/2005 7:52:10 AM wow angel thats a hard one but i've seen my mom on crack i know the come down is hard its like they have a diff/ life in them you want to hold them yet when you step to them they blow up.my mom and i sat down i asked her to get help cause it hurt me to deal with it she never wanted help just thinking of the drug.so i had to do whats best and..showed her my love by walking away..now this is my mom.so it was hard each time she got high i talked to her on her LV so no anger is tossed out..i told her how i felt the pain it hurt me and we can go to a NA meeting together so she slowing went off the drug.but it takes steps it takes love and it takes...a hell of a lot of fighting just don't get in her face when shes coming down just let her deal with that on her own god-bless you and her..  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 20 (view)   Fight or let go? Posted: 11/15/2005 7:42:16 AM here let me help..as for fighting it won't help a heart feels love she may love you one way and him the other way its best to step aside let her heart deal with it..if you fight it might hurt you in the end..i found out the hard way its best to let her find what she wants and if she loves you then she's be in your arms soon if she don't then you haven't gave your 100% of love to her and the pains not to bad to deal with..just let her find her heart you keep your head up.....  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 12 (view)   Running Posted: 11/15/2005 7:37:59 AM that just happen to me it was like she said i need to get away i need time alone me thinking ok cause love will hold us together..it will be fine lmao the next thing she says is ummmm i'm seeing a DOC and he said i should stop calling till i know what i want it has nothen to do with you it has to do with me..it has to do with my pass.now she left me with my 4m old son.and took my heart sure i still cry for her but i have to keep my head up..right now my son's my life i hold him like a gun on my hip..a lot of girls say oh your a dad and walk away and you know what i don't care my hearts on him.he was given a world he never made.as a dad i have to be strong as for hurting i pray for it to go away she moved 3000miles away no emails no calls...but i don't have the time to judge her let god do that shes allways his mom....as for wanting her back i can't do that i'm scare of the pain again..so now its me and him and i'm sure i'll meet someone whos heart is real....  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 23 (view)   an***hole broke my heart Posted: 11/14/2005 5:37:59 PM its not just guys angel its girls to..take it from me one day there.with you and the next day its like wtf just happen true its like that with both.untill we all can think with r hearts then maybe we can shine a lil lite on life.my gf left me and my son when he was 4days old now he's 4m old and i wouldn't change a thing i'm happy to see his smile i'm happy to hold him.this way i know in time he will learn that even if your hurting you still keep ur head up! as for her she moved 3000miles away she loses.i win theres pain in love yet theres hope till you fine the hope the pains there......as for my son god gave me heaven and i'm just happy to share each day with him..just keep ur head up..look at yourself smile cause your heart felt the pain now you know what that feels like you can grow with it and learn.you take care and remember theres always a brighter day..  lilnine Joined: 11/12/2005 Msg: 12 (view)   she broke my heart. Posted: 11/13/2005 6:25:19 PM it happens been there been hurt time i thought would heal the pain but each day i look at my son and see the tears in his eyes i feel the pain.she says i'm just going away to fine myself.me thinking that love will keep us strong i helped her on the bus 3000miles away she says he has some things in her pass that made her go nuts now walking ont on me and her son my thoughts of what just happen..i've been there to wipe her tears away did the cooking and clean the house yet i ask is it me no she said its her.but i can't call you no more.sure i let tears go cause without her i can't think right the days lonely the nights long and my son oh he hurts i had to put a fake smile on.so each tear that rolls down his cheek i wipe it away.when my wife was on the net she would talk to her aunt and my son said dad why would her aunt say i hope i'm not being greedy for wanting you here.now thoughts run past my mine was this a set up.   Show ALL Forums