I would and do say "Hi, how are you?". I wait for a reply before I continue!! SAME thing I propose for online!!

Did anyone notice my tongue in my cheek? One would, IRL.

some, while interesting, give you the impression and you should not invest grey matter for a special mail until you have some indication that it is worth the time spent (probability of reply, see "cost/benefit analysis").

PLUS: Investing too much time to over-analyse the profile of a woman who has not yet expressed an interest in you could theoretically be considered a form of "stalking"

A hooters airline... now THAT would be a cash cow.

sometimes a little white lie is needed, im sure u have told one or two in ur life as well!!

^^^ Sooooo, you are saying, by a woman's late 50's she's all washed up????

~Rick:

I thought I did share the chowder recipe!

Just a simple recipe with corn, red onions and some frozen shrimp and fresh garden herbs (rosemary and catnip). I used a roux base with chicken bouillon and milk so it was rich and creamy.

I'm definetely going to try that corn and shrimp chowder from ~Rick above though.

Actually that isn't true. It may be for men, but take my word for it, when you are a woman, no matter how young you look, you do get treated different as you age. Men are allowed to age, women on a whole are not.

Please DON'T lie about your age, folks. It doesn't matter how young you look or feel, or how young you wish you were, or what your "emotional age" is of any of that other crap. You have been on the planet a certain number of years--that's the number you type in that little field. It's a piece of information--it's not negotiable.

Yeah, okay, I GET the stuff about "age is just a number". But maybe to some people (i.e. anyone who specifies age limits in their profile), it's an important number--and if you don't want to be perceived as being deceptive, then just put the damnable correct number of years in the box. You don't get to decide for someone else whether they should give you a shot--that's their call, and if there is an age criterion, HONOR it.

If you feel you're really "younger" or "older" than your actual number of years, write a nice email explaining that to the person you're interested in. Don't put up a fake number you pulled out of your bum. Maybe they'll go for it. If they don't, it's their right to choose--based on reliable information.

Oh and BTW my profile says i'm 45 but i'm actually 51 yrs old...alot of people cut off thier search at 45 and i did'nt want left out.

As you might have guessed, I had corn on the cob last night and had leftovers. The Corn and Shrimp Chowder struck a chord with me so I whipped up some for dinner tonight. Just a simple recipe with corn, red onions and some frozen shrimp and fresh garden herbs (rosemary and catnip). I used a roux base with chicken bouillon and milk so it was rich and creamy.

For example, if a person is married and a member here the majority of people immediately assume they are here looking for a relationship ( typically of a sexual nature) when some are looking clearly for friendship. Yes, there are exceptions to every rule, but I have lot's of married friends who I talk to, entertain, and spend time with in social situations, so why is it taken so negatively here on POF?

To really love a woman

you wont find a good guy off of here sorry to break it to you hun! a good guy doesnt spend his time on a internet dating website he's in the real world. believe me would a nice guy with an awesome paying job waste his time on here? i think not the only type of guys you'd ever meet on here are the ones with baggage or the players. my grandma told me this and im starting to believe her cuz i havent met on decent man off of here and ive been on here for a while.

The problem with online dating is that it's like writing a resume for a job. You get someone who can exaggerate their abilities and qualifications just enough to get the job. Unfortunately they can't keep it up and they quit or get fired and leave a bad impression wherever they go.

The ones that were passed up for the job were probably a perfect fit but they didn't make it through the first screening because their ability to impress on paper was not as high as the ones who are so good at that glib and oily art (King Lear... nyuk nyuk)

The reason no one takes you seriously when you say that stuff is because all the jacka$$es say the same thing, and so we don't know who to take seriously anymore. It's not fair to truly nice guys, but it's safer not to believe anything anyone says, till you meet them and find out for yourself.

I think most men (not all) are pretty much cowards. They will say or do whatever they have to do to end a relationship without any real confrontation. I love you but I'm letting you go. I just think you deserve better. These are phrases that I think every experienced dating woman has heard.

i told her if she loves me and wants to be with me to get rid of it.she knows whats happening with my parents and my feelings toward them.

as if it aint bad enough to watch what my parents are going through now she wants me to be with her and have a constant reminder of my parents even when im not around them?

ok now you know why i cant stand them.they are a major turn off to me.i see a beautiful girl walkin down the street and get excited and then she turns around and i see that damn tattoo the excitement is over in 1.5 miliseconds.i wont touch a girl with a tattoo for the obvious reason stated above.i wont shake my dads hand or any other man that i know has a tattoo.i wont hug or kiss my mother,wont hug my sister or shake my brothers hand.i wont physically touch anybody that has one.and if i do i dont know they have it and when i find out they do i wont touch them.

Well, you know, I think it would be unrealistic for a person to expect to be able to take the place of someone's spouce, who is diseased.

In the word of some blonde idiot heiress - "that's HOT".

I always just pull out my cell and dial it when she gives it to me . I say one sec sorry I have to make a call !! You'd be surprized how many time it's a pizza joint so I order a large with everything!

An example my grown daughter gave was when she was out with her bf and a good friend of his, the friend liked a girl that worked at where they stopped at. He approached her, she said she was at work and busy right then to not talk. He persisted to know her name and if she was interested, she did not say much other than to say she would be at work the next day when he asked. He showed up the VERY next day there, she told him then she had a bf. I feel he overdid it with that one. Show some interest to call within 48 hours is good.

We can either keep using it as fast and irresponsibly as we can until we're suddenly faced with a crisis we're unprepared for, or we can let gradually increasing prices help motivate us to use less and accelerate development of alternate transportation options.