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shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Need a PR! Profile Review Posted: 3/7/2009 8:27:50 PM
It looks good to me. Just about the right length and it shows your personality. A couple recommendations: More pics You mention you are caring twice. I'd think about either using a thesaurus or getting rid of one of 'em. Good luck

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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A Little Help From My friends Posted: 3/5/2009 9:09:51 PM
I think all-in-all it flows pretty well. However, your intro sounds more like a conclusion. You might want to move that to the bottom and just jump in with that next paragraph. Good Luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile Review/Suggestions? Posted: 2/28/2009 11:36:18 AM
Much better dude. Any by the way...love the halloween pic lol.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile review, please? :) Posted: 2/27/2009 10:25:22 PM
I haven't seen many profiles that do it like yours...Although it is what the site recommends when writing your profile :-/

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Please review my profile Posted: 2/27/2009 10:14:27 PM
It looks good to me :) You relay personality well and I can't find anything to criticize. Good Luck

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile Review/Suggestions? Posted: 2/27/2009 9:17:26 PM
Its not that its too much... just very difficult to read when there are no breaks. It feels like I am in a race to finish reading and getting lost along the way.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile Review/Suggestions? Posted: 2/27/2009 9:11:15 PM
Sigh, I am probably acting like all the women who try to read your profile, but I am not going to even attempt to read it until it is split out into paragraphs. I'll check back in a little while.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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I must be doing something wrong Posted: 2/27/2009 9:08:50 PM
anglerhunter: If you are looking for a profile review, please open your own thread. If you are looking for relationship advice, there is a forum for that too.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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I must be doing something wrong Posted: 2/27/2009 8:54:05 PM
Maybe the problem is you are too young-at-heart :P The younger probably found you by searching for common interests. Since you are looking for friends, I would probably message you too seeing as you sound like an adventure seeker and would be fun to talk to. The guys that are finding you without common interests probably just saw a pretty picture. Unfortunately, I think you will have to keep weeding out those guys yourself. Good Luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile review, please? :) Posted: 2/27/2009 8:44:11 PM
As Jim Carrey in Dumb And Dumber would say "I like it a lot!"...dangit its not the same unless you hear it

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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I would appreciate some constructive criticism on my profile. Posted: 2/27/2009 8:31:00 PM
WoHoo!!! Paragraphs :) Ok, as the above poster said, more pics... I'd say the profile length is just about right. You seem like a funloving guy. Whether it is too serious depends on who you are. It is kind of funny, but if you are an overly goofy guy (like me) you may want to show off more personality.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile review, please? :) Posted: 2/27/2009 8:22:15 PM
I like your profile a lot. You seem like you would be a fun person to be with. If I lived in the UK, I would message you. Good Luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Please review!!! Posted: 2/27/2009 8:10:44 PM
Wow tempting tallulah, Maybe the Op should hire you to write his profile. If you can write that on the fly, just think what a 2 hour contract could do.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile help Posted: 2/27/2009 8:02:15 PM
First impressions of your profile tell me that you don't have much time for friends. You may put something like "I am an entrepeneur with my own business", but I wouldn't talk about working so much. Notice that 2 sentences out of your 3 sentence profile is about work. What makes you different from others? What makes you a fun person to hang out with?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Please review!!! Posted: 2/27/2009 7:48:28 PM
I would assume that those looking for an intimate encounter would want to see a picture?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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As Johnny 5 said : Input, I need input Posted: 2/27/2009 7:38:58 PM
Your profile seems good to me. It really gets your personality out there. My one recommendation if you aren't getting many replies is to remove some of your restrictions on who can contact you. Good Luck

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile Review Please! Posted: 2/27/2009 7:34:46 PM
I don't know where to start. You have so much negativity in your profile. Let's see... Don't talk about all of your missed opportunities with guys. Next, Get rid of all of the stuff talking about the bad guys you've met here. That should cut your profile in half... So now add some more in depth things about what makes you different from everyone else. Also, get rid of your #3 and #4 pics and get a clear, recent one of you smiling.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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I would appreciate some constructive criticism on my profile. Posted: 2/27/2009 5:45:44 PM
No offense, man...but I am not even going to attempt to read that until you create some paragraphs.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Profile review please and thanks.. Posted: 2/27/2009 5:43:34 PM
Alright bro, First of all, don't say you are shy. If you ask women, I think at least 80% would say that is a turnoff (unless you are looking for a shy girl?). Also get rid of the sentence: "Of course I don't spend all my time at home." It sounds like you are defending yourself before the question has even been asked. You get the same point across in your next sentence about getting outside as much as possible. Good Luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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I seem to be a perv magnet... any pointers? Posted: 2/27/2009 5:29:41 PM
I've always wondered what "Hang Out" actually means on here. For me it has a connotation of a politically correct term for "Friends with Benefits". Maybe these guys that are messaging you have a different definition of hanging out and obviously aren't reading your profile for what you really want. If you are really looking to "expand [your] bubble of friends", why don't you change what you are looking for to Friends?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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A Little Help Please Posted: 2/20/2009 5:54:43 PM
^^ Agreed ^^ Put more about what you do want and less about what you don't.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Long time Reviewer, First time Reviewee Posted: 2/20/2009 10:39:17 AM
Thanks everyone, The one bowling pic is actually a recent one, not from when I was on the A&M team. :) And by the way, that is my ninja pose!

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Do most ppl just not read it?... Posted: 2/19/2009 10:25:59 PM
I must admit, I glanced at your profile and if it weren't for the fact that I was attempting to review it, I would have moved on to the next profile. You have a good sense of humor and a lot going for you, but your profile is, as you said, too long. You don't have to write your life story to attract people to you. Just get your personality out there and then you can pour your heart out when a good guy messages you. Good Luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Long time Reviewer, First time Reviewee Posted: 2/19/2009 9:59:37 PM
Hey everyone, I love helping people with their profiles, but now its me who needs help. In an attempt to be unique, I have laid out my profile like no others I have seen. Please let me know what you think. Thanks, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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review me- Please Posted: 2/19/2009 9:05:11 PM
I would recommend removing most of that third paragraph. It seems negative and doubtful for the future. This gives me the first impression that you come with a lot of baggage saying things like "someone who accepts me for me, faults and all, takes me at my best and my worst". You could give off the same message in a better context with something like "Nobody should ever pretend to be someone they are not". Good luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Suggestions Please Posted: 2/17/2009 8:03:01 PM
I agree with msg #3. Don't hide who you are. A man will eventually see your adventurous side. Get it out of the way in the beginning and you can weed out those relationships that wouldn't work anyway. I would venture to say that rather than toning it down, emphasize your adventurous nature even more. It should also help to spruce up your headline as mentioned earlier.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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How do you stay motivated to keep up the search? Posted: 2/7/2009 8:15:34 PM
OP: You obviously need to learn to multitask! I can be on POF while a reading a book, watching an old movie and drinking a glass of wine. :)

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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the list on your profile Posted: 2/7/2009 7:58:15 PM
Why would you want to meet a guy who would not like you for you? Each person has preferences, however stupid they may be. For me, I don't like smoking. But if someone is so shallow as to not like your blue eyes, then why do you want to chase after him anyway?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 2/4/2009 10:34:38 PM
I have never cheated and never will. If you are weak-minded enough to cheat then you have serious moral problems and a lack of self respect. Make an executive decision and break it off before messing with someone else.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Cheating vs. Abandonment Posted: 2/3/2009 5:31:43 PM
If he is on the computer instead of doing chores, it isn't going to change. If he is on the computer instead of going out with you, it isn't going to change. He is filling in the void that you can't, unless you are willing to sit there and let him press YOUR buttons. It is a form of abandonment, but not necessarily intentional. You'll either have to accept it or find a new man.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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What is the transition from exclusiveness to a couple? Posted: 1/26/2009 9:42:12 PM
I have dated my fair share, however I am kind of new to relationships. The last several relationships that I have attempted, it has seemed that I tried to jump in and offer up too much too soon. For example, I had the day off so I offered to take my girlfriend's car to the shop after only being exclusive for a week. Or, I wouldn't have minded going on a long 1-on-1 trip with my girlfriend after only being exclusive for a month. Somehow, I think gestures like this have been misconstrued as clinginess. When does exclusiveness mutate into being a couple where these things are normal?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship? Posted: 1/25/2009 4:58:38 PM
It was my only relationship in which I could not establish trust (not due to anything she did)

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Am I reading too much into her texts? Posted: 1/25/2009 12:55:56 PM
you are talking about actually going to the game, yes? Haha, no just a party. If she turned down actually going to the game then I would guarantee there was something wrong.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Am I reading too much into her texts? Posted: 1/25/2009 12:43:52 PM
Thanks everyone for the replies. Capitano_Blaugh: Believe it or not, this girl is actually very into sports, as am I. I love the fact that she is independent and wants her freedom. However, if there is something you both love doing (watching football) I would think a couple would be excited to do the activity together. Sefra: I have thought about what you said and you may be right. Either she is not that into the relationship or at the very least we are not on the same page. As for all the comments on why I text instead of call... Texting is not my preferred form of communication. I usually only text when I don't have time for a long conversation. This particular text was while I was at work and didn't know if she was on her lunch break. I realize now that I should have just asked later in person.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Am I reading too much into her texts? Posted: 1/23/2009 5:52:33 PM
My girlfriend and I do a lot of texting between us. However, the way she words some things leads us to misunderstandings and hence sometimes arguments. For example: I had mentioned plans about the Super Bowl last week and asked today if she still wanted to go. her: "I can't but you can go" me: "Why not" her: "I am going to a party at ___" ... I have never been the type to assume I was invited somewhere unless explicitly told. Turns out that I was invited and this was just her way of offering alternate plans. However, from my point of view, her answer meant she had made her own plans and I was on my own. I would have rather had her say something like: "I'd rather go to a party at ___ Do you want to come?" Am I reading too much into her texts? Did anyone have similar communication issues? How did you overcome them? Stop texting?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 1/19/2009 6:48:15 PM
I recently met a great girl (not on POF) and am now only here for the forums. I like to contribute here as much as I can, but I also learn quite a bit to apply to my new relationship. As long as you make it clear in your profile that you are no longer here for dating, I think it is fine. However, if you leave the "available" sign up while on here then I think that should raise some flags.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Can anyone help? Posted: 1/15/2009 8:45:51 PM
Maybe she's afraid of losing you as a good friend. Doesn't want to be totally committed yet. Either you live with it or move on, but don't ruin your friendship. You never know, you may realize later that you were meant to be. Guy #1 can handle waiting while a girl does her own thing. Guy #2: would be in purgatory while the girl keeps him on a leash until she figures out what she wants. If you are guy #1, be my guest and wait for something that may never come. If you are guy #2, it will be difficult but move on. I don't mean to be so pessimistic, but I went through a similar situation. I tried to be guy #1, but I was actually guy #2 (which I finally realized). If you know yourself, you should be able to decide how to react.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Can anyone help? Posted: 1/15/2009 8:15:26 PM
Thank you for the advice but like anything I can do in the mean time? I mean should I not talk to her anymore or not hang out with her I just don't know. Ok dude, you tell her every few months how you feel. She tells you the same thing every time. Some people can handle being shipped off into the friend zone. In your case, I think the healthiest thing is to ween yourself off of her. Two things can happen from here: You now have opportunities to meet other people and stop dwelling on this girl or She realizes what she has lost and realizes she wants you.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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What they Hey, please peruse.. Posted: 1/4/2009 12:37:26 PM
It's almost like they are not reading the profile.. Unfortunately, the guys who only see the pics and don't read profiles are always going to be there. You will still have to be the one to weed them out. Good luck.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Know I'm asking for trouble but here goes Posted: 1/2/2009 7:48:49 PM
Your profile looks pretty good to me. You show a lot of personality. Other than the pictures you already mentioned, I would recommend adding several serious sentences detailing what you want from whomever it is you are looking for. Best of Luck, Shawn

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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hhhhhhhheeeeeeeeelllllllllloooooooo Posted: 1/2/2009 7:41:24 PM
If you are looking for more emails, you should add interests. These allow people to search for things they have in common with you. Also, you need a longer description. What would you like to do with a new friend? What makes you different from every other girl on this site? Why would I want to hang out with you?

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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your thoughts please :-) Posted: 1/2/2009 7:36:21 PM
You mention a decent amount about yourself and what you like to do, but what do you want from a guy? If a guy fits your description, he is much more likely to email you. Good Luck.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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First relationship. advice for first timers. Posted: 12/20/2008 9:00:21 PM
Cherish her, but don't spoil her too much. Only give as much as you think she is willing to give in return. Women love to be loved... but dispise being doted over. You know she has experience, so I am assuming she knows of your lack thereof. She has accepted you for what you are so far. Take advantage of this and keep being yourself. Everything else should fall into place.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Looking to go under the 'scope and have my profile reviewed please:) Posted: 12/20/2008 12:53:19 PM
Usually people reply here with negative feedback. So that's probably why nobody has responded yet. It looks good to me (other than a misspelled "each" in the First Date section). Good luck.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Asking For A Profile Review Posted: 12/16/2008 6:37:11 AM
OP: One suggestion that I would make is to possibly reword the part about being fussy and neat. My second suggestion would be to add a few more pictures. mighthire: Please open your own thread. People will be glad to review your profile.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Judge Me Posted: 12/16/2008 6:27:24 AM
No need for a pre-amble if you don't have anything to follow it up with anyway. The harsh truth... You come across as very boring for an activity partner because you have nothing written about yourself.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Age difference too much? Posted: 12/15/2008 9:41:46 PM
I have dated women 10 years older than me and can say that in general, I don't have much in common with them. However, if you both are into each other, then more power to you and Good Luck.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Am I being led on? Posted: 12/15/2008 9:14:40 PM
For those of you who asked, she is in her mid 20s, as am I. jus dave: I am to the point where I probably would confront the guy if I ever met him. Levi501s: Thank you for the encouraging words rather than the bashing of either side. She has not been in many relationships and I definitely agree that she probably doesn't know what she wants. Bikeman: Since she has been with the guy, I have never initiated a conversation. However, I am still polite and reply to her texts (which are almost daily). She has been the one making all the effort. Come Wednesday, I will confront her. Lying is one thing I can't tolerate.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Am I being led on? Posted: 12/15/2008 8:39:45 PM
We mutually decided to be friends. uhm um.. "We mutually decided TO BE FRIENDS" Perhaps she thought you meant it???? Friends actually That was the plan, but she has made it clear that she still has feelings for me. If she hadn't, I would have no problem moving on.

shawnmj

Joined: 11/8/2008

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Am I being led on? Posted: 12/15/2008 8:14:53 PM
cdn-iceman: Like I said, I know not to cross the lines and won't. I'm gonna skip around a little here. (2) I like her, but I have not limited myself just to her. I have been looking elsewhere. (3,4) I have no intent on "stealing her" from the other guy. (5) I have realized that the friend idea was horrible. Your comments are not the prettiest, but they are what I needed to hear. Thanks.

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